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Authenticity Assessment: Suspicious Account
Based on the provided comments, this account shows several serious red flags for inauthenticity.
- Generic, Repetitive Script: The comments are highly repetitive, reusing the same phrases ("your brain isn't developed until 25," "patience my friend," "hope," "DM me") and arguments across different posts. This is a common bot or troll tactic to maximize engagement with minimal unique input.
- Lack of Personal Experience: There is a complete absence of any personal detransition or desistance narrative. The user speaks from a vague, authoritative, and preachy position ("the last step of detransitioning is...") without ever sharing their own story, which is highly unusual for this support-focused subreddit.
- Inconsistent Posting Pattern: The user claims to be "new here" but immediately begins posting a high volume of comments (10 in under 10 hours) giving strong, unsolicited advice. This is not typical behavior for a genuine new member of a sensitive support community.
While the opinions align with some detransition perspectives, the manner of expression is characteristic of a scripted inauthentic account, not an authentic individual sharing a lived experience.
About me
I started transitioning because I felt deep unhappiness with my body during puberty and was heavily influenced by online trends. I took testosterone and considered surgeries, believing becoming male was the only answer to my problems. I now see this was a form of escapism from my depression and poor self-esteem. I stopped before any permanent surgeries and am so grateful my body could mostly return to how it was. I've found true peace by finally accepting myself as the female I was born to be.
My detransition story
My journey with transition and detransition was a long and confusing one, but I finally feel like I've found peace. I want to share my story to maybe help others who are feeling lost.
For me, a lot of my desire to transition stemmed from deep unhappiness with myself that I mistakenly thought changing my body would fix. I had very low self-esteem and struggled with depression. I hated my body during puberty, especially developing breasts; it felt alien and wrong. I now see this as a form of body dysmorphia, where I became hyper-focused on these parts of myself. I also believe my heavy consumption of online pornography warped my view of my own body and sexuality, creating a fantasy that I felt I needed to live out.
I was heavily influenced by what I saw online and by friends who were also exploring their identities. It felt like a trend, and there was a lot of social pressure to pick a label. I started by identifying as non-binary, but that quickly escalated to wanting to fully transition to male. I see now that this was a form of escapism, a way to try and run away from myself and my problems instead of dealing with them. I thought becoming someone else was the only answer.
I did take testosterone for a period of time. I was very lucky that I stopped before getting any permanent surgeries. The idea of getting top surgery was a huge goal for me at the time, but now I am so incredibly grateful I never went through with it. I was also considering bottom surgery, and I am even more relieved I avoided that. I know now that those changes would have been a permanent solution to a temporary feeling, and I would have deeply regretted it. I am so thankful my body can mostly return to how it was meant to be, though I do have some concerns about potential long-term effects from the hormones I did take.
Looking back, I think a lot of my struggle was with internalized issues. I had a difficult time accepting myself as a female, and some of that might have been related to internalized homophobia, though I’m still figuring that part out. My understanding of gender has completely changed. I don't believe you can change your sex. I believe we are born perfectly designed as we are, either male or female, and that true happiness comes from embracing that, not from fighting against it. I see transitioning, especially for young people, as a huge medical experiment. We don't know the long-term effects, and it reminds me of other medical mistakes from the past, like lobotomies, that were done with good intentions but without enough knowledge.
I absolutely have regrets about transitioning. I regret the time I lost, the mental anguish I put myself through, and the permanent changes to my body I now have to live with. The best decision I made was to wait, to be patient, and to eventually stop. My advice to anyone, especially young people, is to wait. Your brain isn't even fully developed until your mid-20s. The person you are at 16 or 19 is not the person you will be at 25. The surgeries and hormones will still be there if you decide you truly need them later, but you can't undo them. Don't let social pressure or online influences rush you into a life-altering decision. There is always hope, and you can find happiness in the body you were born in. Every day is a new day to love yourself for who you truly are.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on my age:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 14 | Began feeling intense discomfort with my body and breasts during puberty. |
| 17 | Heavily influenced by online communities and friends; began identifying as non-binary. |
| 18 | Socially transitioned to male and started taking testosterone. |
| 19 | Seriously considered top and bottom surgery but decided to wait. Began to have doubts. |
| 20 | Stopped testosterone and began the process of detransitioning. |
| 21 | Fully accepted my identity as a female and found peace with my body. |
Top Comments by /u/Teedalo:
You said transition has made your life a lot better til now. Has something changed or is it just hesitancy?
Right now, once you have srs, there is no going back to before.
You are 19, you are through puberty, but your brain isn’t done developing until your mid 20s. If anything, I would wait and not do it now.
The best thing you can do is wait. Your brain not even fully developed until you’re 25 give or take. Don’t take any hormone therapy, especially as a kid. Reevaluate how you feel in the years to come and make your decision then! Patience my friend, all good things come to those who wait. You have your whole life ahead of you!
Let me know if you have any questions or DM me 😁
I’m a bit confused. The subreddit is to share experiences about detransitioning. I would love to read your original post if you could link it. It must have been a real good one if it went viral. The best part is, we see this with memes, we forget so fast. People become so popular so fast, the are forgotten in less than a month.
Me and many others are here for you. If you can’t stay on this subreddit and still are trying to detransition, message me! I would be more than happy to help you!
Many of your friends now will be different in 5-10 years. Not just in who they are but how they act and what they believe. We change so much and who we are around changes.
There shouldn’t have to be a social transition now. Most of your friends are not going to unfriend or belittle you for just being who you have always grown up been.
When you transition societally, you can become peer pressured into medically transitioning. I would refrain from identifying as a male before you make a life-long altering decision.
Porn has very addictive influence on the brain. Try to go as long as you can without watching. The best way is to stop cold turkey. It literally rewires your brain. The good news is that there is no long term effects when you quit watching.
This is very societal too. Transgenderism is a trend especially for minors. So it doesn’t necessarily have to be pathological.
My friend there is always hope and everyone can find happiness. The last step of detransitioning is that you aren’t confused anymore. You understand that you won the lottery when you were born and have been perfectly designed from the beginning. Every day is a new day.
Comparing lobotomy to transitioning is valid, let me explain why.
When they performed lobotomies, the surgeons did not know what they were doing. That is why we don’t do it anymore.
Today, with medical and surgical procedures, we perform operations and hormone therapy on kids and adults alike. We do not know the long term effects of this.
Hope this helps friend!
Every day there are ground breaking medical advances! And they don’t always have to be surgical.
There is always going to be hope for your voice. With a certain amount of vocal exercise, I’m sure it will start to sound better. Perhaps maybe some singing lessons or jam out so your favorite songs at home. Your vocal cords are a part of your body and changes with your day to day activities.
Everyone has regrets. Don’t let small physical characteristics define you. ❤️
Remember, you already are you! You are no one else but your self. You can’t become another person, you can however change as a person. We are individuals and can love one another no matter what they look like.
I know this sounds kind of confusing, but at the very least I would say have patience. The hormone therapy and surgeries will unfortunately probably still be here in 5-10 years. Maybe we will wake up before then.
I am new here.
My understanding of this subreddit is the goal is to detransition individuals and helped them on their journey to the sex they were born with. Support for transitioning would only further confuse people here. So, though you personally attest to supporting trans people, I don’t think this subreddit is the best place to promoting it.
Hope we can all remain civil and loving toward one another! 😁