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About me
I'm a 23-year-old female who started identifying as non-binary and then as a male because I hated the changes of puberty and felt deeply uncomfortable in my own skin. I took testosterone for a couple of years, which caused some permanent changes I now regret. Everything shifted when I started therapy that focused on my underlying anxiety and low self-esteem instead of affirming a transgender identity. I realized my body hatred was from trauma, not from being the wrong sex, and that transitioning was a solution to the wrong problem. I'm now detransitioning and learning to make peace with my female body while I work on my real mental health.
My detransition story
My journey with gender was complicated, and looking back, I think a lot of it was tied up in confusion and not getting the right kind of help at the right time. I spent a lot of time in online communities, and I think I was heavily influenced by what I read and the friends I made there. It felt like an escape from dealing with my own problems, which included a lot of anxiety and low self-esteem.
I never felt comfortable with my body, especially during puberty. I hated developing breasts and I felt a deep sense of discomfort that I now see as a mix of body dysmorphia and just a general unhappiness with growing up. I thought these feelings meant I was transgender. I started identifying as non-binary first, because it felt like a less scary step, but that eventually shifted to wanting to fully transition to male.
I took testosterone for a while. It did make some changes, like my voice getting deeper, which I liked at the time. But it also caused some issues. My breast tissue changed and became uneven, which was frustrating. I also worried a lot about fertility and whether I was making a decision I would regret later. I never had any surgeries, but I thought about top surgery constantly.
A big turning point for me was starting a different kind of therapy. It wasn't affirming of my transgender identity; instead, it focused on my underlying anxiety and self-esteem. Through that, I started to understand that my body hatred wasn't necessarily about gender. It was about trauma and a deep-seated feeling that I was wrong or broken. I had to confront my internalised issues instead of trying to change my body to fit them.
I do have regrets about transitioning. I regret not getting the right psychological help sooner. I regret the permanent changes from testosterone, even though some are minor. I don't think transitioning was the right path for me, because it was a solution to the wrong problem. I've come to see my body as just my body; it's female, and that's okay. The problem was never my sex, but the pain I was in. I'm now detransitioning and trying to make peace with myself.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on my experiences:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Around 13-14 | Started feeling intense discomfort with puberty, especially hated breast development. |
| 17 | Began identifying as non-binary online and with friends. |
| 19 | Started taking testosterone after socially transitioning to male. |
| 21 | Noticed uneven breast changes and began worrying about fertility. Stopped testosterone. |
| 22 | Started non-affirming therapy focused on anxiety and self-esteem. Began the process of social detransition. |
| 23 (Now) | Living as female again, working on underlying mental health issues. |
Top Comments by /u/Trans_day_of_rage:
It's shame you didn't get the treatment that you needed, when you needed it. It seems like Doctors are even more dismissive of intersex conditions than i thought. Plenty of cis individuals get hormone treatments due to low testosterone or low estrogen, yet intersex care is often neglected.
You're right. I apologize, I misread the post.
You have every right to be happy with yourself. I'm sorry that others fail to see the beauty in you that is so clearly there. You know what you want with yourself, and that is powerful, and attractive to the right people. Wish you the best :)
Regrowth after atrophy is normal. Uneven breast growth is also normal, but I can see how that can be frustrating. For many people breasts can finish at different sizes. Depending on if you started testosterone before or after you had finished natural breast development, you can expect different levels of breast regrowth.
Talk to your trans healthcare provider about this, ask if you puberty/hormone blockers would still be viable for you. If yes, you could simply "block" T while you take time to consider your transition. Otherwise, you could try to socially detransition while maintaining hormones.
I will not advise changing your dose or anything like that because I am not a doctor. That is something you should 100% talk to a medical professional about.
Both my parents are medical professionals and my father talks a lot about how he learns things from his patients. There are times when the patient knows more about their unique condition then the doctor. Medical professionals don't actually have much speciality, and usually just follow guidelines from some higher authority.