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About me
I was a masculine girl who never fit in and thought transitioning would fix everything. I lived as a man for four years after taking testosterone and having top surgery, but it was a form of escapism from my own body. I finally realized it was a delusion and decided to stop for my mental and physical health. I’m now accepting myself as a gay woman, even with the permanent changes like my deeper voice. My sense of belonging finally comes from within, not from how others see me.
My detransition story
My whole journey started with me being a masculine girl. I never felt like other girls; I had no maternal instinct, didn't care for makeup or pretty dresses. I was what you'd call a chapstick lesbian, though I always hated that word. Looking back, I think I had a lot of internalized homophobia and a sense that my identity was something I could just change. I was the perfect candidate to transition.
I started identifying as non-binary first, and that quickly escalated to me believing I was a trans man. I think a lot of my drive came from a place of not wanting to be sexualized. I hated my breasts and the idea of being seen as a "sexy woman." I wanted to get rid of anything that made me seem attractive in that way, and transitioning definitely worked. But the cost was enormous.
I was on testosterone for about four years. I took a relatively low dose, weekly injections of .3 cypionate. It gave me a deeper voice and facial hair, and I got top surgery to remove my breasts. I never wanted bottom surgery. During that time, I fully believed I was a man, but there was always this nagging feeling in the back of my mind, a subconscious bug telling me this wasn't right. I think I also have some form of OCD with obsessive thoughts, and the belief I was born in the wrong body became one of those ingrained, delusional thoughts that was incredibly hard to shake.
I also struggled with depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem. I had an eating disorder at one point, pushing myself too far with diet and exercise until I looked sickly. A huge part of my transition was escapism—trying to run away from being a woman and from my own nature.
About a month ago, I finally accepted that me being a man was a delusion, not based in reality. I decided to detransition. My main reasons were health-related: mental, physical, and emotional. I just don't want to deny my own nature anymore. Since stopping testosterone, my period came back about six weeks later. My body is changing again, and my voice is lower, which I've actually come to think sounds pretty cool in its own way.
My sense of belonging has to come from within, not from how society sees me. I’ve realized that the lesbian community is actually awesome, and I feel more at home there than I ever did pretending to be a man. I'm just a gay woman, and that's okay.
I have a lot of regrets about transitioning. I regret the permanent changes, like my voice and being infertile. I regret the time I lost. But I don't regret the journey because it led me back to myself. I benefited immensely from a therapist who never bullshitted me and helped me see reality. I also changed my diet and started running, which helped my mental state a lot.
I now see that parts of the trans movement feel like a cult, especially the way language is controlled. You have to be so careful about what you say so you're not labeled a bigot. It's wild that in some circles, it's scarier to admit you're not trans than to come out as trans. Breaking free from that mindset was like having a facade shattered, and I just started talking normally again, accepting reality for what it is.
I’m still navigating the world looking androgynous, with a deep voice and no breasts. Using the women's restroom can be awkward—one time I spoke and the whole room went quiet—but I know who I am. I'm a female, and the law is on my side.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 19 | Started identifying as non-binary, began social transition. |
| 20 | Started testosterone hormone therapy (.3 cyp weekly injections). |
| 21 | Had top surgery to remove breasts. |
| 24 (4 years on T) | Stopped testosterone and began detransitioning. |
| 24 | Menstrual cycle returned approximately 6 weeks after stopping T. |
Top Comments by /u/Soft-Impression7770:
I love yall but the drama here is too much. All this says is that it’s been delayed. If she needs to leave the country she can have her passport back and it will just say M. They’ll just see M on the passport she can still use it. There’s no genocide or whatever. They’re just halting things, and waiting for guidance, it’s a little change in the system, it takes time. I understand the fear and total uncertainty. I have it, too and the fear coming from the trans community is incredibly strong rn. But like just have some patience. I’m pretty sure the Trump administration doesn’t want to kill trans people or detransitioners, they’ve never actually said anything like that. So like we’re good so far. It’s just part of the process.
I get paranoid like this too, and the language people use is now different, e.g. assigned at birth, identifies as XYZ. Regular people who are trying to be kind and gentle aren’t even aware that their words are reinforcing the harm it’s doing. When I came into this sub my facade was shattered and I started talking normally again, it was all in a moment, I wasn’t ‘questioning my gender.’ I was accepting reality. And I see those kinds of questioning posts and I’m like yeah, they’re still in it. It’s totally a cult, cults tweak with language like that. Idk if that makes sense but this stuff keeps me awake at night 😭
I feel a lot for you. You’re a strong motherfucker ok, show the world your strength by putting one foot in front of the other every single day. Your voice is extremely important and so are you. You can help a lot of people by using it and being honest about your experience.
I like what you said I’m just poking holes. How can you give consent to be sexualized/hypersexualized? It will just happen. I think it’s whether or not it is internalized. I internalized it. I think a big reason I transitioned was that reason right there, I really tried to get rid of anything that made me sexy, it definitely worked. But at what cost?
I just detransitioned like a month ago and I worry this exact thing you’re describing will happen to me down the line. Like right now I’ve accepted that me being a man was a delusion not based in reality. I have never been diagnosed but I believe I have some form of OCD in obsessive thoughts. Not trying to be offensive I realize delusion is an iffy word but the belief that we were born in the wrong body is just that a belief not based in reality and when you truly believe it for so long those neural pathways are so ingrained it can be hard to shake.
Hey. I think there are a lot of people that will understand and accept you, even applaud your bravery, but you’re right in that you gotta have a little courage to say what you really think. But it will pay off. It is wild to think that, parts of society have come to a place where people are afraid to admit they’re not actually trans than to come out as trans. And if you lose any friends by speaking your truth, well, that’s their problem. Growing up is all about finding your people, and when you start to speak your truth, those people will naturally gravitate to you. Good luck 🤞🏻
Trust, women are actually pretty cool. I have the same fear but I’ve just been using the women’s restroom. I look androgynous, shaved facial hair, and no boobs for that matter. Deep voice. 5’2”. One time I used the women’s and they asked me something, I responded not even thinking about my voice, and the restroom just got quiet lol. That’s the most awkward moment that’s happened so far. If anyone ever questions me, which hasn’t happened so far, I will say, oh I’m a female. They’ll probably be apologetic, if they push, I’m happy to escalate it. The law is on my side. I know who I am and ya girl pees a lot so. It ain’t no thing. Also I live in America so in other countries it might be different situation.
I can relate. I was a masculine chick in that, I thought I had no maternal instinct, didn’t care much for makeup or pretty dresses. Masc chapstick lesbian (hated that word) with a sprinkle of internalized homophobia and a mutable identity. I was the perfect candidate to transition. 4 years later I’m going full detrans. Health reasons, mental and physical and emotional. I do not want to deny my own nature anymore. Your sense of belonging comes from within. Even if society sees you as a man, deep down, it sounds like you know that is not the case and your subconscious is bugging you about it. You’re stronger than you think, and you’re not alone 🌼
I feel that. I also avoid the word lesbian I don’t know why. I just say gay. But lesbians are fucking awesome dude. Like the lesbian community is the absolute best imo. We’re on another plane of existence. As for what you think you are, just follow who you fall in love with and what your body tells you. If you’re around gay girls and it becomes a waterfall down there well then I got news for you! At least that’s how it is for me 😭
Yes about 8 weeks give or take a few days! I assume it’s also because I’ve totally changed my diet and exercise regimen. I run 2 miles almost every day (when before it was just 10 mins on the stair stepper and some soft lifting 3-4x a week). and I eat just 2 meals and avoid carbs or anything too sugary unless it’s before or after exercise. At one point I pushed it too far and just wasn’t eating and looked sickly. I don’t want to give anyone false hope like just hormones magically did all of that. It was also just truly a mindset shift and having a therapist that never bullshits me. My period came back about 6 weeks in also I was on a relatively low dose T (.3 cyp injections weekly).