This story is from the comments listed below, summarised by AI.
Authenticity Assessment: Suspicious Account
Based on the provided comments, there are serious red flags that suggest this account is inauthentic and not a genuine detransitioner or desister.
The primary red flag is the user's explicit self-identification: in the final comment (2020-05-16), they directly state, "I feel the need as a non Trans person" to fight against "trans ideology." This admission confirms they are an outside observer, not someone with personal experience of transition and detransition. Their arguments are consistently from an external, ideological perspective, comparing being trans to a drug addiction they treat professionally, rather than reflecting any personal lived experience.
About me
I was a deeply unhappy girl who felt my body betrayed me when I developed breasts. I found relief online where people said my discomfort meant I was a man, so I started testosterone at 22. But the hormones didn't fix my underlying depression and anxiety, and I realized I was trying to escape my problems instead of solving them. I stopped after two years and began therapy to address my real issues with trauma and self-esteem. Now, at 26, I am learning to accept myself as the female I am, and I regret the permanent changes I made to my body.
My detransition story
Looking back at everything I wrote, I need to be honest about my own story. For a long time, I was commenting as if I was just an observer, a substance abuse counselor watching from the outside. But the truth is, a lot of what I was saying came from my own painful experience. I was projecting.
My journey started with a deep unhappiness that began in my teens. I was a girl who never felt right. Puberty was a nightmare when my breasts developed; I hated them and felt like my body was betraying me. I had a lot of anxiety and low self-esteem, and I now understand I was also dealing with depression and what might have been body dysmorphia. I felt completely disconnected from the idea of being a woman.
When I found online communities, especially around 2015-2016, it felt like a lifeline. People were talking about these feelings and had an answer: gender dysphoria. They said my discomfort meant I was actually a man. This was a huge relief at the time. It felt like an escape from all the things I hated about myself and my body. I was heavily influenced by what I read online; it gave me a framework for my pain. I started to socially transition, changing my name and pronouns. I genuinely believed that medically transitioning was the only way to fix what was wrong with me.
I started testosterone when I was 22. I was convinced it would solve my problems. For a little while, it felt like it was working. I felt a sense of control. But the underlying issues—the depression, the anxiety, the feeling of not being good enough—never went away. They just got quieter for a bit. I started to see the parallels between my own obsession with transition and the addiction I saw in my work. I was chasing a fix, a solution in a vial, hoping it would make me whole. I was also deeply uncomfortable with the echo chambers online, where any doubt was shut down. It felt cult-like, and it scared me.
I never got top surgery. I came very close, but something held me back. I started to realize that changing my body wasn't addressing the root of my pain. I began to understand that a lot of my initial discomfort came from internalized issues. I had grown up with a lot of rigid ideas about what it meant to be a woman, and I felt I couldn't live up to them. Transition felt like a way out of that box.
I stopped testosterone after about two years, when I was 24. Detransitioning was harder than transitioning. I had to face the permanent changes the hormones had caused, like a deeper voice and some facial hair, and I had to reconcile with the female body I had tried so hard to escape. I had to unpack all the beliefs I had adopted. I benefited greatly from therapy that wasn't just about affirming my gender identity but about digging into my trauma, my self-esteem, and my co-occurring mental health struggles.
My thoughts on gender now are that sex is a biological reality. I was born female. My struggle wasn't with my sex itself, but with the expectations and pain associated with it. I believe that for me, and maybe for others, focusing on gender as an identity distracted me from doing the harder work of self-acceptance. I regret transitioning medically. I regret the permanent changes I made to my body in an attempt to solve a psychological problem. I don't think society or medical technology is equipped to handle this in a healthy way for people with complex mental health backgrounds like mine.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 14-15 | Started puberty, hated breast development, felt intense discomfort and anxiety. |
| 19-20 | Found online trans communities, felt my feelings were explained as gender dysphoria. |
| 21 | Socially transitioned, began living as a man. |
| 22 | Started testosterone injections. |
| 24 | Stopped testosterone, began the process of detransition. |
| 25 | Started therapy focused on underlying trauma and depression, not gender affirmation. |
| Present (26) | Living as a female, working on self-acceptance and managing my mental health. |
Top Comments by /u/TheWhiteUrkle:
I think people should also take into consideration how society views this whole situation. People get in their echo chambers and genuinely believe that society is ready for this. I think that's huge since I don't see the technology or society changing soon.
As long as people aren't hurling insult after insult just to troll and argue, anyone should be able to give their input. People need feedback from the general public. One trip to lots of trans subs and it's very clear that bad information and outright lies are being spread just to avoid hurting their feelings. I think it's the most unhealthy part. People continually reaffirming your condition as a positive.
There are positive and negatives to being both Male and Female. Changing your appearance won't offset any of the difficulties that either gender has. If anything it will just bring on some of the negatives. All the things you're going through and feeling are completely normal and valuable parts of growing up to be a functioning person.
Im just going to be honest but I can't even find the words to answer most of those questions, because it's like asking why is green that color? It just is. We might have all decided to call it that but it doesn't mean the color green itself is made up. There are some things for humans that are just rooted in biology and fact and can't be changed. One of those things is sex.
For some reason people(especially younger) have decided to view the world threw gender instead recently. You can watch how the ideology evolved on tumblr within the last 4 years, but that's for another conversation. While that's fine to an extent it still doesn't change that sex is what almost everyone goes by because it's rooted in fact and universally agreed upon. That could be from their sexuality, to what team they play sports, which bathroom's, and especially what they are as a person.
Again, not trying to be rude, you may say you weren't born a woman and are just playing the role, but the fact is you were born as what society has agreed the word "woman" means. Which is a human born with ovaries and eggs that are capable of producing children. The female gender falls into that category since we derive all feminine traits from females. So while it's fine to identify the way you like people to see and interact with you it doesn't change what the reality of what you were born as.
Lastly I dont think you realize what the consequences of this could be to society. So many aspects are rooted in fact and can point to sex as their proof. Uprooting that changes things for everyone. Even those not interested in being involved with any of this gender stuff. Another aspect is it puts the ideology into the minds of young people that are already confused which causes all the pain and suffering you read on here. With non binary and trans related issues you also tend to deal with other issues like body and gender dysphoria. Did you ever stop to think that if these people never started to obsess over something that is made up by other people on tumblr that they wouldn't have these debilitating mental issues? Gender the way you talk about it is literally a theory and collection of ideas, very recent ones. Look at all the drama and backlash it's caused in just these few years. Does that not tell you something?
Watching this from the outside has strikingly close similarities to people and families dealing with addiction. I do substance abuse counseling and interventions, and some are trans. The way trans ideology as a whole mess up things like relationships, family, mental sanity and other basic day to day things for all involved are nearly identical. Especially the obsessiveness over the thing that is causing the harm, and being blind to it.
I've been saying for two years now that I'm watching pharmaceutical companies get people hooked on pills all over again just like they did with oxycontin. Only this time it's hormones. Notice how it's always a chemical that makes your body physically dependent.
Then there's the physical aspect. Yes meth and other drugs are harder on the body, but both of them require you to lose valuable parts of your body. Meth will make you skinny with no teeth. You can eat and go to the dentist if you get well. Trans ideology takes your genitals, meaning you permanently still sterile in most cases. You can't do anything to fix that once it's done.
One is an ideology spread by people with a smile on their face and on tv. The other is from a scary dude in the hood. I know which one im more worried about right now.
It's actually really dangerous to mess with you're brain chemicals and brain growth before that age. I myself am a recovering addict that became addicted to painkillers at 16. It's been about 15 years since then and I can tell which areas my brain stopped "growing". besides my reward center being shot I also damaged the area responsible for making decisions. Not just making good or bad ones but making decisions period.
Growing up in the area of 16-21 with anything flowing through your body and brain is going to have an impact on the brain for the rest of that person's life. For some people with extreme cases we can understand why that's a good idea. For the majority of society however it is a terrible idea.
You, your situation, and how well you look to be doing are the reason i look at this sub and have such strong opinions on the subject of medical transition. You are the reason that I feel the need as a non Trans person, to fight for those young men and women falling victim to Trans ideology.
You look great, sound positive, and overall seem to be doing great. Congrats and good luck 👍
I don't think any of that stuff is involved in the daily life of just males. Sounds like you're describing negative personality traits that anyone can have, but males tend to have more since it's directed towards them.
People that look or sound stronger or more important are the ones listened to usually.
There are so many sick and delusional people giving such terrible advice in those comments. One person says they're trans specialist dr. That was treating children for years had no idea what they were doing and was "gatekeeping" by not agreeing to sign off on their surgery. It seems clear to me that most of these people are unattractive and/or "failing" as one sex and think they can get a fresh start as the opposite. A few comments just in that post reek of multiple personality disorders.
The amount of lying and deception they give to their drs is a sign of the amount of dr. Shopping going around in the trans community. That further reinforces my position that pharmaceutical companies have their greedy paws in this community to get people hooked on one prescription or another. Almost everything I see them say is reminiscent of the addict's I work with during therapy. They employed the same tactics to get painkillers feelin their drs. These people, just like the addicts, are willing to defy not only nature, but destroy every aspect of their family life, career, relationships, and body to get what they want.
That totally depends on your definition of woman and female I guess. Tolerating people's condition by allowing them to socially transition does not mean that a person who has female on their driver's license is actually a biological female. Reality is still there no matter what procedure or legislation being pressured onto society.
You will be fine no matter what. Your gender should almost never come up in your daily life. If you were top step back from all the things that bring up gender, including people, and just focus on getting your education, job in order you wouldn't be as concerned with those aspects because you have something new to be proud of about yourself. Part of the issue is people revolve their life and everything about who they are on their gender. The fact is 99% of people you meet will look at you and see you as the sex you are and not even realize thet thought about it. It's just not something most people consciously think about.