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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, this account appears to be authentic.
There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or an inauthentic user. The comments display:
- Personal, nuanced detail: The user shares specific, complex personal history (e.g., autism, OCD, vaginismus, style envy) that is consistent across posts and aligns with common detrans/desister experiences.
- Emotional consistency: The tone is passionate, supportive, and empathetic, which is expected from someone who has experienced this journey. The anger is directed at the situation, not other users.
- Logical progression: The story of social detransition (changing names on social media, discussing it with friends) is coherent and believable.
- Human quirks: The writing includes casual, human touches (e.g., "hahah," "it's been way too long haha," discussing nail polish and haircuts) that are difficult to automate convincingly.
This reads as a genuine account of a desister (someone who socially detransitioned) sharing their experience.
About me
I'm Amelia, and my journey with gender started when a friend suggested I might be non-binary, so I began using the name Syd. I realized my feelings of disconnection weren't gender dysphoria but were caused by my autism, OCD, and a medical condition. I was just a gender non-conforming woman who had started overthinking everything. I socially detransitioned by telling my loved ones and reclaiming my name. Now I'm happily embracing being a woman again and having fun exploring my style.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender was confusing for a long time, but I’ve finally found some clarity. It all started when I began identifying as non-binary and used the name Syd for a while. Looking back, I realise a lot of my feelings weren't actually about gender dysphoria, but were connected to other parts of my life.
I'm autistic and have OCD, and I also have a medical condition called vaginismus. All of these things together made me feel really disconnected from my own body, especially my genitalia. It was an "out of sight, out of mind" kind of feeling, which I mistakenly thought was gender dysphoria. I also went through a phase where I wanted to look androgynous. Sometimes I wanted my chest to be flat, but I never actually wanted male features like a beard. I realised that what I thought was "gender envy" towards certain feminine-looking male celebrities was actually just me admiring their style. I wanted to dress like them, not be male.
A big red flag for me was that I had very few signs as a child. I only started feeling uncomfortable being seen as a woman after a friend suggested I might be non-binary. It felt like I was forcing myself into a new box. I started overthinking how people saw me, which created a social dysphoria that wasn't there before. Deep down, I missed being a woman and I never really disliked my birth name, Amelia. I still liked it, and I usually referred to Amelia as my birth name, not a "deadname." My childhood was more about being a gender non-conforming girl. I remember playing Roblox and dressing my avatar in boy's haircuts with girl's clothes, hoping people would be confused. I wasn't non-binary; I just liked challenging people's ideas about gender.
My partner helped me see that I probably never had real dysphoria, and that my feelings were explained by my autism, OCD, and vaginismus. I also had to be honest with myself about my body. While I sometimes liked the idea of having a flat chest for aesthetic reasons, I knew I didn't want top surgery. I actually like having breasts. I remembered that as a kid, before I had them, I wished for them and was upset when a friend teased me for being flat.
My detransition was only social. I never took hormones or had any surgeries. I started by talking to my close friends, my partner, and even a supportive teacher at my uni. Once I was sure I was a woman, I changed my social media handles back to Amelia and made a post about it. It was scary, like ripping off a plaster, but everyone was incredibly supportive. I even kept my old binders because they were expensive and I'm an acting student—they might be useful for a role one day.
Now, I'm embracing being a woman again. I’ve been having fun with my appearance, like painting my nails pink and black, wearing earrings and necklaces, and experimenting with my hair. I shaved my head last July, grew it out, and now I have a short bob with bangs that I'm learning to manage with my curly hair. I feel like I'm finally settling into myself.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Childhood (exact age not given) | Felt a connection to girlhood, enjoyed my name, Amelia. Expressed myself as a gender non-conforming girl. |
| Early 20s (exact start age not given) | A friend suggested I might be non-binary. I began identifying as non-binary and using the name Syd. |
| 23 years old (July) | Shaved my head. |
| 23 years old (October) | Got a short pixie cut. Realised my feelings were not gender dysphoria and began to socially detransition. |
| 23 years old (late October/November) | Spoke with partner and friends, changed social media back to Amelia. |
| 24 years old (now) | Living as a woman, growing out my hair into a bob, and exploring feminine expression. |
Top Comments by /u/Syd_Syd_:
Girl it's just a part of your history. It's not you! I remember I was dating this guy and he told me he used to identify as non binary about halfway in the relationship. I was just like "oh no way, cool!" And then we moved on. It's not a huge part of who you are so trust me it won't even phase him. :)
Thanks for the tips that's so nice! I literally have pink and black nails on right now haha.
I have two binders but don't wear them anymore of course. I kept them because a) they're expensive so if I ever decided to transition again (I won't but you know) I have them and b) I'm an acting student, could be useful for a role.
What's tomboyx? Is that a brand?
Love the jewelry idea, luckily for me my ear piercings have recently healed so I have been having fun with earrings but getting more necklaces could be good too.
Just a girl slaps and I completely forgot about that song not gonna lie it's been way too long haha. Thank you!!!
I'm only a social de-transitioner but this is what I did. I discussed it with a few close friends and my partner and I even mentioned it to a teacher at my uni who I'm comfortable with (and she's also LGBT) and once I knew that I am definitely a woman, Amelia and not Syd as my username suggests, I decided to make an Instagram post and change my social media handles (Reddit won't let me though) it's kinda like ripping off a plaster, you just have to do it if it's what's best for you. Even if it's scary. And you know what, that post on my Instagram got the most likes I have ever had on that account. Everyone has been so supportive. And I'm sure people will support you too. Good luck my friend :) it will be ok
I mean I'm not using my full name. And I feel comfortable with that. No-one is gonna find me just by my first name haha. Especially as it's one of the world's most common names. And anyway, Syd was my old name haha and it's not my legal one so I guess thats something 😂
Hey friend. I saw your post about being @rous3d when dressing up as a woman and imagining being a woman during those times. Whilst this is yes the wrong server for questioning your gender identity if you're trans or not (it's more about if you need to detransition or not here) it's perfectly valid to question yourself! And people here are mostly being super rude. Obviously I'm not an expert and I'm also not trans so my best advice is to hit Google to be honest. But it sounds like perhaps it could be a kink thing for you? Which doesn't necessarily make you trans. If you enjoy crossdressing as a man that's cool and ok! But to BE trans you would need to want to be seen as a woman, all the time. Not just in a sex way. It wouldn't make you feel @rous3d it would make you feel gender euphoria. And being seen as a man would probably make you incredibly uncomfortable. That's what being trans is. If you feel like the sadness in your life that's being fixed by dressing up as a woman is the gender dysphoria, that you aren't seen as a woman and just want everyone to see you that way, then you could be trans perhaps.
One way to look at it is this, it's a common question to find out if you're trans. There's a button in front of you. Press that button and you will be AFAB. Everyone would have always seen you as afab and there's no turning back. Noone will judge you and you would have never been AMAB. You will be the same you, just now the female sex. Do you press that button? If your awnser is yes, you could be trans and likely are. If your awnser is no, you might still be, but maybe explore other options like it being a kink thing
I really hope this helps. And I hope you're ok. Ignore those being rude to you. Have a good day
Amelia She/they
I shaved my head in July, grew it out a bit and got it cut again short in the October, not buzzed just like a short pixie length with bits of the sides shaved. Now my hair is layered but it's a short bob with bangs now. And I had a haircut recently that took a bit off making it more even and bob-shaped. It's kinda settling in. I have curly hair so it has it's super bad days but after a shower and an extensive curl routine it can look quite cute.
Thought I would copy and paste a message I sent to someone asking the same question.
So it's a very recent discovery for me. I realised that how I felt with my gender wasn't actually dysphoria at all. Here's what it actually was and the signs I am detrans
•I am autistic, OCD and tmi here but I suffer from a condition called vaginismus. These combined make me feel very disconnected from my genitalia and see it as "out of sight out of mind" which sounds like dysphoria
•I want to be androgynous and sometimes want my chest to be flat. But I don't want a beard, though I look hot with one drawn on sometimes hahah. I thought I wanted only a little bit of beard but thinking on it, nah. My "gender envy" is mainly towards afabs and the amabs I got it from are femme (like Robert Sheehan and Timothee Chalamet) turns out it wasn't gender envy, it was STYLE envy. Which makes a whole lot more sense
•I had very little childhood signs. And only started feeling socially dysphoric after a friend told me I'm probably not non binary if I don't. So I started thinking too much about it, making myself more socially dysphoric. And obviously, if I think I'm genderfluid, being seen as such is gonna feel good right! But I also missed being a woman. And didn't refer to Amelia as my deadname usually more my birth name. Because I still liked it. My childhood signs could all be explained by being queer, being autistic, being OCD or having vaginismus. Like when I played Roblox as a kid I liked dressing up with the boys haircut and girls clothes, wanting people to notice, ask if I'm a boy or a girl and get mad. Not because I'm non binary but because I'm gender non conforming
•i always had a connection to girlhood as a kid. And loved my name. It was more of a recent thing. Which was a flag for me
•i felt like I was forcing myself into a box really with my gender. Like I missed girlhood and being a woman and stuff so I knew maybe I was on the wrong path
•My partner also thinks that I didn't actually have dysphoria it was just other similar things.
•I might still bind or maybe even envy top surgery. But won't actually get it because I do like having boobs I just wanna be flat sometimes. For aesthetic reasons I guess! Even if I can imagine myself happy with it it's probably not my truth. Because as a kid, when I was flat I hated it and wished I was pretty with boobs. When my friend insulted me by saying I hardly had them I was upset.
I really hope this helps and makes sense. If my experience resonates with you you might be detrans. But that's ok. Doesn't make you a bad person. Remember, people find out new things about themselves all the time. Discovery is part of life and it's never too late to discover something new about yourself ok.
You are valid and loved whatever Amelia She/they