I got banned after 5 years of participating in /r/AskReddit for claiming that some facts are considered racist, like statistical truths. I stated one of these facts and then I got banned.

It sucks. Lately I've seriously considered leaving Reddit for good. It didn't used to be like this. Normally no subreddit, almost, would ban people who have different opinions or claim that I am a racist because I cite facts that are about race. But these times are scary, which is sad considering how much I love Reddit.

Been on this sub for months. I only see openness to people who wants to transition. Every comment I read is this.

But many here think people should be adult to make this kind of permanent decision, and that is healthy. People don’t know what they wanna do as their job when they’re 22, much less a permanent hormone treatment and maybe surgeries when they’re 12.

That isn’t bigotry. We don’t let people do any kind of surgery they don’t need for medical reasons under the age of 18, and even 18 is pushing it.

No trans person says, when transitioning at 26, ”I wish I could have done it sooner”. At least I haven’t ever talked to such a person.

One has to grow to make such a decision.

Furthermore: 80% that struggle with gender dysphoria at age 12 just identify as ”gay” a couple of years later. If we let 12 year olds make this decision it probably means 80% would regret it. And most of them can’t ever have kids if they so choose.

Also, there is a huge side effect shadowing from many affirming therapists out there.

It really is sad how much you can misinterpret this tweet or its title. A lot of experience goes into a trans person. It isn’t just gender dysphoria. There is a lot more to it.

I want to make my point very simple. It’s about someone’s perception of a person, and their inner struggles surfacing, that seem to be the reason for this ”grieving”. It had nothing to do with love. It’s a sexless kind of attraction.

Example: people feel the same way when losing people to alcohol addiction, drug use, political alignment changes, interests or personality changes. It isn’t a lack of love, per se, it’s a perception change from how the model of a person is inside someone elses head, and it clashing with how that person is inside their own head (and them letting it come to the surface).

Love is something different. Love is codependence. Love is something that’s built. It isn’t unconditional except from maybe parents or children to parents.

But your mother feeling grief over the fact that she felt like she never even kind of knew you, that’s not lack of love. That’s a feeling inside her that she couldn’t trust her own brain. She couldn’t trust her eyes and not her gut. Furthermore it spills into she loving you, and loving the idea of you. She probably still loves you. But you’re a different person to someone who defined you by characteristics that you once had.

You love an infant and a 3 year old in different ways, too. And 6 year olds, 15, 25, 70. It’s still, anatomically, the same person, but they’ve changed. And your perception has changed. When you ”sprung” a sudden change instead of this gradual change that maturing is, it can shock someone. It doesn’t mean they don’t love you. But if someone went to bed as a 5 year old and woke up as a 25 year old I am sure that a parent would have a kind of similar experience. They would grieve that person. But it doesn’t mean there’s no love there. There’s a base love, but love still has to be built upon.

It might seem like I blame or judge in some of my phrasing. I assure you I don’t. I’m only trying to describe the way I think and explain this kind of drastic personality change (which it kind of is) not having to do with unconditional love. Love has nothing to do with the grieving, and at the same time the grieving is because of that love.

I hope I have made my thoughts clear. And I am well aware that I may be wrong in any of this, so don’t hesitate to write if you disagree

view my body as what it was, just a body and not some inherently sexual object.

Good for you to realize this!

It makes me so upset since most trans-issues (i think) are caused by outright hating their bodies and looking for a cheap easy escape. They're not trans.

Regular body dysmorphia, really. This is hugely overrepresented in women, too, especially in younger girls.

I’ve been an advocacy for trans rights most of my life, and I’m almost 30 now.

It’s different now than it was ~15 years ago. Many real trans people really are giving that same witness testimony.

It’s not the trans community in these printscreens. It’s the toxic and extreme part of the identity left that claim to be a part of the trans community.

Trust me, these aren’t trans activists or even trans people. They are NOT representative of that group.

This video can explain a lot of it and is also how I found out about this sub. https://youtu.be/f8GtmWxKbO8

I think it’s medias fault too, but not entirely, some blame is to be put on some extreme type of gender theorists. They wanted to bring the gender roles we spent years getting rid off. We went from being indivualistic to being our bilogical identity, so now many tomboys think they’re really a boy, but it’s totally OK to be a girl and not liking ”girlish” things. Just like it’s OK to be a guy and liking dolls, or makeup, or dresses, or beautiful braids (that’s me).

It’s just human nature. Some girls and boys just don’t fit into that gender role, it’s purely human, it’s biological in many ways. But it doesn’t mean you’re automatically trans. That’s something that develops differently, it seems. Gender dysphoria is something (and has always been from what psychologists have seen) that the vast majority grow out of. They realise they’re gay, they’re just butchy, and some find their way back to their feminine or masculine side.

What I find mostly sad on this sub is seeing so many people thinking their interests define their gender, or their looks, or their sexuality, or their fetisch even. It doesn’t, not necessarily. It is one piece of the puzzle, but there is so much more to it.

Look to people who aren’t also activists for trans issues and you’ll find this isn’t true. Caitlyn Jenner is a good example. She says something of the sort and she also says that people who aren’t adults should take that path.

It surely feels like you’ve fallen for this doctrine. And don’t be ashamed. Basically everyone on here did.

Watch What is a woman to get a glimpse of how fucked up it is and how it’s one of the most horrible stuff that ever happened to our generation so far. The amount of human life and suffering your advocating for is surely gigantic. You don’t have to agree with Walsh on his views on trans to watch and learn how the doctrine really is a lie and a money grab in the most cold hearted and untested ways.

They had no idea of the complications it would have, but the data is in. We need to change this back to who it was. For the kids.

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People who continue on this path in their youth to the point of no revert (depends on what kind they actually take) increasingly regret it. Even adults regret this decision, and lies are told. So before we have honest medical institutions who don’t hand out hormone therapy to people without any psychological conversations, even, we shouldn’t let young people do it. We need to have much more in place with time between first contact and actual treatment to minimize the possibility for people who regret it when it’s too late. No other medical substance is easier to get a hold of today than puberty blockers.

Gender dysphoria is NEVER someone’s only issue. EVER. And everyone has an identity crisis during puberty. Should we medicate those people who are just normal teenagers because what some trans avtivists say?

It’s a big fat no from me.

We need honesty and we need the help of psychiatrists and science. It’s completely ignored when it comes to this subject. And this comes from the same people who scream ”global warming, scientists say so”. The hypocrisy really is deafening, and blinding. It’s an appalling doctrine.

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You can’t, during the apex of your puberty, make decisions like that. And I’m not saying that some it applies to everyone in this group of youth. But even though a minority may be helped by it, which I defnitely don’t deny, we can’t sacrifice the majority for that purpose. It’s like putting everyone that say they’re sad on anti-depressants without even trying another strategy first.

Changing your gender has to be a process. It can’t be this easy to start taking puberty blockers/removing breasts or penises or uteruses or testicles or anything else. Some places, as I’ve mentioned, don’t even mandate a conversation with a psychiatrist before the prescription.

Furthermore, you don’t have to teach her anything of the sort. That’s something she’ll figure out on her own.

It seems like you already know this, but the job you have as a parent is to not judge or force any perspective. So give her dolls and trains and ask what she prefers.

Here in Sweden there are some parents that do this, and they crossdress children for pre-school, they force non-sex-conforming toys. That’s why I’m saying this

”They are”

No they aren’t

It’s not anti trans, it’s pro-kids

There is science and data on this, ”buddy”. What I said was true. Every single fact i presented. Look into it instead of dismissing it as tranphobia. Probably noone in this thread is a transphobe. I surely am not. Every adult can do what they want with their body, but the collateral we need to check, which is the majority of people with gender dysphoria as kids, is just ignored. And you’ve fallen for a sick doctrine.

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And now you question my questioning. Who’s the bigot here?

C’mon. You’re dishonest and you’re a hypocrite

You seem to miss the point. A culture is often somewhat defined by language, but a language is always defined by the culture that uses it. So people who speak a certain language is easily comparable to ethnic groups, or groups who just love to play a certain game.

Every deaf person who has made a choice to stay deaf would find your comments offensive. Even many people who got implants at an older age would definitely say that you’re being offensive. I did NOT use this as an argument to counter your point of view or belief, and I do actually seek the same respect from you. This place, of all places, should know that ”this is offensive” isn’t an argument at all.

A cultural border is defined by many things. Do you disagree with this? Because that’s the point I’m making. Furthermore I make the point that it’s not so easy to just ”give up” your history, to change yourself as a person, to swap out your friends, to just move away from everybody you know, to just stop saying grace. You seem to think it’s so easy, as if you didn’t struggle leaving your life behind when transitioning and when you desisted.

And for what it’s worth. People who are deaf are probably more discriminated against than black people today. They only just started to appear on TV like 4-5 years ago, because apparently that’s the metric #WakandaForever /s