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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, there are no serious red flags to suggest this account is inauthentic, a bot, or not a detransitioner/desister.
The user's language is highly passionate and consistent with the anger and grief many detransitioners feel. They reference personal connections (a niece) and use a variety of arguments (medical, legal, religious, personal anecdote) in a way that reads as human. The tone is emotionally charged and opinionated, which aligns with the expected behavior of a genuine, passionate user in this space.
About me
I was born female and my discomfort started with puberty, hating the changes in my body. I was influenced online and by friends to see transition as the answer, leading me to take testosterone and have surgery. The procedures were presented as a simple fix, but they left me infertile and my real mental health problems untouched. I found real help only when I left those spaces and got therapy for my depression and self-esteem. I’ve found peace in accepting my female body, though I live with profound regret over my permanent changes.
My detransition story
My entire journey with this started when I was very young, though I didn't realize it at the time. I was born female and always felt uncomfortable, especially when I hit puberty. I hated the development of my breasts; it felt like my body was betraying me. I now see this as a mix of puberty discomfort and body dysmorphia, which was made much worse by my low self-esteem and depression. I was also deeply influenced online, spending a lot of time in communities that presented transition as the only real solution to these feelings.
I started identifying as non-binary in my late teens. It felt like an escape from the pressure of being a woman, and all my friends were incredibly supportive of this new identity. This social transition felt good for a while; it was like I had finally found a place where I belonged. But looking back, I can see I was heavily influenced by my friends and the online spaces I was in. It was a form of escapism from my other problems.
My mental health was a mess. I struggled with severe anxiety and had what I now recognize was a porn problem that warped my view of my own body and sexuality. I think a lot of my discomfort was also related to internalized homophobia; the idea of being a lesbian was somehow more frightening than the idea of being a man. I never got a proper exploration of these issues. The only therapy offered was so-called "gender-affirming" care, which just pushed me further down the path.
I ended up taking testosterone. I was told it would solve my problems and make me feel at home in my body. I was never properly warned about the risks or the permanence of the changes. There was no discussion of serious health complications or the fact that I would become infertile. Informed consent was a joke. They completely failed in their duty of care.
I even got top surgery. I was so convinced that removing my breasts would finally make me happy. For a short time after the surgery, I felt a sense of relief, but it was fleeting. The underlying depression and anxiety never went away. I had just mutilated my body trying to fix a problem that was in my mind.
The turning point for me was when I started to step back from the online communities and the friends who only offered one type of support. I began to see the ideology for what it was: a harmful set of ideas that was destroying vulnerable people like me. I found a new therapist who was willing to actually talk about my trauma and my other mental health issues instead of just affirming a gender identity. This non-affirming therapy was what actually helped me. I started to understand that my issues were with my self-esteem and my discomfort with puberty, not with being female.
I have so many regrets about transitioning. I regret the hormones and the surgery. I am now infertile, and that is a profound loss that I have to live with every day. My body is permanently changed, and I have to accept that. My thoughts on gender now are simple: I was born female, and no amount of surgery or medication could change that reality. Fighting against it only caused me more pain. I found more peace in accepting the body I was born with than I ever did trying to change it.
I also became religious through this process. I now believe in a Creator God who made men and women, and I found that accepting this reality brought me a sense of peace I never had when I was trying to create my own identity. It helped me move beyond the anger and see my experience as part of a larger plan.
My story is a warning. The medical system failed me. It was too easy to get life-altering treatments without any real exploration of the other factors in my life. I hope that by sharing this, I can be one of the voices that helps end this madness.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started puberty; began to experience intense discomfort with my developing body and hated my breasts. |
| 17 | Heavily influenced by online communities and friends; began to identify as non-binary as a form of escapism. |
| 19 | Started testosterone after receiving "gender-affirming" therapy with no exploration of other mental health issues. |
| 21 | Underwent top surgery. The initial relief was short-lived, and my underlying depression and anxiety remained. |
| 23 | Began to detransition after stepping away from influencing communities and starting non-affirming therapy that addressed my trauma and self-esteem. |
| 24 | Fully accepted my identity as a female and came to regret my medical transition, recognizing the role of internalized homophobia and body dysmorphia. |
Top Comments by /u/TruthSpeakerNow:
Drag Queens are a highly sexualized performance character and have zero place in front of children. Drag Queens are burlesque performers. There's nothing wrong with you.
Also, it REALLY sounds like you need new friends. The real rebellious thing to do these days is actually being normal. You might find friends who do support you not being transgender at a place like a church. You'd be surprised.
I am so, so sorry this happened to you.
You put your trust in our institutions which are ABSOLUTELY COMMITTED to transitioning anyone who has gender confusion. There is no path presented by the medical establishment to turn around, you get NO support.
We are living through a real life, real-time tragedy. I can only offer my sincere condolences my friend.
I have friends who also were trans in their teenagers and they are starting hormones, getting surgeries, being happy with their gender identity and i support them with all my heart.
You are basically supporting the mutilation of your friends.
"Transphobic" is a made up word designed to silence any opposing views. It means nothing. The critics of the trans agenda are not "afraid" of trans people. They care deeply about the people and especially the young people being affected and are trying to prevent what they see as a grave injustice. They see the trans movement as mutilating children and mutilating people in a mentally vulnerable state. They are acting according to a very strong sense of justice and deeply held moral conviction.
If you can't acknowledge their point of view, in their terms, you honestly have no place in the debate because it shows you don't (and aren't willing to) fully understand both sides - you simply rely on a buzzword to describe your opponents which allows you to shut your brain down and disregard their concerns and point of view because you've labelled them with a word that is simply code for "bad person we don't have to take seriously".
A very good observation imo.
The under the simplest examination the ideology dissolves, which is why it requires so much "activisim" to prop up - and shaming/coercion/guilting/blackmailing of people to keep it going. It's against nature.
The real shot to the heart will be when a DETRANSITIONER, not a predictably Catholic family dad, makes the scathing documentary, about what it's REALLY like to not get any informed consent, etc.
There is an instant classic, groundbreaking documentary waiting to be made.
By my math it would be four months, but yes, that's what it sounds like.
OP - I cannot begin to express how sorry I feel that this has happened to you. But I do believe God has a plan for you and your life, and I don't say that to be glib. Please hold out hope for finding that purpose, and seek help if you are seriously considering suicide.
Maybe you want to be one of the voices to help end this madness. @ Scooter_Downey on twitter may be interested in hearing from people who want to tell their story. He is making a documentary on transgenderism. He is the one who produced the piece on Helena Krischner. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ibq3ld087Y4
It makes TOTAL sense and I feel the same way. What's shocking to me though is that even sometimes when people see kids being transitioned, it's explained away using the typical playbook. I think there is a large group of people leading the trans movement that do not have a conscience. I don't know how anyone can look at Drag Queen Story Hour and 8 year old trans kids and think any of that is normal or remotely ok. It is blatant sexualization of children. I am shocked it's even gone this far.
You are absolutely not alone and there are people praying for you (me for example). I wish I could do more.
My niece is 12 and identifies as non-binary. I know that her parents would only offer affirming care. There would be no way for her to back away from the identity.
She went from a super happy and outgoing 10 year old to a very clearly depressed 12 year old dressing in a goth appearance etc. The change has been sudden and shocking. Of course, her parents say things like "when she was younger she was more into masculine type things, etc." As if this would justify a later disfiguration of her body. There are many ways to be a girl!!!
The whole thing is absolutey nuts. But so sad. I feel for you.
What's missing in the attackers assessment is MEDICAL MALPRACTICE.
There is almost no enforcement of the principle of informed consent which is prevalent in all other areas of medicine. Even to have a hysterectomy a woman has to have multiple levels of warnings, and the consequences and risks clearly explained... but a hysterectomy for "gender affirming care"? Nope.
The gender ideologues have so infiltrated our medical system so as to completely hijack it for their own twisted political agenda: to normalize their sick philosophy.
There is something called "duty of care" that professionals such as lawyers, financial advisors, and others handling one's personal business in a professional capacity must abide by. The idea is that through their title and certification, there is a certain trust placed in them by the patient, client, etc. And neglecting to warn about the risks of a procedure is a severe breach of the duty of care. So it's two things really: failure of informed consent, and a breach of the duty of care. There should, and I hope will, be serious lawsuits coming about this. Medical malpractice lawsuits.
There's some great work being done to counter this madness. The Dems folly is that their ideology is such that over time they encase themselves in a bubble and then inevitably end up going too far because they don't see how nutso they look.
Sending drag queens into libraries to read pornographic books to small children is not going over well - except among the most sick, and delusional of democratic supporters.
This madness needs to stop asap.
What you did (beginning to question, and stopping coming out) is exactly what I pray for every day. People like you are vulnerable to this madness, and it sounds like the light of understanding is dawning within you that you can heal from what actually is troubling you - without doing permanent damage to your body.
I'm so sorry for what happened to you. You can be who you are.