it is not satire. it is entirely calculated and machiavellian.

they did this on purpose.

they purposefully hijacked the detrans tag on tumblr by filling it with gross fetish shit to scare away the actual detransitioners and create an unfamiliar, degrading environment in which they wouldn't feel comfortable enough to talk openly (they're trying to do the same thing with the terf/radfem tags, by using thousands of bot accounts to spam the tags and clutter them, but they're unsuccessful so far.)

jesus christ. pardon my language, but D sounds like a fucking D-ICK. there's not much to say here other than i hope your living situation will improve. as for harry, i'd encourage your friend to stand up for themself more and dump this overgrown freudian cheater manchild they're dating.

stuff like this is why i'm lowkey glad i gave up on having serious friendships when i was 12 💀 maybe being alone isn't so bad.

i would actually go insane if i were in your shoes.

also, i highly doubt D-ouchebag is actually gay if he's dating your ftm friend and was, at least at one point in the past, attracted to them. gay males aren't exactly attracted to female anatomy. it's just a fact, idgaf if it makes me transphobic to acknowledge that.

well, TRAs sure are detransphobic. if our mere existence infuriates them so much and they constantly go out of their way to mock us, why should we have to be the bigger person and be respectful to them?

they hate us because we threaten the sanctity of their ideology. the least we can do is have some integrity and refuse to humiliate ourselves in a poor effort to get them to accept us.

this may sound close-minded and unfair, but biological males are generally very bad at building support groups and communicating with one another.

there's a reason male-only spaces are so chaotic and unhinged. (my middle school class was absolutely deranged and animalistic)

most men nowadays have very low verbal intelligence and are HORRIBLE at articulating their thoughts, so they'd probably keep any thoughts pertaining to detransition in their heads. and, if they do detransition, they'd probably do it without telling anyone.

i just "love" how they say that all detrans people are either grifters who were never trans in the first place or self-hating trans people who are in denial.

no in-between. always one or the other.

sometimes even both, and they just play ping-pong between which narrative to use when describing detransitioners, depending on how convenient it is given the context.

no.

you just aren't used to not being coddled 100% of the time. i'm sorry, but the world does not revolve around you. you need to learn how to get over yourself and how to handle criticism & negative feedback.

it is not anybody's obligation to validate us.

uh, no offense, but you kinda sound like an MRA right now.

yes, atypical and gender non-conforming individuals of the male sex are often mistreated by other males, but you're implying males as a collective are oppressed. which we are not.

and what you said about butch lesbians not being assaulted is blatantly false. corrective rape is a terrible thing that unfortunately exists. i know dozens upon dozens of stories of gnc/butch lesbians being assaulted by straight men. it's real and it exists and it's terrible.

you shouldn't minimize the negative experiences of others to make your own negative experiences seem worse than theirs.

for most of history, homosexual males have been forced into third gender positions. that's just the way things were.

the hijras of india, the two-spirits of indigenous america, the bakla of the philippines, the list goes on and on.

i do feel spiritually non-binary, and nothing is ever going to change that.

masculinity does not come naturally to me, it has always felt artificial and forced the same way i imagine femininity must feel artificial for a lot of women. but i am also not fond of flaunting femininity because of the way society might respond to that.

i guess when it comes to femininity/masculinity, i am both & neither at the same time. a living paradox.

i can understand why some detransitioners may want sex-segregated communities — especially female detransitioners — and i think those subreddits should be made, BUT this subreddit should not be deleted.

there should be three options for detransitioners — a female-only detransitioner subreddit, a male-only detransitioner subreddit (this one could possibly be split into two; one for homosexual detrans males and one for heterosexual detrans males) and a mixed-sex detransitioner subreddit (AKA this one).

i feel like this subreddit is good and necessary because we can all learn something from each other. what we learn here is that the grass is always greener on the other side.

a male detransitioner can see that there are females out there who, at one point, wanted to be male — something he resented himself for. and as such, there is worth and value in being male, and he can accept his maleness. a female detransitioner can see that there are males out there who, at one point, wanted to be female — something she resented herself for. and as such, there is worth and value in being female, and she can accept her femaleness.

but maybe that's being too optimistic, considering there has been a rise in hostility on this subreddit recently.

also, this subreddit helped me a lot in developing empathy. it'll always be important to me for that reason.

i believe it's also those people who are screenshotting our posts and comments & reposting them on trans subreddits where they openly mock and taunt us.

a CERTAIN deranged subreddit comes to mind. i can't say the name because it's against the rules, but if its users are reading this — you know who you are.

if i speak, i am in big trouble. 😶