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About me
I started my journey as a depressed young woman who felt she didn't fit in, and I thought transitioning was my own choice to feel better. I used identifying as non-binary to escape being female, but it was just a fantasy rooted in self-hatred and online influence. I realized my desire to change was a form of narcissism, a rejection of reality rather than a true self. I've since fully detransitioned and accepted myself as a woman. True happiness came from humbling myself and learning to work with reality, not against it.
My detransition story
Looking back on my whole journey, I think it really started with a deep unhappiness with myself. I didn't feel like I fit in anywhere, and I was depressed for a long time. I used to believe the world was against me, and my depression was just a reaction to that. I thought my choices, like starting to transition, were my own way of trying to feel better. The idea that the things I wanted weren't even my real choices would have been too much to handle back then.
I started by identifying as non-binary. It felt like a way to escape from the pressures of being a woman. But now I see that non-binary isn't a real thing. I was a woman whose idea of what a woman is had been twisted by a messed-up culture into thinking it was something I had to perform or opt into, rather than just what I am by being born female. I was trying to kill that depressed, lonely person I was by transitioning. It was a form of escapism, a kind of magical thinking. I’ve learned that no matter where you go, there you are. You can't escape yourself; you have to find a way to accept who you are.
A lot of my thinking was influenced by what I saw online. I noticed that a lot of the arguments, especially from male-born individuals, seemed to be about entitlement masquerading as progress. I saw so much focus on "passing," but it wasn't about being feminine in real life, it was about looking a certain way in a photo. It all felt very narcissistic, about seeming rather than being. I think that's at the heart of a lot of this: a rejection of reality. You can't be truly happy if you're living in a world that doesn't cater to your magical thinking.
I eventually realized that my desire to transition came from a place of self-disacceptance, not from a genuine desire to be something else. There was a void I was trying to fill. I had to ask myself a tough question: if I could press a button and just be okay with being a woman, would I press it? Or was the fantasy of becoming someone else more appealing? For me, the answer became clear. Choosing to accept reality was the harder but ultimately better path than forcing something impossible.
I don't think any transitions are truly successful. The people who seem the happiest are often the ones who are best at lying to themselves, who have a powerful need to project a happy image. It all seems tied to a kind of narcissism, a need to feel special and one-of-a-kind. That's why the idea of autogynephilia is so threatening to some people—it shatters that specialness. It’s a narcissistic injury.
I don't have any major physical regrets because my transition was only social. I never took hormones or had surgery. But I do regret the time I spent lost in a fantasy, and the way I let online culture influence me into thinking that changing my identity was the solution to my depression and low self-esteem. I've benefited from stepping back and accepting things as they are. Real happiness came from humbling myself and understanding that I'm not the main character in a movie; life is just the sum of the choices we make.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on what I remember:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Late Teens | Struggled with severe depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem. Felt a deep discomfort with puberty and being a woman. |
| Early 20s | Heavily influenced by online communities. Began identifying as non-binary as a form of escapism from my female body and social expectations. |
| Mid 20s | Started to critically analyze trans ideology and my own motivations. Realized my identity was based on narcissism and a rejection of reality, not a true self. |
| 26 | Fully detransitioned socially. Accepted myself as a female woman. Began to understand that my journey was rooted in self-disacceptance and that happiness comes from working with reality, not against it. |
Top Comments by /u/Stanky_Bacon:
Baked into the narcissism inherent in the trans identity is the constant conviction that you are one of a kind, unlike anyone else. Therefore any and all detrans people are automatically out of the special-ingroup they count themselves among, "true" trans who definitely are not pathologically coping with self-resentment like the detrans kids were.
It's stunning seeing all my friends who are intelligent, capable people, good writers with deep analytical brains who can unpack and make sense of almost anything, be socially forced to shut their brains off and treat this stuff as uncritically as possible like they're being forced to say grace at the table for Thanksgiving because grandma's in town.
Just a lot of stuff masquerading as feminism that at its core is just male entitlement. Like starting with the premise "I want sex" and then fashioning a whole pseudo-feminist argument around "genital fetishism" and "cotton ceilings" and all this stuff to try and basically peer pressure people into supporting their entitlement by framing it as progressive.
That and a whole lot of women ignoring. I see so many posts where a woman's discomfort simply does not matter in contrast to a man's, or a trans woman's. I even saw a post a little while ago about a woman uncomfortable with waxing a trans woman's penis and she had to phrase it as "for my husband's honor" in order to not get pilloried on trans subs for her "genital bigotry".
Primarily it seems to refer to things like HRT and plastic surgery, which are pretty explicitly NOT a right in any real sense, and are 100% a luxury afforded only to the wealthy, only in a few places, only recently. I imagine women who want breast implants saying the same thing ("boob rights are human rights!") and it makes me giggle.
So there's this thing called "narcissistic injury" that explains the abrupt reaction from a lot of people. Basically certain people spend all their time maintaining a persona, a certain image, and if someone "sees" through that false persona, it can hurt their ego so intensely that it will often cause them to lash out violently.
It's the same reaction you'll see when people first hear of the concept of autogynephilia. It's like "oh my god, I'm not as special as I thought", and it really fucks them up.
Non-binary isn't a thing. You're a woman whose perception of what a woman is has been bastardized by a fucked up culture into thinking it's something you have to perform or opt into rather than what you just are merely by being born a woman.
Let's be honest, Musk hates and avoids all his kids and is only pretending to care about this one as an inroad to be a talking head about something, anything. He just wants so badly to be considered an authority on something and publicly renowned as anything other than what he is, a dim bulb.
I don't personally think any transitions are truly successful. I think the most successful-seeming ones are probably by people who have a very powerful psychological imperative to project a happy image. Their public persona is a large part of who they are.
To me it really just comes down to--are you the kind of person who can lie to themselves and live in wishful thinking your whole life, hoping one day it'll "take" and settling for the scraps that life gives you, or are you the kind of person who accepts reality as it is and tries to find a better way to be happy than forcing something impossible just because you've fixated on it.
A lot of them will claim they "felt" a different gender identity but never "felt" a desire for a different race therefore it's fake. To which I point to all the suburban wannabe black white kids who literally spend their teens and 20s imitating and ingratiating themselves to black culture.
I can't support anything he is doing via executive order on principle even if I agree with the outcomes, sorry. This needs to be legislated fair and square otherwise it's just going to be reversed by the next admin's first-day EOs. And I don't side with severely broken clocks because they're right once in a while either.