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About me
My journey started when I was 14, feeling confused and mentally unstable, and I thought not being super feminine meant I wasn't a girl. I got caught up in online communities where I started identifying as trans, but I was just genuinely trying to figure myself out. Now, at 15, I've stopped and returned to my birth name and she/her pronouns, and I feel so much better. I've reclaimed my femininity, wearing skirts and makeup and embracing being a woman who loves women. I don't regret exploring my identity, but I'm learning to be easier on myself and accept that it's okay to just be a person.
My detransition story
My name is [Birth Name], and I’m 15. I wanted to share my story here because it feels like a safe place to be honest about getting things wrong.
My whole journey started because I was confused and mentally unstable. I’ve always struggled with my mental health, and that was a big part of it. I never felt like everything about me “screamed WOMAN,” but I’ve come to realize that’s okay. On the inside, I just felt like a person, and I think everyone does. We are all just people. I think I got caught up in the idea that because I wasn’t super feminine, I must not be a girl. But there’s no such thing as being “bad at being a girl.” If you’re a girl, you’re good at being a girl. Every girl gets to define for herself what that means.
I started identifying as trans online and with some friends. A lot of my trans friends were actually really understanding about me detransitioning now; they get that some people just make a mistake. But I know a lot of people in the community get really upset with us for just trying to find ourselves and being wrong. I worry people will think I’m transphobic for detransitioning, but I’m not. I wasn’t doing any of it for attention. I was genuinely confused.
It was really influenced by being online. People online can be harsh and say that no matter how old you are, you should be held to these strict standards. Sometimes I wish I could just say, “I’m only 15!” but that doesn’t always work. I also had a specific situation that made me think a lot. Another girl at school, who is trans, got really upset with me. She felt like I was taking her identity lightly because I had identified as trans too and then stopped. She said I used a slur when I thought I was trans and that when I apologized, I was just guilt-tripping for attention. I’m an overly apologetic person, so that hurt. I think she’s just an insecure teenager, like me, and she’s afraid of being hurt. She thought I had it easier than her. It was hard because we have classes together, but it seems like things are getting a little better.
Now that I’ve stopped, I’ve gone back to my birth name, which is very feminine and beautiful, and I use she/her pronouns. I’ve felt so much better. I always loved being feminine. I wear skirts and makeup again. I use a pink backpack with Hello Kitty keychains. I’ve reclaimed my identity as a wlw (a woman who loves women), and that has made me really happy. This is how I like to express my femininity.
I don’t regret trying to figure things out because it led me back to myself. But I do regret the confusion and pain it caused, both for me and for other people. I’m still mentally unstable, but I’m trying to be easier on myself and remember that it’s okay to just be a person.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 14 | Started identifying as trans online and with friends. |
| 15 | Realized I was confused and mentally unstable; began to detransition. |
| 15 | Stopped identifying as trans, returned to my birth name and she/her pronouns. |
| 15 | Reclaimed my feminine expression and identity as a wlw. |
Top Comments by /u/Strawberrycatz444:
I am so grateful for this. I definitely see where she’s coming from and why she’s hurt but I also feel like she was making assumptions. But she’s a teenager just like me and I understand that we tend to make assumptions and aren’t fully emotionally mature. I also felt like on the inside I wasn’t gendered, just a person. But I guess everyone is. We are all just people, and just because everything about me didn’t scream WOMAN didn’t mean I wasn’t one. I hope my hair grows back fast haha. Anyway, thanks for commenting. Have a nice day!
Thank you. I’m grateful most of my trans friends don’t have a problem with detransitioners and understand that some people made a mistake. But yes, the community tends to get pretty upset at us for simply having been trying to find ourselves and being wrong. Sometimes I wish I could just say, I’m only 15! But online people tend to say that no matter how old you are and what you do, you should be held to harsh standards. I hope that people don’t think I’m transphobic, I’m not. I wasn’t trying to do this for attention, even though she said she thought I was. I genuinely was confused and mentally unstable. Still am.
Thank you. I’m grateful for all these replies 🥹 I definitely think she’s an insecure person, I don’t think her transness is related, but like most teenage girls she is insecure and makes fun of everything people like. She definitely is afraid of being hurt. I think that contributes to her reaction.
thanks. I guess she just feels upset because she feels that she has it harder than me and that i was taking her identity lightly, and that i said the t slur when i thought i was trans because someone called me it. She said when i apologized i was guilt tripping for attention. I am a very overly apologetic person and she knows this. i'm just trying to avoid her, but its hard because we're in the same spanish and science class. But it's gone fine. She seemed less upset later and asked me if i was ok. I understand that for actual trans people it is very hard. i just wish she wasn't so upset.
Thank you. I always loved being feminine. Now that I'm back to going by my birth name, which is very feminine and beautiful, and using she/her i've felt so much better. I wore a skirt today. I wear makeup again. I use a pink backpack with hello kitty keychains on it now. I call myself a girl. I reclaimed my identity as a wlw. And that made me happy, because that is what I like to do to express my femininity. But not all girls are fem and many girls don't like that stuff at all. They're still girls because there's no way of being "bad at being a girl." If you're a girl, you're good at being a girl. Every girl can define for herself what being female means to her. i'm trying to remind myself this.