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About me
I started having obsessive thoughts that I was transgender at 21, heavily influenced by my time in online communities. My OCD latched onto the idea that my discomfort meant I wasn't a woman, and I started taking testosterone. Thankfully, after just one month, a fog cleared and I realized it was a terrible mistake driven by my mental health. I stopped immediately and now, at 26, I am completely content and happy living as a woman. My journey taught me that being a woman is awesome, and there is no single way to be one.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started when I was 21. I was deep in online spaces and part of the LGBT community, and I always thought I was being accepting. But looking back, I see how I was influenced by what I was reading. The idea was presented that if you didn't feel like you fit in as a woman, you could just identify out of it. For me, it wasn't about hating my body from a young age; it was more about this feeling of not measuring up to what a woman should be, and this thought just got stuck in my head.
I now realize I have OCD, and that played a huge part. An intrusive thought came into my brain, probably from stuff I read online, telling me that my discomfort meant I wasn't really a woman, that I must be a man. Because of the OCD, that thought latched on and became an obsession. It was all I could think about. I became 100% sure I was trans and that taking hormones was the only way to be happy. I saw it as a form of escapism, a chance to leave my old, unhappy self behind and become someone new.
So, I started taking testosterone. I was only on it for about a month. Thankfully, during that time, I kind of woke up. I realized I was making a huge mistake. It was like a fog cleared and I saw that this wasn't the solution to my problems. I stopped the hormones and never had any surgery. I'm so grateful I didn't go any further because I know now that I was never trans. That was really my OCD that I was dealing with.
What helped me the most was changing my self-talk and realizing that the whole idea of "feeling like a man" or "feeling like a woman" is made up. There is no such thing. You are the sex you are born, and all your feelings are the feelings of that sex. I benefited a lot from this kind of non-affirming thinking. I told myself, "You are not a man. You were born a woman, so you're a woman." I had to cut back on my time online, too. The internet was feeding the obsession. Now, at 26, the thought that I could be trans never crosses my mind. It's completely gone.
I do have some lasting side effects from that one month on testosterone, which is scary to think about since it was such a short time. It makes me really urge young people to wait. You change so much in your early twenties. What you're sure of at 18 or 21 might not be how you feel at 25.
My thoughts on gender now are that it's often rooted in internalized misogyny. I think a lot of young women and girls don't want to be female because society tells us being female is lesser. You're either seen as a weak object or a "Karen." It feels like we get the short end of the stick biologically, too, with periods and less physical strength. So when this idea comes along that you can opt out, of course some of us jump at the chance. But being a woman is awesome, and there's no one way to be one. Women can be masculine; that doesn't make you a man.
I regret transitioning. For me, it was a mistake based on obsessive thoughts and outside influence. I'm just glad I caught it early.
Here is a timeline of what happened:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 21 | Started having obsessive thoughts that I might be transgender, heavily influenced by online communities. |
| 21 | Believed I was trans and started taking testosterone. |
| 21 | After about one month on hormones, I realized it was a mistake and stopped taking testosterone. |
| 26 (now) | I am content living as a woman and no longer have thoughts of being trans. |
Top Comments by /u/Top-Spinach-5577:
You aren’t a man. You were born a woman, so you’re a woman. I, too, struggle with OCD. I think it’s a very big problem within the community so props to you for recognizing that you have it.
With proper self-talk (telling yourself you’re not a man, you aren’t trans), taking care of yourself, and therapy with a non-gender affirming therapist (if possible), things will get better. You probably should cut back on your time on the internet as well. Take it from someone who’s been through it too: When you put in the work, these obsessive thoughts won’t be as adamant and eventually they’ll go away completely.
And again, YOU ARE NOT TRANS - YOU ARE NOT A MAN. The fact is that you are a woman because you were born a woman, and there is no “man feeling”, that is the internet and OCD making that up for you.
Treat the OCD, things will get better
I urge you not to make any choices on hormones until you are at least 25. I wish I had waited, because I would never have went on them. Even though I was only on them for a short time, I have lasting side effects to this day. And yeah, before I started HRT, I was “100% sure” that I was trans and that this was going to change my life; this was finally going to make me happier. No. It wasn’t. That was a lie that was sold to me by the internet, and big pharma most of all.
You cannot change your sex. I used to be in full support of transitioning, and even did it to myself. Going through it has made me realize what a horrible, massive scandal the trans trend really is. Manga is not a good reason to transition. Not being comfortable in your body is not a good reason to transition. Wanting short hair is not a good reason to transition. I’m on this sub literally begging young people to, please, wait a few years before you make a huge decision like this.
And even though you are sure of things now, trust me that you will change so much as you grow into an adult who lives alone, pays taxes, has their own health insurance, etc. The majority of us truly believed we weren’t going to change our minds and all of us have.
Yes. He is right. I’m not saying this to be mean, but even passable trans women are not all that passable to a lot of people. The unfortunate reality is our brains are hard wired to detect differentiation so even if something is slightly off, people who are aware of or who have ever been in close proximity to transgenderism can tell. And as the movement grows, more and more people are becoming aware
This sounds purely a sexual fantasy to me. I don’t believe you should be demonized for it, all of us, for the most part, have kinks and fetishes. However, it doesn’t sound at all to me like you need to try and live your life as the other gender. It’s maybe a form of escapism and curiosity for you to imagine being a woman, and that is fine to me, but please don’t conflate this with being born the wrong gender.
Yes, I believed I was trans. I thankfully was only on hormones for a month and never took it farther than that. I kind of woke up over the course of a week and realized I was making a huge mistake, and I thank whoever is watching over me for that. Because now I know I was never trans, and that was really my OCD that I was dealing with. I never have thoughts of being trans now, my obsessive thoughts have moved on. I’m content being a woman
I was where you were. At some point, probably due to people saying it online (that’s where I picked it up), an intrusive thought came in to your brain and told you you don’t feel like a woman, and you actually must feel like a man. And, because you have OCD, that thought picked up speed and became your new obsessive thought. But I promise you, with absolute certainty, (I mean I’ve never been more sure of something): that’s not real.
There is no man feeling, there is no woman feeling. We are born the sex that we are, and all of our feelings are the feelings of our correct sex. You do not have to spend tons of time and money to put your body through hell, please look into treating the OCD with a good therapist. I promise you this will pass.
For reference I was 21 when I started to get the trans OCD, and i just turned 26 now. The thought that I could be trans never crosses my mind, when it was like 90% of what I thought about 5 years ago
Yes. I believe for a lot of people it is escapism. It’s an idea that you will leave your old life behind to embrace a new one, with a new gender and a new name. And no one is allowed to call you by your old name, or talk about who you used to be in the past because that’s basically misgendering.
For deeply unhappy people, transitioning is sold as a new chance, a new life. Just as you’ve said, it really isn’t either of those things. The person who they always were still exists at their core. Even if they no longer acknowledge the person they were before transition, that person is still there
I’m going to use an example here that may seem like I’m just talking shit on a trans person but it’s because I want to illustrate the reality of the situation. Like others said, if your goal is to be seen and treated like a trans woman for the rest of your life, then that is attainable. Ignore my example in that case. If your goal is to pass as a biological woman, this may be helpful for you to hear.
There is a trans woman who I know in real life, I’ll call her Celia here. Celia passes. She passes really well, in fact. I’m not sure when she started hormones, but she has a really small frame and she’s short with full hair and a feminine face. She’s a server at a restaurant and is (by her account) never misgendered by customers there. And I believe she’s telling the truth when she says that because she looks feminine and sounds feminine.
I took my immediate family (mom, dad, and brother) out to eat at Celia’s restaurant and it just so happened that she was our server. I, of course, made it clear that I know Celia to my family, but didn’t say anything about her being trans. As our meal progressed, she was coming to check on us from time to time.
Now, it’s important to note that my immediate family have little to no knowledge about transgenderism. They didn’t know I was on hormones back when I was. They’re not conservative, they just really aren’t up to date on transgender stuff. Over the course of the meal, my family started saying things to me about Celia. “Something about her seems a little off”, “Something strange when I look at her face”, basically they were clocking her without knowing the possibility of her being trans, because they don’t really know what that is.
I typed all this out to illustrate to you that even the most passable trans women are still questioned. Celia is worlds ahead of any other trans woman I know when it comes to passing. People can still tell when something doesn’t quite fit. And it’s impossible to make yourself fit completely because you weren’t socialized as a woman; you didn’t develop as a woman. Humans are wired to notice differentiation. That is a harsh reality.
EDIT: I’ve done a quick scroll through your posts to see that you have stated that it isn’t your goal to be seen as a real woman (if I’m interpreting what you said correctly). I’m still going to leave my comment here because I typed it all out but it may not be relevant to you really at all.
It’s misogyny and internalized-misogyny at work and it’s very, very sad and concerning.
I came up in a very accepting environment too. Part of the LGBT community and always considered myself accepting of all gender identities. But now, having lived it, I see it for what it truly is.
Young women and girls do not want to be female because in our society now, being female is seen as lesser. You’re either a weak-minded, over-sexualized object, or you’re (maybe even worse) a Karen. We’re biologically getting the short end of the stick as well (less physical strength and periods, etc.) Then, here comes this concept that tells young women that they can escape this; they have the option to identify out of this. Of course some of us are going to jump at the chance.
I don’t know what will remedy it, but I suspect more media that shows women as strong, interesting, likable and capable will help. Highlighting more of the things that are great about being a woman, because despite all of the negativity shown all around us, being a woman is fucking awesome. And there’s no one or two ways to be a woman. I hope more people start waking up to this soon.
Even girls who never went through medical transitions get cheated on, and it’s very very common. Beautiful actresses, supermodels, etc. get cheated on and it is absolutely not a reflection on their looks. It is a reflection of these men and their lack of respect for women. Their lack of morals. It is always a sign of weak character on the man’s part and it has nothing to do with the way you look.