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About me
I'm a feminine gay man who started transitioning because I thought becoming a woman would finally make me fit in and stop the bullying. The reality was that I was violently attacked and only seen as a fetish object by men, which made me feel more unsafe and alone than ever. I stopped taking hormones and now I feel physically better, but also lost and depressed, caught between communities that don't seem to want me. I deeply regret transitioning; it was a huge mistake based on a false hope that life would be easier. Now I'm just trying to learn how to be myself, a feminine man, without any labels.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started because I never felt like I fit in. I was born male, but I was always a feminine person. I liked long hair, makeup, and accessories for as long as I can remember. I was bullied for it my entire life for being that way and for being gay. It made me feel like I didn't belong anywhere.
When I discovered what being transgender was, it felt like an answer. I thought that if I transitioned to female, I could finally be myself without the bullying, and maybe I would finally belong. I started taking hormones. But the reality was completely different. I was beaten up twice for being trans. The men I met were the worst type; they just fetishized me as a trans woman and then tossed me away. I never felt safe. I realized that straight men who want to "experiment" with us are usually desperate and low quality, and the gay male community typically likes masculine men. I felt like an object, discardable and like I didn't belong anywhere.
I stopped taking hormones. Physically, I feel a bit better now because I'm not tired all the time from them. But I also feel depressed and lost. I feel like I'm not part of a community that validates me anymore, and my own gay community seems to hate feminine men like me. I don't know where to go.
Looking back, I think a big part of my urge to transition was a delusional belief that I would be happier, especially with dating. But it wasn't real. I wish I had never even discovered what transgender was. I wish I had lived my life oblivious to the fact that HRT and transitioning exist. It would have made my life so much easier. I just don't want to think about transitioning anymore; I just want to forget about the word transgender.
I don't regret realizing I'm a gay man, but I deeply regret transitioning. It was a mistake based on a hope that turned out to be false. My style and interests are just who I am; they don't have to mean I'm a woman. Throwing all my feminine interests away to adhere to society's standards would make me miserable, and I'm hated for being gay anyway, so it wouldn't have helped. I'm just trying to figure out how to be myself now, without any labels.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| N/A | Bullied throughout life for being a feminine gay male. |
| N/A | Started taking hormones (HRT) to transition to female. |
| N/A | Was beaten up twice while living as a trans woman. |
| N/A | Stopped taking hormones. |
Top Comments by /u/ThrowItAway0971:
AAPs are annoying and cringe at the most and have most likely a stupid view of the gay community but I don't think they pose any threat to the gay male community and I'm saying that as a gay man. Just being realistic, I don't see them as dangerous as transbians who have actually committed crimes and continue to get away with it.
yes, i just don't want to think about transitioning and i just want to forget about the word transgender. i wish i never discovered what it was and lived my life oblivious to the fact that hrt and transitioning exists. it would have made my life easier.
I didn't feel safe either way, in fact I was beaten up twice for being trans. The urge for me to retransition is just the delusional belief that I would be happier, especially in terms of dating, but in reality men just fetishize trans women and toss them away. I always met the worst type of men when I was trans.
I think I feel a bit better physically since I'm no longer tired all the time but I also feel a bit depressed since I feel like I'm not part of a community that validates and uplifts me and my own gay community hates men like me. I don't know where to go.
Not sure what you mean here. I look naturally feminine and act feminine naturally and have been bullied for it my entire life. Being masculine is something very foreign to me and I've never been masculine in my entire life. I've liked accessories, makeup, long hair and feminine clothes before I even knew what transgender means. It's just a style I like, it's "important" to me because it's one of my interests and throwing all that way in order to adhere to society's standards would just make me miserable and I'm hated regardless for being gay so it wouldn't make sense. That would be like telling a tomboy lesbian to stop playing sports and cutting their hair.
Yes we're seen as objects and are discardable. Straight men that want to "experiment" with us as trans women are usually desperate and the lowest quality of men you can imagine that end up beating us up. Gay men typically like masculine men. We just don't belong anywhere it seems like.