This story is from the comments by /u/SuperIsaiah that are listed below, summarised with AI.
User Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account "SuperIsaiah" appears authentic. There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or an inauthentic detransitioner/desister.
The user's comments display a highly consistent, nuanced, and deeply personal narrative over many months. They detail a specific struggle with gender dysphoria rooted in being a feminine, straight, autistic, Christian man who is attracted to masculine women. The internal conflict, the evolution of their reasoning, and the emotional weight (frustration, loneliness, religious grappling) are complex and human-like. Their ideology is a specific blend of anti-transition philosophy and gender non-conformity that is well-documented within some detrans/desister communities. The account's behavior is consistent with a very passionate and opinionated real person.
About me
I was born male but always had a very feminine personality, and puberty made me deeply uncomfortable with my developing male body. I felt immense social pressure that my femininity meant I was failing as a man and that I must really be a woman inside. After a long struggle with my faith and identity, I realized my feminine soul is not at odds with my male body. I never medically transitioned and am now learning to live authentically as a feminine man. While I still face dysphoria at times, I find peace through self-acceptance and a supportive partner.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started when I was a young kid. I always felt different from other boys. I enjoyed things like trying on my sister’s Disney princess dresses, but I never thought that meant I was a girl; I just thought it was fun. I was born male, but my brain has always been very feminine-leaning. I’m also autistic, which I think played a big part in why I took things so literally and felt so alienated.
When I hit puberty, around 11 or 12, things got really hard. I started to hate the changes happening to my body. I didn’t like growing body hair, my voice deepening, or any of the typical male traits. I felt incredibly uncomfortable and out of place. This discomfort grew into full-blown gender dysphoria over time. I began to believe that the only way I could ever be myself—soft, nurturing, and feminine—was if I were a woman. Society and the people around me reinforced this. I was constantly teased for being feminine, with people saying things like, “What are you, a girl?” It made me feel like I was failing at being a man.
For years, I struggled with the idea of transitioning. I spent a lot of time online in communities that told me if I felt this way, I must be a woman trapped in a man’s body. There were periods where I identified as MTF online because it felt like I got more acceptance as a trans lesbian than as a feminine man attracted to masculine women. I’m straight—I’m only attracted to women, specifically very masculine, tough, tomboyish women. But everyone told me that kind of woman would only be a lesbian, and that a feminine guy like me would never find a straight woman who wanted me. That made me feel hopeless and pushed me further toward thinking transition was my only option.
My faith as a devout Christian also played a huge role. I felt torn because the conservative Christian circles I was in often made me feel like I had to conform to masculine stereotypes to be a good Christian man. I felt like I was letting God down by being so feminine. It took a lot of prayer and reflection for me to realize that God made me unique intentionally—my femininity is part of who He created me to be, and it doesn’t contradict my maleness. My identity isn’t tied to my sex; I’m a soul piloting a body, and my body being male is just a fact, not a definition of who I am.
I never medically transitioned. I didn’t take hormones or have any surgeries. I realized that transitioning would be an unhealthy escapism—a way to try and fit into social boxes rather than accepting reality. I believe all gender dysphoria comes from social pressures and trauma, not from being born in the wrong body. If I were raised on a desert island alone, I’d still have all my feminine traits, but I wouldn’t naturally hate my body. The hatred comes from being made to feel that my male body is incompatible with my personality.
Now, I’m desisting. I’m learning to accept myself as a feminine man. I still have dysphoria sometimes, especially when faced with social situations where I’m ridiculed for not being masculine or when I realize I can’t do certain things, like wear a dress to my wedding, without causing a huge stir. But it’s gotten easier over time. Focusing on what my body can do—see, hear, interact with the world—rather than how it looks, helps. So does having a supportive girlfriend who appreciates me as a feminine man.
I don’t regret exploring my feelings, but I firmly believe that transitioning is never the right path. It’s based on a harmful ideology that pushes gender essentialism and tells people they can’t be themselves in the body they have. I think society should move away from gender roles altogether and just let people be people. My goal now is to live authentically as a feminine man and show others that it’s possible.
Here’s a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| ~5-10 | Enjoyed feminine things like dresses and cute aesthetics as a child, but always knew I was a boy and didn't question it. |
| 11-12 | Hit puberty, started feeling intense discomfort with male body changes and social expectations. Gender dysphoria began. |
| 16 | Felt strong pressure that wanting a nurturing, homemaker role meant I must not be a man. Seriously considered transitioning for the first time. |
| Various ages as a young adult | Identified as MTF online at times for acceptance, but it never felt truly right. Struggled with internalized shame and social rejection. |
| Early 20s | Through faith and self-reflection, began desisting. Accepted myself as a feminine man and rejected transgender ideology. |
| Now (exact age not specified) | Living as a desister, managing dysphoria through self-acceptance and focusing on my soul rather than my body. In a relationship with a masculine woman who accepts me as I am. |
Top Reddit Comments by /u/SuperIsaiah:
My position is that transition is NEVER the right option. If someone was really uncomfortable with having toes, we wouldn't tell them to amputate their toes. We'd try to get them comfortable with the idea of having toes.
I believe gender dysphoria is a trauma induced psychological condition. No one is born in the wrong body. Some women have more masculine thought processes and feelings, and some men have more feminine thought processes and feelings. But the only reason they'd hate their body, is because they were traumatized in some way over their body. For some it might be straightforward, like they were sexually molested as a kid. For others, it might be complex ptsd, like constantly being made fun of or scolded for being themselves because they didn't align with the expectations of their gender.
Now, imagine if we treated all psychological conditions this way. Imagine if a kid was abused by having his arms smacked hard every day, and so he develops a hatred for his own arms. Would the doctor suggest amputating perfectly functional healthy arms, because of a psychological condition? If an asian kid was abused for not being white, and grew to hate his skin color, would the doctor recommend he get laser skin lightening treatments to make his skin lighter?
TL;DR - No one is born hating their body. It only happens because in some way or form, they are traumatized into believing their perfectly healthy body is wrong or that they can't be themselves in that body. Acting like the solution is to FEED this self-image, is a horrifying thought.
I do think the procedures should be legal for adults, as it's not my business what you do with your life, but society should not be promoting it, especially to impressionable children.
Elaborate? Why don’t you believe gender identity is a thing?
Why would it be?
Logically, what we call "gender identity" is nothing more than brain commonalities. Various traits more common in one sex than the other.
Why should your identity be tied to what sex your traits happen to be more common in? Your identity is in YOU.
If someone actually sees themselves as a woman
Then I'd say it's because of social conditioning. If I was born and raised by myself on a desert island, I'd still have all my feminine traits, but I wouldn't be like "you know, I wish I didn't have a penis". It doesn't make sense that I'd just naturally feel that way. Logically, the only reason I feel that way is because culture has made me believe that having a penis means I can't be accepted as myself
is that not just who they are?
The traits they have that are more common in the opposite sex are part of who they are, but the fact that those traits are more common in the opposite sex is irrelevant to who they are as an individual.
As an autistic desister, I think it's because our different brain wiring also has the side effect of us not aligning with the processes common with the rest of our sex. As such, we feel alienated from our own sex. We also have a harder time accepting the notion of "this is for guys and this is for girls" when there's no logical reason for it. Why can't a guy wear soft and cute clothes? There's no logical reason that is a problem. So I have a hard time just accepting that expectation.
No, it's a silly notion to me that someone would intrinsically want the other person's genitals and biology from birth.
If a male was born by himself on an island, it wouldn't matter how feminine his brain is, he wouldn't ever go "hey, I feel bad because I don't have extra fat on my chest".
I believe the only reason transgender people have dysphoria is social, like mine. You only feel like a "woman trapped in a man's body", because you've been made to think that having a feminine brain is what makes you a woman, and therefore your body is a problem.
Simple, just realize "gender identity" doesn't exist.
You don't feel like a boy. What does that even mean? That's like saying "I feel like I'm a blonde person stuck in a brunettes body".
Chances are, you just don't fit in with the *stereotypes* of females, and relate more to the *stereotypes* of males.
Women who are more like men in personality are not men, they are just what we'd call masculine women. Some people hate on masculine women, I for one find them very cool and attractive.
Do you see what I'm saying?
I'm a male, I like pastel colors, flowers, flowy skirts, I would love to be a homemaker, and I'm attracted more to masculine traits than feminine ones. Those things are not incompatible with me being male, they're just less common in males.
Despite what I used to tell myself, I do not need to be a woman just because I relate to women more than men on most things.
TL;DR - You don't need to learn to be and feel like a woman, because you already DO feel like a woman, because you are a woman. You might relate more to men, but that doesn't mean you are one.
Trans ideology has basically doubled down on stereotypes a ton, essentially convincing people that your "gender" is just what stereotype you relate to more. This has of course resulted in people being "non-binary" to escape being labelled by a stereotype.
Friend, if your feminine side feels natural and makes you joyful, just accept yourself as a more feminine-leaning man.
That helped me a ton. I still have GD every now and then, but it's a lot less common. Back when I was trying to force myself to be "100% man", my GD was unbearable and I wanted to kill myself every day.
But ever since being like "you know, it's fine that I'm more feminine-leaning and male, those things don't have to be incompatible", I've felt so much lighter.
Realize this: The problem with transgenderism is it's trying to lie to yourself, essentially. It's trying to pretend to be something you're not.
If you naturally don't fit all the male stereotypes, then trying to lie to yourself and pretend you do, will lead to the same inner torment as transitioning.
Yeah, despite what they say, the actions of the trans movement really are anti-gender diversity.
It's funny how I'm treated almost the same by hyper-conservative people as I am by people in the trans movement. The former says "Oh, you want to live the life women are supposed to live? what are you, a girl?" the latter says "Oh, you want to live the life women are supposed to live? Become a girl!"
Also, I've always almost exclusively been attracted to women with masculine features. So in case anyone here is a woman who feels bad about not looking "girly" enough, just know you are very beautiful in your own way, and that the world would be a far worse place without you for people like me.
The ideology is insane. It's basically the same as telling someone who feels uncomfortable with their completely healthy level of body fat to get liposuction or a tapeworm so they can look thin.
Since when is the answer to someone hating their body, telling them to get surgery to change it? We've always taught kids to appreciate the body they have, and not make fun of other people for their bodies. Now we're pushing the idea that if you don't like your natural body you shouldn't accept it???
There are some people in this community that use "you won't pass" as a reason for detransitioning, but for reasons like you said I think that's a really weak argument. I'm firmly against transgender ideology and the whole movement, but not because trans people "don't pass".
I'm against it on an ideological level, not a "it doesn't work" level. I'd still desist even if I could 100% pass, as enticing as it is, I just don't believe it's ultimately good for you.