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About me
I'm a young woman who started identifying as transgender online as a teenager because I hated my body and felt deep unhappiness. I took testosterone for a couple of years, believing it was the solution, but it didn't fix my underlying depression and trauma. I now realize my distress was from body dysmorphia and low self-esteem, not from being the wrong sex. I've stopped hormones and am now working to accept my female body, though I worry about permanent effects like infertility. It's a daily struggle, but therapy focused on my real issues feels more honest and healing.
My detransition story
My journey with gender has been long and complicated, and it’s taken me a long time to untangle everything. Looking back, I think a lot of my desire to transition came from a place of deep unhappiness and confusion that I mistakenly labeled as gender dysphoria.
I remember going through puberty and hating the changes in my body, especially developing breasts. I felt like my body was betraying me, and I couldn't appreciate myself as a decent-looking girl. At the time, I didn't realize that it's extremely common to dislike your body during puberty without being transgender. I also had a lot of depression and low self-esteem, and I think I latched onto the idea of being transgender as an explanation for all my pain. It felt like an escape from being me.
I was influenced a lot by what I saw online and by friends who were also exploring gender identities. It felt like the only way to be accepted and to finally feel comfortable. When I started presenting differently and using new pronouns, there was a initial rush of relief. People treated me differently, and it felt like I had solved the problem. But that feeling didn't last. Even when people used the right pronouns, the core feelings of emptiness and self-hatred were still there. I remember someone asking me how I felt when I let being misgendered slide when I wore makeup, and it made me realize that a part of me was always conflicted. It wasn't as clear-cut as I thought.
I did take hormones for a period of time. I can't say I have serious health complications from it, but I do worry about the long-term effects and I believe I am now infertile, which is a difficult reality to face. I never had any surgeries.
The turning point for me was when I started to really look at the other issues in my life. I had a lot of trauma and anxiety that I had never properly addressed. I thought transitioning would fix my mental health, but it was like putting a bandage on a deep wound. The problems were still bleeding through. I also started to understand that some of my feelings might have been related to internalized homophobia, a reluctance to accept myself as a woman who might be attracted to women.
I definitely have regrets about transitioning. I regret that I was so quick to medicalize my distress when I was young and vulnerable. I wish someone had encouraged me to explore my depression and self-esteem issues first. I feel like I lost years of my life chasing a solution that wasn't right for me. I now see that my discomfort was more about body dysmorphia and a general unhappiness with who I was, not with my sex itself.
Now, I am detransitioning. I am trying to accept my female body and find peace with being a woman. It’s a daily struggle, but it feels more honest. I’ve benefited from therapy that isn't solely focused on affirming a transgender identity, but instead helps me understand the root causes of my pain. I also lost a friend to suicide in 2021, and that pain made me realize that giving up isn't the answer. My own pain is real, but so is the pain I would cause others. I have to keep going and keep healing.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on what I remember:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13-14 | Started hating my body during puberty, especially breast development. Felt deep depression and low self-esteem. |
| 15 | First started identifying as non-binary/transgender online and with friends. Began social transition. |
| 17 | Started taking testosterone hormones. |
| 19 | Stopped taking testosterone. Began to realize my problems were deeper than gender. |
| 20 | Started detransitioning socially. Began non-affirming therapy to address trauma and depression. |
| 21 | (Present) Working on accepting myself as a female and dealing with the permanent effects of my transition, like infertility. |
Top Comments by /u/Snoo53448:
I’m sorry you’ve had to go through this, but I’m glad you’re talking about how you feel and what you’ve been through. This isn’t your fault, you were a child and thought you were doing the right thing. Do you still talk to your parents? You are a person who matters, no matter what. Killing yourself will only push the pain to others, even if you don’t believe it will. In 2021 my friend killed herself, and I can tell you the pain passed on to me and others. If you’re in the states please call 988, please
I’m sorry, you’ve had to go through all this, and I’m sorry you lost support of the people who you thought would support you, but you got this and will make it though, and I’m sure everyone here would be glad to lend an ear. It’s understandable that you’d want to hate that you’re Iranian, but I’m glad you realize you are you and not those stereotypes. Besides just listening, Is there anyway to help?
Do you have a plan to commit suicide?
It’s completely understandable to feel the way you do, and that you’re not crazy, know people do care about you. You’ve gone through quite a lot and you’ve made it this far. You may feel like you’re weak or not worthy of love, but you aren’t weak, and you’ll find someone who loves you for you. There will be people who judge you, but you have this community to listen to you, talk with you, and treat you as you would want to be treated. You’re a strong person to make it this far and to be able to do an interview, doesn’t matter if you deleted it, you did it and told you’re story, that’s a brave thing to do.
Talk to the pharmacist about plan b, and what do you mean by non hormonal birth control pills, all oral birth control is based on hormones? I’d advice talking to your PCP about oral birth control, and I’d advice yoh to wear condom not only for pregnancy prevention but also Sti/std prevention.
I’m glad you’ve given the question some thought, it’s not always an easy question. Do you associate how they look with confidence? I saw you mentioned you’re a decent looking girl in your post, but don’t know why you cant appreciate it, its extremely common to dislike your body when you’re going through puberty without being transgender. How did you feel when you let misgendering slide when you put on make up?