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The user's comments reflect a consistent, nuanced, and personal perspective that aligns with the complex and often passionate views found in the detrans community. They reference a personal history of transition (starting in 2011), detransition, therapy, and specific community dynamics (e.g., truscum), which is difficult to fabricate convincingly. The tone is empathetic and measured, not the repetitive or inflammatory language often used by inauthentic accounts.
About me
I felt like a boy from a young age and came out as trans as a teenager, believing medical transition was my only path to happiness. After a long fight, I started testosterone, but then felt pressured by the community to fit a perfect "trans man" mold, which caused me new anxiety. I eventually realized my desire to transition was heavily influenced by outside pressures and a need to escape myself. Through non-affirming therapy, I worked on my underlying issues and slowly detransitioned, reaching a stable mental state. I've now accepted that I am a female who doesn't fit stereotypes, and I'm finally okay with just being me.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender started when I was really young. I always felt more like a boy and presented that way from a very early age. I officially came out as trans in 2011, when I was a teenager. For a long time, I was completely convinced I was a man and that transitioning was the only way to fix the deep discomfort I felt.
Getting on hormones wasn't easy back then. I had to go to therapy for a couple of years, and the only doctor I could find who would prescribe testosterone was three hours away. I started T in 2014. It felt like a huge battle to get there, and I believed it was what I needed to be happy.
But after I came out, I started to feel a new kind of pressure. It felt like everyone, including people within the trans community, suddenly had a new box they wanted to put me in. There was this idea that to be a "real" trans person, you had to want hormones and surgery. I even encountered "truscum" who gatekept, saying you needed medical intervention to be valid. It was confusing because I had fought so hard to escape one box, only to be forced into another. I began to obsess over my voice and my appearance, constantly worrying about whether I was "male enough."
Over time, my perspective started to change. I began to see that a lot of my initial drive to transition was influenced by outside pressures and a desire to escape myself. I see now that so many people, including me, transition for the wrong reasons, often influenced by the internet and society. I had to learn that my worth wasn't tied to how others saw my gender.
I went through a long process of detransitioning. I had to get to a stable mental state and really focus on myself before I could think about anything else. Therapy was crucial for me, but it had to be the right kind—non-affirming therapy that helped me work through my underlying issues, not just affirm my gender identity. I had to come to terms with the things I cannot change about my body and my past.
I don't believe there's one right way to be. Gender is a construct, and how people live their lives doesn't affect others. I finally reached a point where other people's perspectives on my gender don't matter as much. These days, I feel decently okay with myself. I’ve accepted that I am a female who just doesn’t fit the stereotypical mold, and that's perfectly fine. I know many women who have more masculine features, and that doesn't make them any less of a woman.
I do have some regrets about my transition. I think I was pushed along a path without fully understanding all the factors at play, like social pressure and not getting the right kind of therapeutic help initially. I signed off on my own medical decisions as an adult, and I have to take responsibility for that, but I also recognize that the system around me failed to provide proper care and critical thinking. I hope that by sharing my story, others can avoid the same pitfalls and find a way to be comfortable in their own skin without feeling pressured to change their bodies.
| Age | Year | Event |
|---|---|---|
| Teenager | 2011 | Came out as transgender and began presenting as male. |
| Young Adult | 2014 | Started testosterone (T) after several years of therapy. |
| (Various) | (Post-2014) | Went through a long process of detransition and self-reflection. |
Top Comments by /u/Toruk200:
This is definitely not a serious pic. Id say its more of a, lol does my existance bother you. However, you see in the detrans community so so so many people who transitioned for all the wrong reasons in the first place. Some people definitely are influenced by the internet and different aspects of society though, so of course its worrisome. Let people live however theyd like though. Gender IS a construct and how other people live their lives doesnt effect other individuals.
You do realise that conditions like pcos exist right? I know many women who have pretty "masc" features....men may have preferences when dating but these women shouldnt feel like they have to disclose that, for example, might have more body hair than considered "average". Same idea, this post is a little unhinged...
I hope you can get to a point where others perspectives of you and your gender dont matter quite as much. Keep your head up. I used to litterally obsess over my voice and gender etc, these days i feel decently okay with myself. Or at least have come to terms with what i cannot change.
Honestly for me, the biggest hardship of my transition to begin with was how once you come out (came out in 2011 and i was always male presenting and thought i was a boy from a young age) but people and society then try to fit you into a box. "Oh you want to be a boy/girl, then you cant do this or that etc. This even happened within the trans community itself with truscum gatekeeping, "you need hormones to be trans, you need surgery to be trans".. when we need to just let people live and not pressure others so much to fit inside a binary box. Theres not one way to "be" trans*.
Personally, I had to go to therapy for a couple years and could only find a dr thatd give me T 3 hours away. It was a lot of work and definitely not easy. It was decently rare then (only 2014) but the years following it started becoming more common....but hormones are not being given to people pre-puberty, unless its a very rare and odd case.
Im sorry to hear youre going through all this but at the end of the day you were an adult who signed off on surgery...we cant go after doctors when a person regrets other cosmetic surgeries. Unfortunately the only person to blame completely is yourself but keeping in mind all of the factors that effected you and that other people are also being effected by, like social pressuring and improper therapy treatment...that stuff definitely has to be talked about and changed becauae people should be able to make decisions and come to terms with who they are and want to be without the immense pressure of others opinions smothering them. I hope you can get to a point where you feel okay and comfortable with yourself, body, and life! Everyone in the detrans community can be happy but we truly have to focus on ourselves and getting to a stable mental state before trying to make changes and regulations in society and the transgender medical field.