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Reddit user /u/The1PunMaster's Detransition Story

female
hated breasts
influenced online
puberty discomfort
anxiety
only transitioned socially
had religious background
become non-religious
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  • Personal and nuanced views: The user expresses personal experiences (e.g., being turned away from the church, having ADHD) and offers balanced, nuanced opinions on complex issues.
  • Consistent but evolving perspective: The tone and focus are consistent from 2020 to 2024, showing a thoughtful engagement with the topic over time.
  • Appropriate passion: The passion displayed aligns with the expected frustration of someone personally affected by the subject matter.

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About me

I was born female and my questioning started as a young adult. My journey was complicated by impulsivity from my ADHD and a search for identity after leaving my religion. I spent a lot of time in online communities and came to believe the best path is a careful, individual one that treats underlying issues first. I considered social transition and even surgery, but I'm glad I didn't rush into anything permanent. I'm now comfortable living as a woman and believe people need space to explore all the reasons for their distress.

My detransition story

My journey with gender has been complicated, and I've spent a lot of time thinking and talking about it online. I was born female, and my questioning didn't really start until I was a young adult. I never transitioned medically, so my experience is mostly about the social side of things and a lot of internal questioning.

Looking back, I think a lot of my confusion came from a few different places. I have ADHD, and I know that makes me impulsive. I remember thinking once that the classic "button test" for being trans wasn't a good measure for me because I'd probably push any button that promised a change, just out of that impulsivity. I also turned away from the religion I was raised in long before I started thinking about gender, and that loss of a structured belief system might have left me searching for an identity elsewhere.

I spent a lot of time in online spaces, and I saw both extremes: the hyper-confirmation from some trans communities where any questioning is seen as bad, and the hyper-negative side from detrans spaces that say nobody is really trans. It's exhausting, and I've always felt that the most reasonable approach is somewhere in the middle. For any kind of distress, whether it's physical or mental, the goal should be to find the treatment that provides the best outcome with the least harm. For some people, that might be transitioning. For others, working on underlying issues like anxiety or depression through therapy might be a better path. I came to believe that what's right for one person isn't always right for another, even if their situations seem similar.

I did experience some physical discomfort. I hated my breasts sometimes, but I also understood that this was partly because of how they change naturally with my hormone cycle, swelling and hurting during my period. I thought about using a packer to help with feelings about my lower body, and I even looked into the realities of surgery. But I always circled back to the idea that these were big, permanent steps, and I needed to be sure. I was suspicious of people who used loaded words like "mutilation" because I think that just fosters a negative self-image.

My thoughts on gender now are that it's a mix of social expectations, personality, and physical feelings. It's not just one thing. I think it's important to look at what symptoms show up first and if anything else, like societal pressure, could be causing them. I never felt like a "trans kid"; this was something that developed for me later.

I don't regret exploring my gender, but I'm glad I didn't rush into medical interventions. I'm now comfortable living as the woman I am, though I understand that my path might look different from someone else's. I think it's crucial that people have access to non-affirming therapy to explore all the reasons behind their feelings, including things like internalized homophobia or body dysmorphia, which I think often get missed. I'm not opposed to medical transition for everyone—I even defended its validity by comparing it to reborn dolls for mothers who've experienced loss, as a way to show that unusual treatments can be helpful for some—but it has to be a decision made with a full understanding of the risks and benefits.

Here is a timeline of my journey based on my comments:

My Age Year Event
Early 20s 2020-2021 Active online, questioning gender identity and discussing it extensively in forums. Expressed discomfort with breasts and considered social transition steps like packing.
Mid 20s 2023-2024 Moved towards a more settled view, emphasizing the need for careful, individual evaluation of treatment options. Expressed comfort with living as a woman and focused on managing underlying issues like anxiety.

Top Reddit Comments by /u/The1PunMaster:

16 comments • Posting since November 29, 2020
Reddit user The1PunMaster (Questioning own transgender status) comments on a critical article about a doctor, pointing out its inaccurate slang definition and perceived anti-trans bias.
15 pointsFeb 27, 2024
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Now I really don't like her, however this article is giving me bad vibes. Like the definition of "yeet" is just wrong (worthless is not implied, its just throwing something hastily, i *guess* you could say violently but the rest is bad). I've seen people talk about her without calling her patients girls and having a very obvious anti- trans agenda.

Reddit user The1PunMaster (Questioning own transgender status) suggests therapy over cosmetic procedures to address the root of feminine appearance insecurities.
14 pointsMay 20, 2024
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Honestly i think you look very feminine, tbh i would recommend something else like therapy to address the insecurities if you arnt already in it? i get it’s something that takes time to heal, but considering you are thinking about spending that much money on something more temporary, maybe addressing the root of it would help better? just a thought tho

Reddit user The1PunMaster (questioning own gender transition) comments on why they cannot turn back to religion for support, while acknowledging it can help others.
11 pointsJan 27, 2021
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I personally have been turned away from the church even before my gender came into the picture, and I could not picture myself turning back to god and truly believing in the faith again, but that’s just me, an belief in a system of faith can definitely help some people just not me :)

Reddit user The1PunMaster (questioning own gender transition) comments on the exhausting extremes of trans discourse, thanking another user for their reasonable perspective.
10 pointsNov 29, 2020
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Thank you. I hear all the time the two extremes (the hyper-confirmation side from the trans and lgbt community and the hyper-negative nobody is trans side from the detrans and everyone else) and it just gets exhausting. I like how this comment was put together reasonably, so thank you very much. Have a good day.

Reddit user The1PunMaster (Questioning own gender identity) comments on the use of the term "mutilation" for bottom surgery, arguing it is an inherently emotional word that promotes poor self-image and fosters negativity.
9 pointsMay 22, 2023
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Mutilation is inherently a word with feeling, don’t act like you are being objective or using common sense or something like that. Personally I think that calling it mutilation (especially to your own body) just promotes poor self image and fosters feelings of negativity (basically it may hurt you more than help) but that’s just IMO.

Reddit user The1PunMaster (Questioning own gender identity) explains that the long-term effects of puberty blockers are still unknown, citing a 2021 literature review calling for more longitudinal studies.
9 pointsMar 28, 2023
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Genuine answer is that we are currently unsure. But the important part of any medical treatment plan is that the risks and benefits be assessed. Most medications have risks associated with them, but the whole point is that they are meant to treat or alleviate a symptom/disorder/disease. Puberty blockers are not special in that regard, but even literature reviews as recent as 2021 say that we need more longitudinal and mixed method studies in the subject area.

Reddit user The1PunMaster (Questioning own transgender status) critiques an article for neglecting to compare post-transition suicide rates to pre-transition baselines, arguing that gender dysphoria's comorbidity with depression makes relative improvement a more vital metric than comparison to the general population.
7 pointsMar 12, 2024
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This article is giving me bad vibes. Specifically because it talks about post transition numbers but neglects to compare these rates to pre transition numbers. Gender dysphoria is often comorbid with other things like depression, so honestly I would expect suicide risk to always be higher in transgender people (especially with the way society is atm) compared to the general population, but what matters more is comparing that risk to pre transition (and also suicidality is only one aspect of the equation, someone can be living a shit life but not be suicidal, and can have QOL improve without changing suicidality)

Reddit user The1PunMaster (questioning own gender transition) comments that Elliot Page will continue playing a female character in 'The Umbrella Academy' without hormones for the foreseeable future.
7 pointsDec 2, 2020
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Just to answer anyone that doesn’t know, Elliot will be in the third season of umbrella academy (based from the comment on Twitter) and while I do not have a direct source atm, it seems like Elliot is still going to play the female character in umbrella academy as a female, so probably not any hormones for the foreseeable future. I do wish him the best of luck and if any trans celeb needs to de transition I hope they are not met with backlash

Reddit user The1PunMaster (Questioning own transgender status) explains that therapy is not a common treatment for gender dysphoria, as current medical practice primarily offers medical transition after diagnosis.
7 pointsMar 10, 2024
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You would need a change to the diagnostic and treatment criteria for that, because the only commonly accepted practice currently after diagnosis is medical transition. Therapy is typically a management or pre diagnosis thing, but not a common treatment option for doctors atm.

Reddit user The1PunMaster (Questioning own transgender status) suggests consulting a therapist and doctor to treat underlying anxiety and low energy before deciding if testosterone is right for them.
6 pointsFeb 19, 2024
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Is this something you have talked to a therapist about? Less for the gender side, and more for the anxiety and potentially other effects that you say testosterone helps with. If you liked all the effects of testosterone, then the negatives are just a byproduct of any medication you could take (also atrophy can be treated). If there are other things at play that testosterone happened to be treating (low energy, anxiety, etc) maybe you should talk to your doctor about going on medication for those symptoms specifically, and then see if after that’s treated if you still want to take testosterone?