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The user expresses strong, consistent opinions common in the community, engages in nuanced debate, and offers personal perspective (e.g., "I say this as a woman"). The passion and political digression are not unusual for a real, passionate user.
About me
I started my transition because I hated my body and felt pressured by sexualized ideas of femininity. I took testosterone and had surgery to remove my breasts, thinking it would fix my discomfort. I eventually realized I was trying to solve my low self-esteem and anxiety by changing my body, not because I wasn't female. Now, I am learning to accept my body as it is and live as a woman again. While I have some regrets, this difficult journey has given me a much better understanding of myself.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started because I hated my body, especially going through puberty and developing breasts. I felt like they made me a target for the male gaze, and I hated that feeling. I think a lot of my discomfort was tied to the way women are portrayed online and in media; it felt like a very narrow, sexualized idea of femininity that I wanted no part of.
I started identifying as non-binary first. It felt like a way to step away from all that and escape being seen as a woman. From there, it felt like a natural progression to start identifying as a trans man. A lot of my thinking was influenced by what I saw online and by the friends I had at the time. It felt like the right path to take to finally feel comfortable.
I ended up taking testosterone and got top surgery. The surgery, for a while, felt like a relief. I was happy to be rid of the breasts I had always hated. But after a while, the initial relief faded, and I was left with a body that still didn't feel like it was truly mine. I started to realize that changing my body wasn't fixing the deeper issues I had, which were more about low self-esteem, anxiety, and a discomfort with how the world sees women rather than a problem with being female itself.
I don't believe that trans women are actually women or that trans men are actually men. I think we need to be kind and protect people from discrimination and abuse, but we shouldn't pretend that biology isn't real. Clothes and surgery don't change your sex. I think a lot of the problems I and others face would be better solved if we could just get rid of the strict rules about how men and women have to look and act, instead of trying to change our bodies.
Looking back, I do have some regrets about my transition, especially the permanent changes from surgery. I can't undo that. But my journey led me to a place where I understand myself better now. I had to work on my self-esteem and learn to accept my body for what it is, not for what I thought it should be.
Here is a timeline of the major events:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started puberty; began to feel intense discomfort and hatred toward my developing breasts. |
| 19 | Began identifying as non-binary as a way to escape feelings of femininity. |
| 20 | Started identifying as a trans man. Began taking testosterone. |
| 22 | Underwent top surgery to remove my breasts. |
| 24 | Began to detransition, stopping testosterone and living again as a female. |
Top Comments by /u/TheObservationalist:
Physical biology has real world implications. The terms "male", "female", "men", "women" have real meanings. Everything is not a societal construct. Trans women are not really women. Trans men are not really men. They should be protected from discrimination, from physical abuse, from mockery for living how they want...but society should not en mass engage with/pander to the delusion that biology doesn't matter. Clothes, hairstyles, and makeup do not make one male or female. Removing the requirement to dress/style in a binary fashion in addition to being a species with binary sex would probably resolve a lot of these issues.
I think the insta model culture, and simultaneously the anime/weebo culture, has pushed an extreme, narrow, bimbo version of femininity that many young women loathe and don't identify with. Discomfort with male gaze at breasts seems to be a common issue. We live in a porn saturated time. Women understandably don't want to be thought of that way.
Idk man, most women are not intimidated about being friends with men in general, even hypermasculine ones. I don't think it's your masculine features that are preventing you from finding friendship with women. I say this as a woman with plenty of close cis-het male friends. Try not to over-focus on that. Focus on that you have a healthy body that lets you live a normal life, and that is something some people would kill to have.
Ayup. I'm an independent centrist. If everyone would take a deep breath and open their eyes, the reign of trump has done nothing again people of color or the LGBT crowd. Trump was a hollywood figure for years and years. He was a card-carrying democrat until the moment it was better to run on a Republican ticket. It's specifically anti-immigration, which is an entirely different subject.
The surgical mutilation is just a bridge too far for anyone's comfort (as it should be...destroying a human beings genitals is a horrifying thought). And parents with girls in sports? You'll never win them. Left, right...if you tortured them, they'd mostly admit they do not like the idea of their daughters being forced to undress around natal males.