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About me
I started as a teenager, hating the changes of my female puberty and feeling completely disconnected from my body, which was made worse by undiagnosed health problems. My dysphoria was fueled by online social pressure and a deep discomfort with my chronic pain and hormonal conditions, not my actual sex. I now see I was trying to escape my health issues and internalized shame by rejecting my womanhood entirely. After a brutal period of self-hatred, I chose to detransition and embrace being a woman, which was a huge step toward self-love. Now I'm focused on healing my body from EDS and finally enjoying my life without that old shame.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was long and complicated, and it started when I was a teenager. I was dealing with a lot of health problems that doctors couldn't figure out for a long time, which turned out to be a rare genetic disorder, Ehlers-Danlos syndrome (EDS), and severe hormonal issues like PCOS. These conditions made my body feel foreign and uncomfortable, especially during puberty. I hated the changes I was going through and I felt completely disconnected from being a girl.
At the same time, I was deeply involved in online spaces on Tumblr where all my friends were trans. I felt immense social pressure from them to change my name and reject she/her pronouns. I even went by it/its pronouns for two years because I was so desperate to escape being female. Looking back, I see that a lot of my dysphoria was actually discomfort with puberty and my health problems, mixed with a huge dose of internalized misogyny. I was taught to be ashamed of my body and the natural parts of being a woman, like having breasts or the potential for motherhood. I became obsessed with completely rejecting my womanhood.
I never took testosterone or had any surgeries, mostly because my PCOS was so severe that my body was already producing too much testosterone, giving me a more masculine appearance. But my mindset was fully in the transition world. I now see that my struggle wasn't really with gender, but with a deep lack of self-esteem, depression, anxiety, and OCD that latched onto gender as its focus. It was a form of escapism from my physical pain and mental health struggles.
The turning point for me was when I started to develop my own views instead of just following the agenda I was surrounded by. Forgiving myself and finally choosing to embrace womanhood was what made me a more well-rounded person. I realized that the tools I needed to love myself couldn't be found by going under the knife, getting injections, or rejecting the very core of my being. I learned that true self-love was about healing from the inside out, not changing my body to fit an idea.
A big part of my healing was reconnecting with my faith. I had been an atheist for most of my adult life, but I found a lot of comfort and strength in Christianity during my detransition. Verses about your body being a temple really resonated with me; it meant taking care of my body and seeking deeper answers for my health and those dysphoric feelings, instead of just masking them.
I do have regrets. I regret missing out on being a normal teenage girl. I regret the years I spent hating myself and trying to be something I wasn't, influenced by an online cult and social pressure. Not a day goes by where I don't feel some shame about that time, and I’ll always miss the girl I could have been. Letting go of that old mentality was a brutal ego death, but it was worth it.
Now, my biggest passion is focusing on my body and healing from the damage of EDS. I’m learning to take care of myself in the right ways that actually improve my quality of life. I love that I can finally find my own style and enjoy things like going to the beach or dressing cute in hot weather without feeling that old shame. I feel more confident and like I’m finally becoming the person I was meant to be.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 18 | Diagnosed with PCOS and was recommended female HRT, but rejected it due to identifying as trans. |
| Teenage Years | Felt severe puberty discomfort and hated breast development. Got deeply into online trans communities on Tumblr. |
| Throughout Teens | Felt immense social pressure from trans friends; changed name, used it/its pronouns for 2 years. |
| 21 | Officially decided to detransition and embrace my identity as a woman. |
| Early 20s | Discovered I have Ehlers-Danlos syndrome (EDS), explaining years of chronic pain and health issues. |
| Now (20s) | Focused on healing mentally and physically, working to balance hormones, and embracing my faith and womanhood. |
Top Comments by /u/Typical-Cicada7783:
My exact feelings after. I never really got over it. I still don't feel right in my body, because I AM missing something. Internalized misogyny is a disease. Why were we EVER taught that these natural beautiful parts of us should be covered and shamed. I'll always miss the girl I could have been.
Couldn't have said it better. I have chronic pain from EDS and a spinal injury, I wouldn't wish this life on anyone. I always am thinking...how fucking dare these people do this and not research the consequences and look for alternatives. I guess the answer is that its' a validation echo chamber cult.
Real!! I was born+raised in the US but I have Polynesian and Belgian roots...I HATE when people bring Indigenous elders into conversations about trans people being these ancient transcendent beings that have been around for thousands of years and persevered. Two-spirit, Malu, and Māhū are NOT in the realm of transgenderism. They ACTUALLY EARNED THOSE TITLES.
Oh my gosh this sub shows how much healing there is to be had when we aren't all complaining. You look so happy and confident!! After detransitioning I started to love the beach even more, and dressing cute in hot weather, your fit reminded me how bad I miss the coast! I used to always wear hot topic shirts and hoodies/jackets lmfao.
I tend to say this a lot on people's post, but the difference in confidence, and the way that you carry yourself is just so wonderful to see!!! I am so sorry that you had to go through this to find yourself, but I hope you continue to evolve and feel more like yourself than ever! You are absolutely gorgeous, keep slaying
You are already taking those first steps to true self love. The horrors of testosterone ravage the female body in ways I can't even describe. Work on healing yourself, not only mentally, but internally. Look into any supplements or support for your hormones you may be lacking currently, if you aren't already! Best of luck to you on your journey. 🩷
I absolutely get it, mine were more sexual and fucked up but it comes with the territory. Old habits die so so hard. I had to change everything about the mentality I had before and it was a brutal ego death, but it is worth it to find ways to get past the old mentality.
Keep questioning! We are meant to question!! I know the trans cult likes to think that questioning this huge step in lifestyle choice is wrong and that you can never go back, but there's always an option! Being female is not the worst thing that has ever happened to humanity, even though the trans identified females would like you to think that.
I 100% missed out on being a normal teenage girl because not only I was dealing with some health issues (which turned out to be a one in a million genetic disorder) and hormonal issues. On top of that I was obsessed with completely rejecting my womanhood because of the tumblr trans cult. All my "friends" were trans and on top of my dysphoria I felt IMMENSE social pressure to change my name, use ANYTHING but she pronouns, even resorting to going by it/its for 2 YEARS. Not a day goes by where I do not feel ashamed. I wish I could do it over.
I feel the exact same. I am in my 20's and going back to school and I cannot STAND seeing all these poor 18 year old kids that fell into the gender ideology cult. I have been called all sorts of names for detransitioning because I have shared things pertaining to my past on social media. I also lost my best friend of 10 years when she decided I was the devil for detransitioning and she was starting her life as a "gay male" after experiencing severe trauma. It is very isolating. I can literally only share my views on here and with my girlfriend now; I get called alt right or a terf anywhere else because ppl put labels on anyone with critical thinking. I'm actually so thankful for this sub for helping me to feel more like a person for experiencing this. I think we will end up being the ones to say I told you so. I think we will find and create a bigger place for ourselves. Best of luck to you💓