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- Personal, consistent details about a multi-year timeline of taking and stopping testosterone.
- Plausible emotional and physical experiences associated with hormone changes.
- Specific, practical advice on topics like changing gender markers, which indicates lived experience.
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About me
I was born female and identified as a lesbian, but I started to overthink my identity and felt pressured by confident people I saw online to transition. My autism made me hyper-focus on this and latch onto it as a solution to the discomfort I felt with my changing body during puberty. I was on testosterone for over three years, which changed my body and even my sexuality for a while. I stopped hormones two years ago, and my body and feelings have settled back to me being a woman who loves women. I don't regret the journey, but I wish I had understood my autism and the social pressure before medically transitioning.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was a long and confusing one, and looking back, I see a lot of things more clearly now. I was born female, and when I was younger, I identified as a lesbian. But around that time, I started to overthink everything about my identity. I think a lot of my decision to transition was influenced by what I was seeing online. I felt pressured by these very confident, "badass" trans people I saw, and it made me feel like that was the only true way to be happy and authentic.
I also have autism, though it wasn't diagnosed until later. I believe my autism played a huge role in my decision. It made me hyper-focus on my identity and latch onto the idea of being trans as a solution to my discomfort. I never felt right during puberty; I hated my breasts and felt incredibly uncomfortable in my developing body. I now see that a lot of this was just a normal part of growing up that I struggled with more because of my autism, not necessarily because I was born in the wrong body.
I started taking testosterone when I was around 19 and was on it for three and a half years. The hormones really affected me. My sex drive went way up, and even my sexuality felt like it changed. I went from identifying as a lesbian to saying I was pansexual and even a gay trans man for a while. I had a boyfriend during that time, which felt confusing looking back.
After those few years, I realized it wasn't right for me anymore. I stopped taking testosterone cold turkey about two years ago. Quitting was an experience. For a little while, I was super emotional. I'd wake up and cry for no reason or get frustrated over tiny things. It was definitely my hormones shifting. My period came back after about a month and a half. The changes going off T were subtle but there. My partner told me my face looks softer now. My sex drive also went way down, which I prefer.
My feelings about my sexuality have settled back to where they started. I am finally back to a place where I feel comfortable being a female who is exclusively attracted to other females. It feels good and right. It's scary because I spent so long begging people to see me as a boy, but it's validating to be honest with myself now.
I don't regret my transition because it led me to where I am now, and I learned a lot about myself. But I do wish I had understood the role my autism played and that I hadn't felt so much pressure from online communities. I think if I had talked to someone about those feelings instead of just diving into medical transition, my path might have been different. I never had surgery, but I did change my gender marker on my passport. I've since changed it back with a letter from a supportive doctor.
Now, I'm just trying to live my life as me, a woman who loves women, and that feels like the truth.
| My Age | Year | Event |
|---|---|---|
| 14 | ~2015 | Identified as a lesbian. |
| ~19 | ~2020 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 22 | 2020 | Stopped testosterone after 3.5 years. |
| 22 | 2020 | Got my period back after 1.5 months off T. |
| 23 | 2021 | Officially changed gender marker back to female on passport. |
Top Comments by /u/SpecialCaress:
hi i am in a very similar situation. i identified as a lesbian when i was 14 before i transitioned, and then i over thought it way too much. i identified as pansexual and even at points a gay trans man while i was on testosterone (i feel like hormones really affected my sexuality) and i am finally back in a place where i feel comfortable being a female who is exclusively attracted to other females. and it feels good. it's scary, because i spent so long begging other people to see me as a boy and i had a boyfriend for a long time but i am beginning to open up to close friends and it is very validating. i will probably slowly tell more people, but i also think that it wouldn't feel right to have some kind of big announcement about it. anyways, if you ever want to talk about it you can message me and we can chat about it 🌟
This. Thank you for sharing. I have been thinking about this a lot lately since I have seen lots of people talking about it and I wondered if anyone else felt pressured in the same way I did by these, as you said, "badass, truth-bombing, reasonable trannies".
i think that if you have the support, you should absolutely go to somewhere like target or a thrift store and get something simple. in the future, you won't care if it's the most amazing dress in the world but it will still be something, symbolic even. i wish I could help you get your hands on something. maybe even look at Amazon and see if any dresses could be shipped overnight to you?
i am in rhode island (went to college in the hudson valley though!!) basically i just found a supportive doctor to write me the same little letter i had written to get my gender marker changed to have it changed back on my passport. basically the letter says that i have "transitioned to female", this should work for you as well if you have a doctor who wouldn't mind writing a little letter like that for you!
different states work differently, some are just informed consent style, and others require spcific documents. in my state it's as easy as saying "change my gender marker to this" for anyone, but in some states i feel like birth certificate alone should be fine! you just gotta check your local DMV website
autistic and detrans here, i think my (undiagnosed) autism played a big role in my decision to transition, in ways i wished people had talked to me about before i decided to do it.
quitting t cold turkey affects everyone differently, and if you have a doctor you feel comfortable talking to I'd definitely recommend going to them for advice on what they think. that being said, i quit cold turkey about a year ago and didn't experience anything too extreme (mostly experiencing emotions i hadn't felt in a while and my period coming back after a month)
i found the changes going off to be pretty subtle, but my period came back after 1 month. my partner the other day told me they noticed that my face is a lot "softer" than last year when I went off, and my sex drive definitely went down a lot after going off testosterone.
hi ! i was on t for 3 and a half years and i have been off now for two months and more or less i haven't really seen any changes (to be expected). i had a period of time where i was emotional (would wake up and cry for no reason, or get frustrated by something that usually doesn't bother me) and it seems pretty directly linked to my hormones shifting. i am still slightly more emotional than i was on t (crying is a little easier, and i feel things more strongly) but nothing too crazy. i got my cycle back after a month and a half. if you want to talk about it, feel free to message me