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About me
I started questioning my gender as a child because my female body felt deeply wrong, and I was certain I was male. I planned a slow, cautious medical transition, but I always insisted on critically examining my reasons instead of just accepting affirmation. I eventually realized through therapy that my physical discomfort was tied to other issues I needed to address. I decided not to transition medically, and I don't regret the time I spent questioning. That difficult journey was necessary for me to find the clarity and peace I have today.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started when I was very young; I’ve had these feelings since childhood. For me, the main motivation to medically transition was a deep physical discomfort with my body, specifically a strong dislike of my breasts and a sense that my body was just wrong. I saw myself as male and knew I wouldn't be comfortable as non-binary either; that felt just as off as being female. It wasn't about gender expression or social roles for me; it was a deep, physical need for my body to match how I saw myself.
I spent a lot of time thinking it through. I’ve always been someone who needs to pick apart every single reason before I act. I was suspicious of anyone who offered blind affirmation, whether they were fully for or fully against transition. That kind of black-and-white thinking never sat right with me. I knew that if I went through with medical transition and later regretted it, I would personally consider it a mistake. I saw that other detransitioners felt differently, that they didn't regret their path, and I respected that, but for me, it had to be a fully informed choice.
I was 21 and planning to take it slow, recognizing that mental maturity continues into your mid-twenties. I figured the waitlists for medical procedures would naturally create a buffer, giving me more time to be sure. Social pressure or my parents' potential reactions didn't really factor into my decisions; I've always had a hard time letting other people's emotional reactions guide my choices.
I was seriously considering testosterone and top surgery. A hysterectomy was also on my mind. I knew about the health risks, like a potential link to Alzheimer's, but I believed the risk was worth it for the chance to live in a body that felt like my own. I even thought that if I did get Alzheimer's in my senior years, I would consider medically assisted death, as it's an option where I live.
My sexuality was confusing. The idea of being seen as a straight woman or a lesbian was equally uncomfortable to me. I wasn't planning on dating, so it felt like a separate issue from my gender identity. I just wanted to be seen as male.
I found a lot of value in seeking out debate and controversy. Engaging with tough, sometimes cynical viewpoints was like a mental exercise for me. It helped me stress-test my decisions. I understood why that approach isn't for everyone, but for me, critical thinking was essential. I wished more people would cast a critical eye on their choices before acting, but I also knew some people need a gentler approach.
I eventually realized that medical transition wasn't the right path for me. The process of critically examining my motivations led me to understand that my physical discomfort might be tied to other issues I needed to work through. I benefited greatly from therapy that wasn't just about affirmation but about digging deeper. I don't regret the time I spent questioning or identifying as transgender; it was a necessary part of my journey to understanding myself better. I needed to go through that process to get to where I am today, living well and with more clarity.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Childhood | First began experiencing feelings of physical discomfort and identifying as male. |
| 21 | Was actively questioning and planning a slow, cautious approach to potential medical transition (testosterone, top surgery, hysterectomy). |
| 22 | Through critical self-reflection and non-affirming therapy, came to the conclusion that medical transition was not the right path for me and began to detransition. |
Top Comments by /u/ThrowRA6digitname:
Yeah, I can't speak for others or their decisions, but I personally love to pick apart every reason I have before acting. In fact, blind affirmation somewhat disturbs me because I find it hard to believe that anything could be 100% positive or negative. It's difficult to believe in people who either fully support or fully deny all things related to transitioning.
Thank you for the well wishes.
I agree. I've met people who seem to believe that detransitioners are either doing so only because of transphobia, or they're fake narratives made by those who want to defame trans people. This kind of misunderstanding wouldn't happen if detrans people had more visibility. The acknowledgement of detrans people doesn't take away from the validity of trans people but some people seem to think they do.
Yeah, I was only referring to myself. If I had gone through with this and later regretted it, I would consider it a mistake. Other people would obviously view it differently. I mean, I've seen people on here who detransitioned but still didn't regret various aspects of medical transitioning.
Thanks for the detailed answer too!
Yes, you guessed right, I am 21 lol. Although my feelings have not changed since childhood until now, if 25 is truly a milestone for mental maturity, 4 years seems a reasonable wait especially factoring the waitlists and such for medical transitioning anyway. At the very least, I’ll take it slow. This seems like useful advice.
I’m not planning on dating either way, so I don’t think it has much to do with seeming like lesbian or not. In my mind, being called a straight woman and a lesbian has the same degree of discomfort.
My parents would probably not take it well lol, but it’s not much of a factor to me as I have a hard time letting the (emotional) reactions of others affect my decisions.
I wouldn’t mind a hysterectomy - but of course I would mind Alzheimer’s. If I develop Alzheimer’s I would likely apply for Medically Assisted Death, which is possible for at least one of the provinces in my country. I believe it’s still worth the risk as most people only develop Alzheimer’s in their most senior years, so it’s not something I would consider too much for the rest of my life. It’s definitely something to consider as you said, though, since Alzheimer’s is a big deal!
Thank you. That's one thing many of us, trans, detrans, or otherwise, can relate to. It is confusing to make sense of it after all. I've been living very well since I figured it out, fortunately, but it was a struggle to get to today.
I also enjoy seeking out debate and controversy lol. It's helped me make tough decisions many a time. It's like pushing your rhetoric and worldviews... like mental exercise, and effective exercise is meant to tire you out. But, not everyone likes to tire themselves out and there's nothing wrong with that too.
Ideally, I wish everyone could think critically and cast some doubt on their choices before they go ahead with them, but some people do benefit from a gentler approach to these lines of thought. This community can sound very cynical at times, which understandably repels some people. It works for me, but yeah, it's reasonable to avoid pissing oneself off if one knows they're sensitive about something.
Yes. I think I may have seen your post when I was posting mine earlier today. Certainly some of the wording used by certain people on this sub can sound cynical. But if one can parse the message from the rhetoric there is almost always something to be learnt, however unpleasant it may sound.
I don't personally care much about labels either. I use the term "transgender" because it's the most efficient way for people to understand my situation when they read it. All I want is for people to see me as male, so I never even talk about any gender-related topics outside of this account or when I have to bring it up for a reason. Some people find meaning in their labels and I also respect that; everyone needs some way to define their identity. Arbitrary definitions just do not suffice for me.
Of course. Gender expression has nothing to do with gender. It's mainly physical dysphoria that motivates me to medically transition. For the social part of gender it's a bit harder to explain, but I'd say I see myself as male and it's not that I dislike being female. For example I wouldn't choose to be nonbinary because that feels just as off as being female.