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About me
I started exploring gender online when I was 14 and struggling with my mental health, and I was convinced that transitioning was the answer. I socially transitioned and then medically transitioned with testosterone and surgery, believing it would solve all my problems. Now, at 18, I’m dealing with the permanent consequences, including likely infertility, and I feel the system failed me. I no longer believe people are born in the wrong body and I'm learning to accept myself as a man outside of stereotypes. My life is just beginning, and I'm focused on moving forward and finding my own voice.
My detransition story
Looking back at my journey, I see a lot of confusion and pain that led me down a path I wasn't ready for. I was a kid dealing with serious mental health issues, and I thought transitioning would be a magical solution to all my problems. I wasn't in a good place to make such a huge decision, and I feel like the system failed me by allowing it to happen. The adults and doctors who were supposed to help me instead helped me hurt myself.
I see now that I got caught in a kind of pipeline. It started with ideas that seemed harmless, like "clothes have no gender," which felt freeing. But it slowly shifted into pressure to change my body. The message became that if I liked things associated with the opposite sex, I must be trans, and that I wouldn't be happy until I fully transitioned. It’s ironic how it starts with wanting to abolish gender stereotypes but ends up making gender the most important thing about you.
I have a lot of regrets about transitioning. I made permanent changes to my body when I was too young and unwell to understand the consequences. I’m now dealing with the fact that I am likely infertile, which is a heavy thing to live with. I went through a period of deep depression after realizing what I had done, feeling like there was nothing left to live for. But I’ve come to understand that at 18, my life is just beginning. There's a long road ahead, and I'm trying to find my voice and my people.
My thoughts on gender have changed completely. I don't believe in the idea that someone can be born in the wrong body anymore. I think biological sex is real and matters, but saying that today can get you labeled a "transphobe" or a "TERF." To me, those terms have lost their meaning; they're just used to shut down anyone who questions the current beliefs, even if you support basic rights for trans people.
I’m trying to move forward by finding examples of men who are like me—thoughtful, reflective, and not defined by stereotypes. I'm looking to authors, artists, and other men who are comfortable being quiet and intellectual. I'm learning that being a man doesn't have to mean fitting into a loud, aggressive box. It can mean being exactly who I am.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on what I remember:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 14 | Started experiencing serious mental health issues and began exploring gender identity online. |
| 15 | Socially transitioned after being convinced by online communities that it was the solution to my discomfort. |
| 16 | Started taking testosterone after getting approval from doctors. |
| 17 | Underwent top surgery. Realized the gravity of my decisions and began to experience deep regret. |
| 17 | Was informed by doctors that the medical interventions had likely left me infertile. |
| 18 | Began the process of detransitioning and started to confront the depression and reality of my situation. |
Top Comments by /u/Super-Minh-Tendo:
Any disagreement with these ideas will get you labeled transphobic
That’s because transphobic now means “afraid to completely agree with whatever trans culture is saying right now”. It’s a label for people who point out contradictions or downsides. Even the meanest, angriest gender criticals I have met still support anti-discrimination laws applying to transgender status.
It’s because it’s a pipeline. You start off with gender equality phrases like “clothes have no gender”. Then the focus shifts to individual expression: “wear what you feel best in.” Then comes transition enthusiasm: “if you love opposite gendered stuff and wonder if you’re trans, then you are, and you won’t be happy until you finish your transition.” Once someone has transitioned, you often affirm them with traditionally sexist stereotypes, because that means they have arrived. They pass. They’re real. They’ve come full circle from “abolish gender” to “gender is everything”.
People are at different points of their journey through the pipeline so any given trans community is going to have the full spectrum of viewpoints.
You thought transitioning would be a magical solution because you were a child suffering from serious mental illness. You weren’t able to consent to this. The fault lies with everyone who set this system up to allow the most vulnerable people in society to hurt themselves with their doctors’ help.
There is still a lot to live for. Life changes so much and at only 18 years, you’ve got a long winding road of adventure ahead of you, if you’re willing to travel over the rough patches. You’re not the only one going through this and you’re not alone. Find your voice, find your people, and you’ll find your why.
If you’re a male aged 18 or older, congratulations, you’re a man. And it seems you’re also a rational and reflective man, which are great traits to have.
Take a look at men who are prominent intellectual types: authors, artists, academics, theater actors, musicians, philosophers, etc. Men who are reflective like you are. Whatever you’re into, find men in those fields who are similar in personality to you. They’re out there. Chances are, they’re just not loudly advertising themselves, because they’re on the more reserved side - just like you.
”I don’t support terfs”
Literally everything you said after that is what terfs believe. I don’t disagree with your points at all, I think your take is spot on, but I just wanted to point out that terf has become a word that means “anyone who denies TWAW or TMAM.” One needn’t hate trans people or even be a radical feminist to be a terf. Just being somewhere to the left of the Republican Party while accepting biological sex exists is enough to be a terf. I don’t mean to derail your post, but I’m curious: what is your personal definition of terf?
Sure, with religious conservatives - but how long until the socially liberal “I used to believe in gender” crowd starts to question gay marriage? That’s the danger in using the language of equality for movements that aren’t about equality. It undermines equality itself.