That's how I've been feeling too. Especially how trans activists just keep telling lie after lie after lie and silence anyone who tries to correct the misinformation. Their main strategy, I think, has been to paint an association of any questioning and disagreement with the far right, hide the fact that push back is coming from former leftists and even feminists themselves.

Trans activists know that "TERFs"(radical and gender critical feminists) are the biggest threat to them, because their criticism of the movement is entirely accurate and the most founded on logic and reason, and they don't want people to hear this. So they demonize "TERFs" more than anyone else, even more than the conservatives who cause people to hate their sex, even more than the homophobes who actually go out and violently attack and even murder "trans" people, obscure their arguments and present them as violent, hateful reactionaries.

I think part of the main reason this has been able to happen is that most people are just so damn lazy. Most people take what they hear from the media and just blindly believe it without bothering to fact check anything. Nobody can think for themselves.

Same here. I also really hate being called "cis." It is absolutely not true that my "gender identity aligns with the gender I was assigned at birth" - I don't have a gender identity. I don't believe in gender identity period.

And even for people who do subscribe to the gender religion, it would still be inaccurate to call me, and many other users in this sub, "cis," as, once again, that word implies we "identify with our assigned gender" and "gender identity," according to them, is innate and unchanging, something one is born with. Given that many of us really did, at some point in our lives, have a cross-sex identification, met all of the criteria for being "trans," and were just the same as any of them, you really can't call us "cis." So it's inaccurate on every level.

Your post explained that you felt exactly the same way as any trans person for a pretty big chunk of your life, but then your feelings just... shifted, which completely goes against the mainstream trans narrative of "gender identity" being innate, something one is born with, and unchanging. If someone can want to be the opposite sex as strongly as you did, but then later grow to be happy with your sex, this completely throws a wrench in the idea that it's impossible to cure gender dysphoria without transitioning. It may cause people to question the ethics of transition entirely, given that, as your experience demonstrates, it's possible to want to transition so badly and feel so completely sure about it, but still end up regretting it down the road, and that it's actually impossible to predict who will regret it and who won't without trying it and finding out. It also tells many trans people that no matter how sure they are now, they may change their mind later. That's why your post was removed: your experience is fundamentally incompatible with their religious beliefs, and so it must be hidden at all costs.

>Another reason i wish i was born male is that i identify more with that role.

This is internalized sexism. You're conflating taking on a social role assigned to males with actually being male. You should work on unpacking that, and being okay playing that role as a woman. This might help get rid of some of your physical dysphoria, as well.

You also have a lot of body image issues(describing your breasts as "ugly"). You should really deal with those before you make any decisions about permanently altering your body.

>The reasen i want to transition is that if i get top surgery no man or woman would recognise me as a woman and they wouldn't want to get together with me.

This may not actually be true. Breasts are not the only indicators of being female. There are other ways people can tell. So you may still be perceived as female regardless.

Also, it's really not a good idea to be making permanent alterations to your body to avoid people being attracted to you. You should try to figure out why this makes you uncomfortable and try to find a healthier way of dealing with that.

All I can really say is if you're searching for your "true gender identity" - don't bother. There is no such thing. It's a made up, ideological concept that has no basis in science or reality. Nobody has a sex/gender/body that they were "meant to have" aside from the one they were born with. And people's feelings about sex/gender and their own bodies can and do change all the time. People can have genuine gender dysphoria in early childhood and then grow out of it by adolescence or adulthood. People can develop gender dysphoria that wasn't previously there during adolescence or adulthood. It can be long term(lasting decades or even a lifetime) or short term(only lasting a few years). It can suddenly go away, people can work at making it go away and be successful with that, people can find alternative ways of dealing with it other than transition, and most importantly, people can have genuine dysphoria, genuinely want to be the opposite sex, and still regret transitioning. This doesn't mean, of course, that you ever need to conform to gender roles(trying to force yourself to do so can trigger dysphoria/make it worse) and this doesn't mean that you shouldn't transition, but it does mean that there's no "internal identity" that determines whether or not transitioning is right for you.

Here is what I believe are signs that transitioning can work for you:

1. You have realistic expectations about what it can actually do for you, how it can actually turn out, how likely you are to pass as the opposite sex, etc. This also includes understanding that you're not actually becoming the opposite sex but rather just imitating the appearance of the opposite sex, and of the health risks associated.
2. Understanding and accepting that because you're not actually changing sex, there will be people out there who will never see you as a man and will always refer to you as a woman, and you can't force them to do or think otherwise. There is no objective reality in you being a man/male, just an ideology, and you can't force everyone to adopt your beliefs. You don't get to dictate people thoughts(not saying you're trying to do this, just that you should be aware of it).
3. You've accepted that you are female and always will be, you're comfortable with the fact that you were born with female anatomy/reproductive system, that you grew breasts and wide hips during puberty, etc., and you still want to transition. I mention this because you're going to need to become comfortable with this if you want to be happy/healthy in life, and if you're transitioning as an attempt to escape this simple fact you are more likely to regret it down the road when the truth finally comes along and slaps you in the face. You may view transitioning entirely differently by this point, you may no longer feel that it's worth it, and this could lead to regret.
4. Understand that there is no objective truth about whether transition is right or wrong for you. It's all a matter of personal decision. Are you comfortable with that, as well as the knowledge that your feelings can change at any point in your life?

I think those are the main points. But I will also add: if you have ever genuinely enjoyed having, or derived pleasure from, a certain part of your body, then please, please think twice before you get rid of it or do anything that could damage it.

If you're uncomfortable being mistaken for male and want to present more feminine because of it, then that's up to you.

But based on my experience, you'll be much happier if you just wear whatever makes you most comfortable. It could also worsen dysphoria if you force yourself to wear certain clothes or tell yourself that certain clothes are off limits to you simply because you're female.

My advice is to do what you want and not worry what sexist idiots think of you.

Speaking as someone who was very dysphoric as a young child and really can't remember a time when part of me didn't wish I was a boy(though I didn't start saying I was one, I don't think, until around age 5), but grew out of a lot of it and started to come to terms with my biological reality a few years into puberty before the trans cult got ahold of me and convinced me that if I didn't "feel like a woman" that meant I wasn't one after all, being put on puberty blockers and socially affirmed as a boy by everyone around me likely would have prevented the initial desistance. I spent a lot of my childhood in denial. Denial of the fact that I was a girl/female, denial that I didn't have a penis, denial that I would grow breasts and wide hips instead of male characteristics during puberty, etc. I really did think, for a while, that I could grow up and become a man(part of me was actually a bit worried about how shocked everyone around me would be when that happened). When my breasts started growing, I denied that it was happening, and I would just think "oh, I'm just growing muscles like my dad". But then they kept growing, and I still denied they were even breasts, but also wished I could just chop them off myself so I could be flat chested like a boy again. It was a really long process of coming to realize just how different my body was from the boys, because of the changes that were happening, and coming to realize they were here to stay and I had no choice but to get used to it, along with the fact that I had socially transitioned at school at age 9, but got NO affirmation from my family, and was basically forcefully detransitioned when the next school year started, so I also realized that I would never really be seen as a boy either. This led me to finally sit and down and tell myself, at age 13, "okay, you're a girl, it's time to get over it" and realizing I needed to find a way to be comfortable with it. I was starting to unpack all my perceptions and ideas about the way other people saw me and why I couldn't seen that way as a girl, and I was starting to become comfortable admitting I was one(although unfortunately, I still believed that because I was "a girl now" that meant I needed to look pretty and feminine, even though it made me really uncomfortable and that definitely pushed me more toward the trans thing) and then the trans cult came along and fucked it all up. Fortunately, I was in high school by the time that happened, and the worst part, for me, was already over, and tbh I think that might be the only reason I've been able to get out of it now. But imagine they'd gotten to me when I was still in denial, believing I could grow up and become a man? If my puberty had been blocked? Who the hell knows how I would've turned out. I hope my story helps people see just what the trans activists are actually doing to children here. It's incredibly fucking cruel.

Okay I'm just going to say, PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE, at least post-pone your top surgery. It is absolutely NOT a myth that people regret it. The only myth is that the only people who regret it are people who never really wanted it in the first place. The truth is, there NO WAY to know how you will feel about your body and what you'll want in the future, especially when you're only 16. It is a simple fact of life that people's feelings change, and your feelings regarding gender/sex and your body are really no exception.

And top surgery is PERMANENT; you can't undo it. You can always go back and do it later, but you can never go back and undo it. So please at least give yourself some time to get used to your body as is, give your brain some time to grow and develop, try to figure out if there's a reason you don't like your chest and if there's something else that can be done to help you feel more comfortable in your body before resorting to intense, invasive, and irreversible medical procedures for a problem that originates in your brain.

Being a woman is also a social role.

Has it ever occurred to you that some of us don't want this social role to exist, because it has caused us a great deal of pain in our lives? Acting as if taking on this social role makes one a woman, or less of a man, only reinforces its existence.

It doesn't matter what someone looks like or acts like, it only matters what someone biologically is. Acting out a sexist caricature of woman does not make a man a woman. Fuck off with this sexist bullshit.

Just be honest with them. Tell them that because of your personal experience, you're skeptical of transition if that's what you're thinking. Ask them why they keep bringing it up, if they realize that you're not the only person in your situation, and that many people are in a much worse situation because of trans ideology. Tell them they're being extremely insensitive.

Are any of your family trans or detrans? If not, then you're the one with the most insight into the issue and they should be aware of that.