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The user's comments are highly consistent, emotionally charged, and demonstrate a deep, personal engagement with the ideology and psychology of detransition. The account expresses a coherent, well-articulated worldview that aligns with a specific radical feminist or gender-critical perspective common among some detransitioners. The claim of being a psychologist and a detransitioned female, while a significant claim, is woven into the arguments in a way that feels personal and invested, not like a copied script. The passion and anger present are consistent with a genuine individual who feels they have been harmed.
About me
I thought becoming a man was the only way to be a masculine female, so I transitioned socially. I eventually realized it felt like a costume that didn't change who I truly was inside. I now see that my sex is female, but I can act and dress however I want without changing my gender. My journey taught me that the real answer was self-acceptance, not transition. I am now a detransitioned female at peace with simply being myself.
My detransition story
My entire transition was built on a fundamental misunderstanding. I believed that to be myself—to be a masculine female who didn't fit the standard stereotypes—I had to become a man. It wasn't a real transition; it was like putting on a costume. It didn't change who I was deep down. It was just decoration, and I came to understand that I don't need decoration. I don't need to pretend.
I now see gender as completely irrelevant. Your sex is your sex; you can't change it. But the idea that you have to behave a certain way because of your sex is just an old-fashioned stereotype. You can wear what you want, date who you want, and act however you want without having to change your gender. The whole concept of transitioning is socially regressive because it forces you to buy into these outdated roles and reinforces their value. Most of society is trying to move past rigid gender roles, and by larping as the opposite sex, you're just acting out an archaic stereotype.
A lot of this, I believe, comes from a place of caring too much about how others see you. For me, and I think for many others, gender dysphoria is essentially a form of body dysmorphia with extra steps. It's tied to a rejection of non-stereotypical gender expression. In today's world, being a butch lesbian or a tomboy isn't always accepted; there's this pressure that says you must be a man instead. This is combined with anxiety and, often, a history of things like eating disorders, which are prime candidates for developing body dysmorphias.
I was influenced by the online world and the current social climate that pushes this narrative. Alternatives to the hardline trans view are not allowed, and that's dangerous. I strongly believe that anyone questioning their gender needs to find a good therapist who isn't just a trans cheerleader. The real solution is to work on not caring so much about how others perceive you. Once you can do that, the entire concept of gender becomes redundant. Alone, without any social pressure, you don't have a gender at all.
I don't regret my journey because it led me to this understanding, but I regret ever believing that changing my gender was the answer. It wasn't. The answer was always self-acceptance.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| (Exact ages not provided in comments) | Began identifying as trans and socially transitioning. |
| (Exact ages not provided in comments) | Realised transition was a "costume" and that my gender was irrelevant. |
| (Exact ages not provided in comments) | Underwent a process of detransition, accepting myself as a female who doesn't conform to stereotypes. |
Top Comments by /u/ThereOnceWasADonkey:
That's where trans comes from; the rejection of non-stereotypical gender expression. Being a butch lesbian isn't allowed any more - you must be a man. Same for straight tomboys, and effeminate men both gay and straight.
I am not at all certain trans is real; I suspect it's a combination of body dismorphia and this social rejection of gender-non-conformism. That's supported by at least 3 out of 4 trans people also having an eating disorder history - prime candidates for body dismorphias.
That's my conclusion as a psychologist, and as a detrans female. Unfortunately it's the type of thinking that means I must hide my identity, because the PC police would destroy me for it. Alternatives to the hardline trans narrative are not allowed.
You need to find a good therapist and talk through all of this. Trans-cheerleaders should be avoided. The solution is the same as it always was; to get away from caring about how others see you, which makes gender itself redundant. You won't reach that on your own.
You are. But the behaviours associated with those two categories are so broad that they overlap entirely, so there's really no problem. You don't need to change gender to behave in a particular way - that's just a stereotype you're trying to work with, and one which was outdated before you were even born. Wear what you want. Date who you want. Marry who you want. Be as 'masculine' or as 'feminine' as you like. None of that requires you to change gender. Gender is irrelevant. It's so irrelevant, changing it is socially regressive, because it requires you placing some kind of archaic value on it and using it as a limitation of how you can act, by applying outdated gender stereotypes.
You can't change your sex.
Gender is imaginary. It doesn't actually exist. It's simply how people categorise you, based largely on your behaviour and appearance, and how closely you fit the gender stereotypes they're familiar with. It's changeable, it's variable, and it's entirely irrelevant to everything.
It is socially regressive even insisting you have a gender, let alone declaring what you think it is. Nobody should care what you think it is, because nobody should be treating you any different based on it - it has no value.
The short version is that you cannot tell someone is trans from any scan of their brain or a blood test or any other physical examination. There is no scientific basis for it being a physical biologically driven phenomenon.
"Male brains" and "female brains" do exist in the aggregate, statistically, but trans people do not have "the wrong brain" for their biological sex.
It's entirely stereotype based.
If you didn't subscribe to old fashioned gender stereotypes, trans would be redundant. You can be gay, you can dress how you like, act how you like, do what you want. Trans relies on outdated gender roles as its basis. The entire concept is socially regressive.
Not in the modern sense.
Your sex is your sex. You can't change it.
Whether you match archaic gender stereotypes isn't really important to anyone other than you. Most people don't care. You can wear what you want, you can act how you want - but if you are intentionally meeting a stereotype, for example the stereotype of the opposite sex, the real question is why you're bothering. It seems like a waste of time, and you are reinforcing the value of an old fashioned gender role by larping it. The rest of society is trying to get rid of gender roles, to persue equality, are you're trying to act one out. It's actually socially regressive.
You can be gay or straight or bi, you can marry either sex so trans is largely redundant. Gender roles are culturally encapsulated and archaic. They change over time, but they only exist in your head and by common practice, and common practice isn't all the common any more, leaving them only in your head.
Tl;dr Trans is socially regressive and redundant.
ECT is a common modern treatment. Don't let one flew over the cuckoos nest fool you. It's a modern treatment when all else fails, and it saves lives. It's done slightly differently now, with anaesthesia, but it is done every day, because it works. It should not be included in your list.
Personality disorders are not what I'd call rare, with about 1 in 10 people having one, and they usually emerge in teenage year.
It's ok to be gay. It's fine to not conform to a gender stereotype. It's fine to have a personality disorder. It's not your fault if you have a dysmorphic disorder. None of these things are 'bad'. None of them make you trans, or indeed, make trans a real and independent diagnosis.
Everyone is non-binary except Trans who are weirdly conscious of their supposed gender. Normal people don't obsess over such things and do not 'feel' their gender at all; gender is imaginary.
I'm a female. I don't follow all the average sex-related norms of my society. And that's perfectly fine.