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The user's perspective is consistent and evolves over time, showing personal reflection. They explicitly state they are a desister who almost transitioned but did not, which aligns with the defined criteria. Their passion and anger are consistent with the genuine trauma and frustration found in the detrans community.
About me
I was deeply unhappy and believed becoming a woman would fix everything, but I now see it was just escapism from my depression and low self-esteem. I started to see the community's ideology as cult-like, where questioning anything got you shunned, and I became suspicious that the medical system preys on vulnerable people for profit. I never went through with any procedures and am grateful I realized my discomfort wasn't about gender but other issues I needed to work through. I now know it's okay to just be an effeminate man without changing my body. My focus now is on raising awareness that detransitioners exist and that transition is a serious decision with lifelong consequences.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started from a place of deep confusion and unhappiness. For a long time, I was very close to transitioning. I was deeply unhappy and believed that becoming a woman might be the solution to all my problems. I now see that a lot of my feelings were tied up in other mental health issues that I wasn't dealing with. I was depressed, had very low self-esteem, and was using the idea of transition as a form of escapism from my real problems. I was also influenced a lot by what I saw in online communities, which felt more like echo chambers than support groups. They had a very specific way of thinking, and if you didn't agree with all of it, you were pushed out.
I started to pull back when I realized I wasn't mentally healthy enough to make such a huge, life-altering decision. I began to see the whole thing differently. I started to view transgender ideology as similar to a religion or a cult. It's based on a feeling that you can't prove, just like you can't prove a god exists. And just like in some religious groups, if you change your beliefs or leave, you are often shunned by people you thought were your friends. The community heavily relies on indoctrination and doesn't allow for any questioning or doubt.
I also became very suspicious of the medical side of things. I believe a lot of people are pushed to transition for money. Doctors and therapists make a lot of money from prescriptions and surgeries, and they are too scared of being called transphobic to ever question someone or suggest that transition might not be the right path. It feels like a system that preys on vulnerable, mentally unwell people. I saw this especially with very young people being allowed to make these decisions; we don't let kids drink alcohol because it affects their development, but we let them take puberty blockers and hormones. It doesn't make sense to me.
I never went through with any medical procedures. I only ever considered transitioning socially. I am so grateful now that I didn't go further because I know I would have regretted it. My discomfort wasn't really about gender; it was about other issues I needed to work through. I benefited from stepping back and realizing that it's okay to just be an effeminate man. You don't need to fit a perfect label or change your body to be happy. I had to learn to stop caring so much about what society or specific groups thought of me.
My thoughts on gender now are that there is no such thing as a male or female brain. We are all just people, and it's okay to be a man who is feminine or a woman who is masculine. You don't need to change your body to match a feeling. For me, the whole concept was born from nurture, not nature—a product of my environment and mental state, not an innate truth.
I don't regret exploring these feelings because it led me to a better understanding of myself, but I absolutely regret how close I came to making a permanent mistake. I am now very focused on raising awareness that detransitioners exist and that transition is not the right path for everyone. It’s a serious decision with lifelong consequences, and it shouldn’t be taken lightly or pushed on people who are struggling.
| Age | Date (Approximate) | Event |
|---|---|---|
| (Age not specified) | Around 2018-2019 | Seriously considered social transition, believing it was the answer to my depression and low self-esteem. |
| (Age not specified) | Late 2019 | Recognized my poor mental health and decided not to transition, realizing it was a form of escapism. |
| (Age not specified) | 2020 | Solidified my view that the trans community operates like a cult and began to speak out about the dangers of indoctrination and the reality of detransition. |
Top Comments by /u/Terror-Error:
How the fuck are these kids so aware and confident they were born the wrong gender at such a young age? I didn't even know my sexual orientation at that age and yet we trust children to make life altering decisions before we're willing to trust them with alcohol. And just so you know, the primary reason alcohol has an age restriction is because of the affects it has on an individual's brain and body development.
So basically, we let anyone, even children, have access to puberty blockers and gender altering drugs just so that we don't get labelled trans phobic. It's wrong. Trans people exist but you should at least have to wait until you're an adult to make these very serious life changing and sometimes irreversible decisions.
Hey I know you. You're reincarnation man who bashes on other religions but for some reason is obsessed with reincarnation. You're also the guy that sent me 2 pages for my 3 lines of text.
I'm sorry you got hate mail but seriously dude your opinions are extreme.
It's okay to be an effeminate bisexual man. Why are you so terrified of not fitting a label? You've seen bisexual men but in no way do you have to behave or act like them. They are unique individuals as are you. You do not have to conform to a set of rules to fit a narrative.
Why do you feel the need to mimic those around you to such an extreme extent? There's no role to fit other than the ones you're imposing on yourself.
It is sad. It's sad that your friends would turn their backs on you because you are doing what you think is right for you.
They're basically saying 'how dare you be happy being cis'.
I would continue to reach out to them. Challenge their views. If nothing else you can bring their hypocritical views to light. And then you can ask yourself if these individuals are worth being friends with.
Happy new year!
These are not friendship groups. They are echo chambers. If you don't regurgitate the same ideology as everyone else then your out. Once again, no different from religious groups when an individual changes faith only to find their 'friends' immediately distance themselves from you.
Then cross dress then? But given the way you wrote this it seems like you think there is something wrong with you.
As you said lots of people are addicted to stuff, and this is fine as long as you manage your addiction around your life.
For some people their addiction becomes their life and they will shape their life around it. They will put off events and necessaries to create more room for their addiction. But as long as you only do it at suitable situations it's just a hobby.
That's exactly the issue. They THINK they are doing what's right. So do all the religions in the world, but we know they're not. Ignorance truly is bliss, with 84% of the world's population following a religion. Lots of them live happy meaningful lives even though they're worshipping space fairies. My point being, just because you think you are right doesn't give you the right to go around spreading your indoctrinating propaganda.
It sounds like you're in a good place with your dysphoria but when people guess your gender incorrectly that upsets you? It sounds harsh but you've got to learn to accept these things happen. Most of the time it will be a stranger making an honest mistake and there isn't much you can do about it. Especially if your goal is to present yourself as androgynous. That's bound to trip some people up.
Stop caring about what society thinks. They don't care about you so why should you care about them?
Can you be sure your following the correct religion? This is what the trans ideology is. You can't prove your the wrong gender, no one can. Just like you can't prove a God is real. If your an atheist or agnostic then you can look at religious followers as incorrect or misled. Even though you acknowledge their religion is probably wrong, millions of people follow it and presumably benefit from their beliefs. Trans is the same, except you attempt to rebuild your body in the hope that it will be a cure all. The damage you do to yourself in the process does more harm than good in the long run.
Addictions are an illness but the world isn't ready to recognize that everything can be addicting. From work to religion, trains to video games. Sugar and caffeine are highly addictive but we don't recognize them as addictions. Why? Because it's profitable. This is the main reason I believe all societies have accepted the trans community overnight as they are highly profitable having to purchase drugs for many years, require expensive operations and therapy for most of their transition. Whereas homosexuals had to fight tooth and nail to be accepted but they still face social stigma today. Homosexuals are no where near as profitable as the trans community.