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About me
I started as a depressed teenager who hated my developing female body and found communities online that told me I was trans. I took testosterone and had surgery to remove my breasts, believing it would fix my deep unhappiness. I eventually realized my pain came from internalized misogyny and low self-esteem, not from being female, and that transition couldn't cure those wounds. Now I live with permanent changes to my body and deep regret for the path I took. I am learning to accept myself as a woman, understanding that my sex doesn't limit who I can be.
My detransition story
My journey with all of this started when I was a teenager. I was really uncomfortable with my body, especially when I went through puberty and developed breasts. I hated them. I felt like they didn't belong on me and that they made me a target. I also struggled a lot with depression and very low self-esteem. I spent a huge amount of time online, and that's where I found communities that told me my discomfort meant I was trans. They said that not "feeling" like a woman was a sign I wasn't one, and that I could become a man instead. It felt like an escape from all the things I hated about being female.
I started identifying as non-binary first, and then as a trans man. I took testosterone for a while. It made my voice deeper and gave me facial hair, and at the time, I thought that was what I wanted. I believed it would fix my problems. I eventually got top surgery and had my breasts removed. I thought it would finally make me happy with my body.
But it didn't. After a while, I started to realize that my problems weren't about my gender. My depression and anxiety were still there. My low self-esteem was still there. I began to see that a lot of my initial discomfort was actually with how society treats women, not with being a woman myself. I saw the misogyny everywhere and I hated it, and I think on some level, I thought transitioning was a way to opt out of that oppression. But you can't opt out. I was still the same person, and now I had permanently altered my body.
I started to understand that the whole idea of "feeling like a man" or "feeling like a woman" is flawed. I don't "feel" like a woman in some special internal way; I just am one. I was born female. Wearing certain clothes or having certain interests doesn't change that. The ideology I had followed actually reinforced the worst gender stereotypes: that feminine people are women and masculine people are men. It reduces us to stereotypes. I came to see that my body dysmorphia was separate from my sex. I also think my experience was influenced by internalized homophobia, as I am attracted to women, and there was a part of me that thought it would be easier to be a man loving a woman than a woman loving a woman.
Now, I deeply regret my transition. I regret taking testosterone and I especially regret getting top surgery. I am now infertile because of the hormones, which is a serious and permanent health complication that I have to live with. I look at my body and I see the scars, both physical and mental. I feel like I was lied to by online communities and an ideology that doesn't hold up to scrutiny. I am angry that my very real concerns about the oppression of women were twisted into a reason to try and escape being one.
I don't believe in gender identity anymore. I think we are our sex, and that's it. There's no wrong way to be a man or a woman. I benefited greatly from therapy that was not gender-affirming, therapy that helped me work through my depression, my self-esteem issues, and my discomfort with puberty without telling me the solution was to change my body. I am now trying to accept myself as a female person, scars and all.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 14 | Started hating my breasts and feeling intense discomfort with female puberty. Struggled with depression and low self-esteem. |
| 16 | Spent a lot of time online, influenced into believing I was non-binary. |
| 17 | Began identifying as a trans man and started taking testosterone. |
| 19 | Got top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 22 | Realized my problems were not solved by transition and began to regret my decisions. Stopped testosterone. |
| 23 | Underwent non-affirming therapy that helped me address my underlying issues. Officially detransitioned. |
Top Comments by /u/Tadpole_Plyrr2:
Sounds to me like AGP, I think a lot of people are misunderstanding what you’re saying, you don’t want just fake boobs or a whole bodysuit, you will never have a vagina to have intercourse inside of and that bothers you.
But I’m sorry, that’s just science, I sometimes wonder what sex would be like with a penis but I will never have a penis.
I think you would benefit from therapy.
I am a woman, I have never had a “mind-blowing” orgasm, in fact, every woman I’ve ever met has either never orgasmed or only orgasmed without a partner. I think you are porn addicted, I saw your comments on another post where you said you’d rather be a woman because they have it “easier” which makes me think you are also a misogynist. And I know you are going to say you aren’t but that’s ok, that just means you don’t want to come to terms with it so you are shifting the hate to being being transgender instead.
Like I said, you would greatly benefit from therapy.
Women do not have it easier.
When in society, women are seen as whores and sluts for every little thing they do. They are easier to beat up, and are more-often raped and murdered by men than men are.
When in a clinical setting, women are never taken seriously being told “it’s just your period” or that they’re being emotional due to being a woman and they probably just have “hysteria”.
When in a work setting, women are paid less even when usually working under more stress than men like when they come back after giving birth or are on their period.
When in legal settings, women are often told they are lying to ruin men’s reputation and are legally having their bodily autonomy taken away.
When in romantic settings, women are pressured into being with men because men act as if they are OWED sex or being with us.
In home settings, women are expected to take care of all the houses chores AND work a job, when men come home they are allowed to just lay down and rest but when women come home they still have to cook dinner and clean.
In parental settings, women have to have to sacrifice themselves to take care of their kids because more often than not, their husbands don’t know how to take care of their children when she is not home.
How do women have it easier?????
Exactly, never understood why trans people don’t understand that differences of opinion can still be supportive. The most important part of dating/marriage is understanding that you and your partner are two different people and have different opinions due to your experiences on life.
You don’t have to be masculine to be a man, that’s just what trans people have fed you.
To them, Feminine = woman Masculine = man Androgynous = nonbinary
It’s an utterly harmful ideology, you can wear whatever you want to and still be a man. It’s these trans people who say things like “a man dressing like a girl? The closet is glass!” Or “my transdar is going off” and “your egg is cracking” they say “trans women are women due to them being feminine” which is reducing women down to femininity and they say “trans men are men due to them being masculine” is reducing men down to masculinity which reinforces gender roles. There is no incorrect way to be a man, you just are one.
I never understood the whole “embracing your masculinity” after detransitioning, what do you mean by that? If you understand there’s no incorrect way to be a man, then why do you need to “embrace” masculinity to be one? In fact, I’m willing to bet the only reason you thought you were nonbinary is because they told you that cis and trans women feel like women and cis and trans men feel like men and you never noticed a feeling either way, that feeling is normal. Not feeling like either gender is not being nonbinary, that’s just normal. You’re not supposed to feel like anything, you are just what you were born as.
Idk, just something for you to think about.
Well first of all, you’re not a sexual predator.
A sexual predator is by definition “an individual who exhibits a pattern of SEEKING OUT and attempting to obtain sexual contact with others in a way that is predatory or abusive”. They’re called predators because they are essentially LOOKING for a “prey”, unless you are using your AGP to rape women then you are not a sexual predator.
I think your first step is to understand why you have AGP, is it trauma rooted? Is it sexism rooted? How did it awaken in you? If your answer isn’t something harmful then I see no problem with you practicing AGP in a safe, sane, and consensual environment.
As for your second step, how the sex will work is decided by you and the partner. You want to have sex with women right? Talk to her about your fantasies, if she is against them, move on, find a new sex partner. If she is not, figure out how you want to have the sex. Positions, top/bottom, etc.
And the last step would be to just have fun, and for the love of all things good, please do not chop your dick off for this fetish.
Call me hateful, but I genuinely don’t care.
These men are why I am a TERF. It’s because of these people that I have come to acknowledge how ridiculous gender ideology actually is, and how harmful it is, especially to women.
To be a man and call yourself a woman simply because you like to wear feminine clothing is LITERALLY reducing women to femininity as if women can’t be masculine, AND WHEN THEY ARE PEOPLE TRY TO TELL THEM THEY ARE TRANS MEN!!!
The R in TERF literally stands for radical and radical is defined as something progressive. It’s sad that this is progressive. It shouldn’t be seen as progressive to believe that a man can’t be a woman, nor can a woman be a man, that should just be science.
If a white person wanted to be come black then everyone would have a problem with that because it’s inherently wrong for the oppressor to want to be oppressed like.. THATS WEIRD!!!! But when men want to become women as if women aren’t oppressed by men… then we just have to let them I guess because they’re men.
My gender is not a costume, I am very oppressed by the patriarchy and I am tired of not being allowed to say that I am offended due to being silenced by being called a “transphobe”
How am I a transphobe when trans people are literally homophobic every day?? LITERALLY the MAIN argument that trans women use against lesbians is “lesbians refuse to date trans women because they have a penis” as if ‘refuse to date’ LITERALLY isn’t just not respecting consent.
No I’m tired of this. I’m tired of misogynists. I’m tired of getting yelled at by people who make me uncomfortable that I’m transphobic. I’m tired of the bs being fed to innocent children. I’m tired of it all. I’m so glad I detransitioned. AND I DO NOT CARE IF YOU DOWNVOTE ME FOR THIS!!!!