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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account does not appear to be inauthentic. There are no serious red flags suggesting it's a bot or a bad-faith actor.
The user's perspective is extreme and controversial, but it is internally consistent and reflects a specific, deeply-held belief system held by some detransitioners/desisters. The comments show:
- Personal, detailed medical history (specific surgeries, medications, timelines).
- A coherent, if harsh, philosophical stance (transition as a consumer choice, rejection of female identity).
- Emotional investment and anger, which aligns with the warning that such users can be "passionate and pissed off."
While the views are radical, they are expressed with a narrative consistency typical of a real person who has had a negative transition experience.
About me
I started my medical transition at 27, taking hormones and having surgeries like an orchiectomy and breast augmentation. I see it now as a personal choice I made, not something that changed my male sex. My journey taught me that many of us might just be gender non-conforming, chasing a fantasy sold by the porn industry. I'm now in a stable relationship and have a clear understanding of myself, with no regrets. But I would strongly caution young people to explore their identity without rushing into medical interventions.
My detransition story
My entire journey with transition was something I did to myself, and I see it now as a very expensive form of consumption, a hobby I paid for. I don't consider myself female and never will; I am male. My appearance is the result of plastic surgery molded to look like a woman's, but it isn't a woman's body.
I started my medical transition at 27. I took Cyproterone acetate for about 14 months to suppress my testosterone. I then had an orchiectomy, facial feminization surgery (FFS), and breast augmentation (BA). I never had bottom surgery to create a neovagina. The Cyproterone shrank my testicles significantly, and I know from my own research that it can take a long time for the genitals to recover function after stopping.
I don't believe that surgery or hormones can change a person's sex. I was in favor of making sex immutable legally. I stay out of spaces meant for females because I know I am not one. I think a lot of people, like me, might actually be gender non-conforming rather than truly transsexual. I've seen this in others; I know two post-op people who regret it. One is a female who transitioned to male and had a phalloplasty that her body rejected. The other is a male like me who had vaginoplasty and now has serious health complications, including severe pressure on his bladder, and a death wish.
My own reasons for transitioning were complicated. Looking back, I think a lot of it was driven by a desire to be feminine, not female. I believe the porn industry sells a fairytale that you can have a fully feminine body with fully functioning male genitalia, and that's just not possible. It creates an unrealistic fantasy. I think some people who transition are chasing that fantasy.
I was able to find a committed relationship with a man after my surgeries, so it is possible to find someone who accepts you without having bottom surgery. I would never gamble on such a heavy surgery just for a relationship. From what I've seen, many who get the surgery still struggle to date because the neovagina often has problems—it might not look great, and the pain and constant dilation can prevent using it sexually. The real issue for many partners is the male past, not the current genitals.
I don't think transition surgeries should be covered by insurance. I paid for all my procedures myself. It's a personal choice, a form of leisure, not a medical necessity that improves mental health. I see a lot of instability in the community, with people threatening suicide if others don't agree with them. If the only thing preventing suicide is being able to wear a dress, then that person needs therapy, not laws that try to change reality.
I have no regrets about the path I took because it led me to where I am now, in a stable relationship and with a clear understanding of myself. But I also recognize that my transition was a choice I made as an adult with my own money, and I would strongly caution young people to take their time, explore their identity without medical intervention first, and not let others define them.
Here is a timeline of my transition events:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 27 | Started taking Cyproterone acetate (testosterone blocker) |
| 28 | Had orchiectomy, FFS (facial feminization surgery), and BA (breast augmentation) |
Top Comments by /u/Throwaway_make-up:
I don't deny that I'm male. I stay out of spaces that are meant for females. Because I know that I am not and can not be female.
Yet people like you have to throw temper tantrums at everyone who doesn't agree that they are a real '' girl. ''
Well, I knew it was all plastic surgery when I went in. My appearence is molded to look like a woman's. It ain't a woman's.
I was in favor of Donald Trump's proposal to make sex immutable legally.
Trans women have nothing to seek in female spaces. Whether you buy a wig to cover up your male pattern baldness or have hair transplants. You can't make a Breitling watch out of a Festina.
I will never agree with trans women calling themselves female. You are not. I am not. We are not.
Also, threatening suicide is a very common act of manipulation in the trans community as soon as someone disagrees with you.
If all that is preventing you from committing suicide is not being able to wear a dress, you need therapy, you don't need laws to change reality. The onus is on you at that point.
Thank you and have a wonderful evening. Oh and remember that I paid for these surgeries by myself. I don't see how the trans community fought for my surgeries. I paid a few businessmen who call themselves doctors the price they ask and they did what I wanted.
I don't think transition surgeries should be covered.
It's for your own leisure after all. It's not like it's going to improve your mental health. Look at your temper tantrum you threw here. That proves how unstable the vast majority of the community is.
I know 2 post-op trans people who regret changing sexes and I live in a small town, doesn't that show enough?
1 is FtM and she was a lesbian before she transitioned at 54. The other is MtF. He was gay before he transitioned at 27 and came to regret his SRS 3 months post-op. He is now 40 and has a death wish.
Both of these people had SRS. The trans man had phalloplasty and his body rejected the graft and the trans woman had vaginoplasty and has severe pressure on the bladder.
I transitioned at 27 and had FFS, BA and orchie and was on Cyproterone acetate for about 14 months prior to my orchiectomy. Cyproterone acetate shrinks the testicles a lot and it can take up to 28 months after stopping before the genitals will start recovering. It could very well be that your testosterone levels are low and that your body needs a little help to go back. Clomiphene is often prescribed to kick-start the testicles in hypogonadal men.
I think the problem here is that you want things that are only possible in porn settings. You want a feminine body but you want to keep fully functioning male genitalia. Unfortunately that is a fairytale sold by the porn industry.
It sounds to me like you want to be feminine, not female. There is a difference between these. You sound more like a gender non-conforming male who was misdiagnosed as transsexual.
This coming from a transsexual woman post-transition.
Best you can do now is find an endocrinologist. You can still recover almost completely. Nothing truly irreversible took place.
If you are not sure you should pause testosterone. The changes are more and more irreversible the longer you stay on. You can still restart testosterone later. Try to first discover your identity without testosterone. Play with different styles, wear compression shirts and see if you feel better if your chest is flattened. All these things are reversible. Also notice that it doesn't have to be black or white. Plenty of people live gender non conforming lives without hormones. There are even trans guys who transitioned without testosterone. Imperative is to first explore your own identity. You are still very young and insecure about what you want, which is clear from your post. Transitioning is not a marathon. I didn't start until I was 27. I'm turning 29 soon. Starting at 27 gave me the advantage of having had time to explore what I want out of life. I would have been more insecure had I started at your age. I'm MtF but recognise lots of what you are saying. Take your time. No rush.
Also, don't let others define you. Define yourself.
I think a passable neovagina would indeed make relationships with straight men easier to achieve. However, SRS is a very heavy surgery. I would never take such a gamble for a relationship. I would keep what I have and search for someone who can accept me like I am. Maybe these men are scared of their environment finding out you are trans? They would in that case still react the same after your SRS. It's your male past that puts them off. A genital operation won't change that. From what I have seen from post op trans women in the dating world, most still struggle to find someone. The neovagina often doesn't look all that great and the pain from scar tissue and the lack of consistent dilation prevents many from using it sexually.
I have had FFS, BA and an orchiectomy. I am in a committed relationship with a man. So it is possible to find someone. Just don't go for the lowest and quickest bidder.
Surgeons can do a lot to reconstruct female genitalia that have been damaged in some way. There are surgeons who are specialized in restoring female genital mutilation. Maybe they could help you restore the original size of the clitoris. The dryness in the vagina is not permanently. It's from prolonged testosterone use. They can prescribe creams like Premarin for that if you see a gynecologist and explain your side effects.
I pass and I still don't consider myself a female. I'm male. My transition was a consumption I bought. That's how it is for every trans person. Passing depends on how much money you are willing to spend on your hobby. Passing is not some golden merit.