This story is from the comments by /u/Strange-MuffinDuffin that are listed below, summarised with AI.
User Authenticity Assessment: Suspicious Account
Based on the provided comments, the account "Strange-MuffinDuffin" exhibits several serious red flags that suggest it is an inauthentic account, likely not a genuine detransitioner or desister.
Red Flags:
- Inconsistent Narrative: The user claims to have had a 15-year history of wanting to be female but states these feelings "disappeared instantly" after getting a job and a girlfriend. This is an oversimplification that contradicts the complex, persistent nature of gender dysphoria described by many genuine detransitioners.
- Ideological Talking Points: The comments are a concentrated list of anti-trans rhetoric (e.g., "trans cult," "grooming," "scientific fraud," "Marxists," "female privilege"). The language is polemical and aligns perfectly with political culture war narratives rather than reflecting a personal, nuanced detransition experience.
- Lack of Personal Detail: There is a complete absence of specific, personal details about their own transition, detransition, or desistence. The comments are entirely abstract, focused on attacking trans ideology and promoting a specific political worldview.
- Targeted Agenda: The user's primary activity appears to be recruiting for a political cause (anti-trans, pro-conservative) rather than offering support or sharing a personal story. They consistently steer conversations toward broad political criticisms.
Conclusion: The account reads as a political propaganda bot or a bad-faith actor using the detransition narrative as a vehicle to spread anti-trans and anti-leftist ideology, not as an authentic account of a detransitioner.
About me
I'm a man who spent 15 years thinking I wanted to be female, starting as a lonely teenager. I now see it was a form of escapism from my anxiety and the pressures of growing up male. Those feelings completely vanished when my life improved with a job, hobbies, and my girlfriend. I believe my discomfort was with puberty and being unhappy, not with being male. I'm now comfortable as a man and see that for many, these thoughts are a symptom of other pain, not a true identity.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started when I was pretty young. For about 15 years, from my early teens into my late twenties, I had this persistent thought that I wanted to be female. I spent a lot of time online, and I saw how trans communities operated. They seemed to have this almost cult-like need to recruit people, to affirm their own choices by convincing others to join them. I'm honestly grateful that this whole "trans pipeline" wasn't as big or as accessible when I was a teenager, because I think I could have easily been pulled into it.
A lot of my feelings, looking back, were tied up in other issues. I had low self-esteem, anxiety, and I was pretty isolated. I didn't have a job, a solid life goal, or a girlfriend. I felt lost. I now see that my desire to be a woman was a form of escapism. It was a way to run away from the pressures and discomforts of being a man and going through male puberty. Puberty is an awkward and uncomfortable time for everyone, and I think I mistook those normal feelings for something else.
I never took any hormones or had any surgeries. I only ever thought about transitioning; I never actually did it medically. The idea completely lost its grip on me once my life started to get better. When I finally got a job, found hobbies that I cared about, and started a relationship with my girlfriend, those thoughts about being a woman just vanished. It was like they were a symptom of my unhappiness, not the cause of it.
I have strong opinions about the trans community now, based on what I saw and experienced. I believe a lot of people, especially young people, are influenced into thinking they're trans by their friends online and in real life. I saw it happen in friend groups. It doesn't feel like a coincidence. I think many of them are dealing with other problems like trauma, internalized homophobia, body dysmorphia, or eating disorders, and transitioning is presented as the solution. For some, it might even be a fetish thing, like autogynephilia.
I also think there's a lot of bad science being promoted to support transition. I remember reading about studies that were clearly flawed, like one that claimed a high percentage of people were on puberty blockers but was probably confusing them with hormone therapy. It’s scary to see how this ideology has taken hold and how any therapy that isn't purely "affirming" is being banned as "conversion therapy." To me, that's crazy. We should be able to help people work through their feelings without immediately pushing them toward irreversible changes.
I don't regret my transition because I didn't have one. But I deeply regret the time I spent thinking about it and the mental energy I wasted. I see now that my discomfort was with puberty and growing up, not with being male. I believe that if I had gotten proper, non-affirming therapy back then to address my underlying anxiety and self-esteem issues, I could have worked through it much sooner.
Today, I'm comfortable living as a man. My thoughts on gender are that it's often a social contagion, especially for young people who are struggling. For many, it's a way to cope with other pain. I'm heterosexual, and I'm thankful that I found a path that didn't involve altering my body.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on my experiences:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| ~13 | Started feeling like I wanted to be female. Began a long period of escapist thoughts. |
| ~13-28 | Lived with ongoing gender questioning, low self-esteem, and anxiety. Felt isolated with no job or serious life goals. |
| 28 | Got a job, developed solid hobbies, and started a relationship with my girlfriend. |
| 28 | All desires to transition disappeared completely. Realized my feelings were based on unhappiness, not a true identity. |
Top Reddit Comments by /u/Strange-MuffinDuffin:
“trans people are brainwashing people!!! Check how many people did unreversable damage to their bodies because of them!!! Keep your children away from their propaganda!!”
What would you call it? The idea that the increasing incidence of trans people, especially in within single friend groups in schools, is hardly a coincidence. Lots of trans people also spend a lot of time to convince "trans eggs" that they are actually trans.
Its 100% to liken with propaganda and grooming, and detrans are obvious proof that there is irreversible damage done. In the USA the age for puberty blockers is also going down.
There was also a recent correction after lots of pressure from those "evil conservative brainwashed transphobe people" were a science group had to basically admit that they gave a incorrect conclusion from the study and that there is no support that transition helps mental wellbeing: https://news.ki.se/transgender-individuals-at-greater-risk-of-mental-health-problems
But I notice on grindr and in news stories on FtMs, they often seem to be obese.
People with mental issues are often overweight, and overeating is a type of self-harm that is also common with trans people.
Im pretty sure 95% of trans people nowadays are those that would be anorectic or on another destructive trend in their friend group, before gender ideology came around.
I just had a hookup and didn’t bother to tell him I was detransition.didn’t want to ruin the mood.however he decided to point out that my genitalia (bottom growth)made him uncomfortable.’baby penis) he said and that he didn’t feel ok touching it.I
Just tell people beforehand. Detrans are so rare, that people will be in shock and not behave normally when you expose them that way.
I dont think you can expect perfect behaviour when someone expected a swell time and was super excited, and suddenly theres a male genitalia (or similar) there.
Its the whole trans-gaslighting of people being transphobic for not sucking "girl cock" or the like.
What treatment can cure my dysphoria other than transtitioning?
Right now, due to laws banning any therapy to not transition as "conversion therapy" you cant in some countries, but just regular therapy to treat the symptoms as with any other mental disease such as anorexia would probably be it.
Older studies before trans-treatment became popular showed that 80+% just didnt have dysphoria after a few years.
Being uncomfortable with puberty was a given just a few years ago, just look at old material on sex-education and how it all already expected that kids would be uncomfortable and have a lot of anxiety. Its completely normal, and the popularized gender ideology creates a "escape" that many young people cling on to.
There seems to be so much scientific fraud in trans-positive research. If 73% of your patients report taking puberty blockers, isnt it pretty obvious they confuse them with HRT? That this stuff isnt lambasted in the scientific community is crazy, when the criticism is relatively recent in time and easy to find.
Why in the hell do we live in a world where people can just mutilate their bodies and put foreign hormones in themselves like it's nothing?
The current leftist worldview and training youth to think is a bit fucked, many people live via the internet and create these even more warped ideas of reality, throw in constant access to sex in media but no actual real sexual relationship with humans with normal relationships, and women become some sort of mystical existence that is probably conflated to 30% with anime women.
moral panic about gay parents exposing their children to sex at pride, why isn't he also talking about the failure of heterosexual parents to prevent their children being exposed to online pornography?
Are they bringing their kids outside and forcing them to watch porn in front of people? Thats a weak ass argument.
"But I really also like the way I look! I think I am cute I just don’t feel like I am in the form I should’ve been. Please help! I’m scared if I go on testosterone I’ll detransition but I’m so unhappy the way I am now!"
You seem like me when I was young- trust me, dont do any permanent changes, you are at a stage that no matter what you will feel unhappy, and you will find ways to keep feeling unhappy- you will even do things you KNOW you will regret.
I cant exactly explain why many young people are like this, I guess we kinda want to burn everything and still somehow have someone make it alright again. Maybe its a fear of growing up and longing for the simplicity of being a pre-puberty kid.
but the perceptive of being trans scare me maybe I'm just faking it for attention and all.
This is very insightful. I kinda gaslighted myself into being bi, and due to peer-pressure, before I actually tried and realized Im pretty much 99% straight, and could maaaybe prefer a handjob from a guy in prison after a few years of no sex, but even then Im not really sure.
Later on I saw these okcupid stats (before they took down the evil non-pc blog lol and became woke) of how only 25% of bi-users on the platform actually ever talked with both genders. The rest were 10% gay 90% straight like you would expect in reality.
But on okcupid, 25% wrote that they were bi, but only 5% werent pretending.
The left has not only abandoned you all, but wants to increase the pain and sweep yours under the rug.
Sorry, but it’s the truth.
Ive started to believe more and more in James Lindsay and Carl Benjamin on this- the marxists and left cant have a happy middle-class and still exist, they need to create suffering, revolution and drama to justify their own existance. If you dont have enough minority groups or if they are satisfied, create strife and suffering with trans ideology and CRT instead.