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There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or a bad-faith actor. The comments demonstrate:
- Internal Consistency: A coherent, nuanced personal philosophy developed across multiple posts.
- Personal Experience: Specific, non-cliché details about managing dysphoria and body image issues.
- Authentic Tone: The language is conversational, includes natural asides ("sorry for writing a lot lol"), and expresses complex, critical thought in a way that aligns with a passionate individual.
The views are critical of some transgender concepts, but this criticism is thoughtfully articulated and consistent with perspectives found in the detrans/desister community.
About me
I was born female, and my journey started when puberty began and I felt a deep, distressing wrongness with my developing body. I spent a lot of time online and was convinced this discomfort meant I was a trans man, so I socially transitioned. I now understand my dysphoria wasn't an identity but a symptom of other issues like body dysmorphia and a desire to escape myself. The real healing began when I stopped trying to change my body and instead worked on making peace with my female existence. Today, I live as a woman, free from gender stereotypes, and I manage my dysphoria as a part of my mental health.
My detransition story
My journey with transition and detransition was long and complicated, and it was rooted in a deep discomfort with myself that I mistook for something else. I was born female, and from a young age, I felt a profound sense of wrongness with my body, especially when I started going through puberty. I hated developing breasts; it felt like a foreign and distressing invasion of my body. This feeling was intense and persistent, and at the time, I understood it through the only framework I knew: gender dysphoria.
I spent a lot of time online and was heavily influenced by the communities I found there. I saw people talking about their transitions and how it was the only solution for these feelings, and it felt like the answer I had been searching for. I came to believe that my deep discomfort with my female body meant I was not a woman. I started identifying as non-binary first, as it felt like a less intimidating step, but that eventually shifted to me believing I was a trans man. I socially transitioned, changing my name and pronouns, and I desperately wanted to start testosterone.
Looking back, I now see that my dysphoria was not a sign of a male essence inside me, but a symptom of other issues. I have a history of severe body dysmorphia and eating disorders, and I view my sex dysphoria through a similar lens now. It was a disorder of perception and a deep unease with my material existence. I also struggled with depression, anxiety, and very low self-esteem. I think a lot of my desire to transition was a form of escapism; I wanted to escape the person I was and become someone completely new. I thought changing my body would finally make me happy and solve all my problems.
I am critical of medical transition because of my own experience. I believe sex dysphoria is a really misunderstood condition that has more solutions other than "transition or you will kill yourself". For me, the real work began when I stopped trying to change my body to match a feeling and started working on making peace with my material existence. It was a long process. I took time to view my body in a completely neutral and objective way, which helped me become more comfortable with it. The dysphoria still comes and goes in waves, but it has gotten significantly easier to manage than it was when I was younger.
My thoughts on gender have completely changed. I now believe gender is made up. You don't have to accept anything. My mental health vastly improved when I realized that being male or female means literally nothing about who I am as a person. It's just a physical characteristic like any other. I don't "identify" with being female any more than I "identify" with having ten fingers. It's simply what I am, nothing deeper than that. I feel free to live and present however I want, and I don't worry about whether it "matches" the man-made stereotypes about my sex. I think it's better to reject gender entirely than let it define you.
I do have some regrets about my transition. I regret that I was so quick to medicalize my distress and that I didn't have access to, or seek out, non-affirming therapy that could have helped me work through my body dysmorphia and other underlying issues first. I benefited immensely from stepping back from that mindset and learning to manage my dysphoria instead of feeding into it.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 12 | Started puberty; began to intensely hate developing breasts. |
| 16 | Spent significant time online; was influenced into believing my discomfort meant I was trans. |
| 17 | Socially transitioned; began identifying as non-binary, then as a trans man. Changed name and pronouns. |
| 18-21 | Worked on self-acceptance and managing dysphoria without medical intervention. |
| 22 | Fully detransitioned; came to understand my dysphoria as a disorder to be managed, not an identity. |
| Present | Live as a female without subscribing to gender stereotypes; focus on managing dysphoria when it arises. |
Top Comments by /u/Such-Sweet-7997:
i think about this a lot. i struggle with the idea that one person's objective material existence can be another person's "true self". like, if a male thinks that my female body reflects his deepest innermost personality, and he should be recognized as the same as me because of that, it means he associates my body with a specific personality or lifestyle that he believes he has in common with me. the more you think about it, the more weird it is that people think like this, honestly.
for people who believe in things like xenogenders, they might base their "gender identity" off of any random thing, such as a fictional character or an aesthetic they like. i understand if, like, your fictional character gender and neopronouns are some sort act of self expression, but there comes a point where it has literally nothing to do with male and female. why can't both of these concepts exist at once? i always wonder why the people who think gender is a social construct you just project your personality onto don't create a new social construct for that and stop trying to dictate that biological sex isn't real.
theres actually a prominent community for it, but theyre very hidden away in their corner of the internet (rad-queer tumblr). ive ventured over there before and been genuinely surprised by how many people are in on it. its intriguing. i doubt it will take off, though. then again, i know of quite a few concepts that started on tumblr, were not taken seriously whatsoever, and then gradually became more and more normalized in queer spaces over the years.
gender is made up, you dont have to accept anything. my mental health vastly improved when i realized that being male/female means literally nothing about who i am as a person. its just a physical characteristic like any other. i dont "identify" with being female any more than i "identify" with having ten fingers. its simply what i am, nothing deeper than that. feel free to live and present however you want, and dont worry about whether it "matches" the man-made stereotypes about your sex. go easy on yourself. better to reject gender entirely than let it define you, in my opinion.
yeah ive been there. when i get sex dysphoria i remind myself that its just a disorder, and i would rather learn to manage it than feed into it. ive had eating disorders and severe body dysmorphia in the past, so i view sex dysphoria similarly. i personally found that taking time to view my body in a completely neutral and objective way has helped me become more comfortable with it, but it still comes and goes in waves. i think that working on making peace with my material existence over the years has paid off, because while i am still dysphoric, it has gotten significantly easier than it was when i was younger. im of the belief that sex dysphoria is a really misunderstood condition that has more solutions other than "transition or you will kill yourself", and we really need to direct more attention to ways to manage and potentially recover from it. i am critical of medical transition, but not fundamentally opposed to it if it does really help someone. but i really dont think sex dysphoria is a hopeless condition. sorry for writing a lot lol. best of luck
you can develop your style regardless of your sex. i think you disproportionately see conventionally attractive/fashion-type women online, but most women in reality look very average and underwhelming. id suggest experimenting with your clothes a bit. dont worry about expensive brands, just figure out a style you like. i thrift everything and manage to have a cohesive style (lots of black + trench coats + nice jewelry for me). best of luck