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About me
I was born female and my journey started with a deep hatred of puberty and my changing body. I thought becoming a man would fix my depression and low self-esteem, so I took testosterone and had surgery. I eventually realized I was trying to solve mental health problems with physical changes, and my underlying issues never went away. I stopped hormones and now live with the permanent effects, including infertility. Through therapy focused on my trauma, I'm finally healing and learning to accept myself as the woman I always was.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was messy and complicated, and it came from a place of deep unhappiness. For a long time, I believed that changing my body was the only way to fix what was wrong inside. I was born female, but I hated going through female puberty. I developed a strong dislike for my breasts and felt incredibly uncomfortable with the changes happening to my body. This discomfort was mixed up with a lot of other things: I struggled with depression and anxiety for years, and I had very low self-esteem. Looking back, I think a lot of my feelings were a form of escapism—I wanted to escape from being me.
I was influenced a lot by what I saw online and by friends who were also exploring gender. It felt like I had found a community and an answer. I started identifying as non-binary first, but that eventually shifted to identifying as a trans man. I thought if I could just look like a man, everything would fall into place. I took testosterone for several years and I got top surgery. I had a double mastectomy.
The physical changes from testosterone were significant, and for a while, I felt a sense of relief. But that feeling didn't last. The underlying problems—the depression, the anxiety, the feeling of not being right in my own skin—never really went away. They just morphed. I started to realize that I had made permanent changes to my body to solve a problem that wasn't really about my body at all. I began to understand that a lot of my initial discomfort was related to trauma and societal pressures, not an innate gender identity.
I eventually decided to stop testosterone and began the process of detransitioning. This was its own difficult journey. I had to face the permanent alterations I had made. I am now infertile because of the hormones, and my body is permanently changed from the surgery. I have serious regrets about transitioning. I regret the surgeries and the hormones because I now see that I was trying to fix a mental health crisis with physical changes. I benefited greatly from therapy that was non-affirming of my transgender identity; it was only when a therapist helped me look at the root causes of my distress—like my history of trauma and my struggles with self-esteem—that I started to truly heal.
My thoughts on gender have changed completely. I don't believe that feminine equals woman or masculine equals man. I believe now that I was a woman all along, just a woman who was deeply uncomfortable with the stereotypes and expectations placed on me, and who was hurting. I see my detransition as a powerful act of self-reflection and growth. It's been hard, especially dealing with the health complications and the permanent effects, but I am learning to live with myself as I am. My life is not what I thought it would be, but it's still my life, and I'm trying to move forward one step at a time.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on the ages I remember:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started feeling intense discomfort with female puberty and hated my developing breasts. |
| 19 | Began identifying as non-binary, influenced by online communities and friends. |
| 21 | Started identifying as a trans man and began taking testosterone. |
| 23 | Underwent top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 26 | Stopped testosterone and began the process of detransition. |
| 27 | Started non-affirming therapy to address underlying trauma and depression. |
Top Comments by /u/Ummah_Strong:
Woah friend, a lot happening here. I say slow down for s minute. You are not responsible for how others see you. Whether someone sees you as a warning or an inspiration or the next messiah, that's just not on you.
Your body may be damaged but much of it can be healed and the rest can still be lived with. SRS complications will not stop you from enjoying Netflix or reading or writing or card/video games or any number of things.
There is life beyond your body. When covid ends you can try again at school. You can become a therapist and help those in your shoes or (since the weight of the world is NOT on your shoulders) you can become a custodian or a grocery store clerk. Essential and important without the entire world looking to you for answers.
It's okay if you only change the world for one person amd it's ok for that person to be you.
I think you are foing to be okay. Whenever I feel regret it helps me to imagine how much worse. Its morbid but it kinda works in a way.
Example: you may regret those surgeries but at least you dont have to regret murdering twelve people or doing a porno on national television in front of Donald Trump
By comparison this may seem easier to deal with yes? That's just my coping method I'm not even sure it's very healthy but I'm just wanting to help
Just so I am clear and do not overstep as an ally, what constitutes detransition advice vs support in that sense?
Like for example let's say a person going ftmtf and they want to wear a skirt but are nervous, am I allowed to say go for it?
I'm really not being cheeky or obtuse I honestly want to make sure I understand the rules so I can follow them :( pls not mad.
Easy easy. Relax. Breast aren't the be all and end all. They're not the defining characteristic of a woman.
I think reconstructive surgeries exist for double mastectomy.
And even if u dont wsnt that it's okay. You're still a woman. Yiu lost your breasts to an illness. Just mental instead of physical. It will get better. Be gentle to you
No...menstrual cycles happen due to a fluctuation in hormones. Mtf hormones don't fluctuate to those degrees if the endocrinologist is doing their job.
The brain doesnt go through cycles like that either? So no. It's not possible?
Correct me if I'm wrong tho.
Hey, your life may be in pieces but its life you're still here amd that's really important 🤗
I'm sorry things did not work out with your ex, but doing what's best for you is not the same as it being your fault.
Sometimes what's best for us isnt best for those we love and that can really hurt.
You havent screwed up your life. You simply changed its course amd change can be very very good.
Right now things may seem overwhelming and that's okay. Take some time to breathe, relax and get your bearings again.
My advice is one step at a time, one day at a time
Not really. Many truly 100% straight men will hear that you were born with a oenis and want nothing more to do with you, no matter how well you pass. Many will be put off by the fact you cant have bio kids. And YOU may be unhappy if you're "penetrated as a woman" but feel NOTHING
You are growing and maturing. You're recovering from trauma you've only just begun to be able to recognize and that's honestly amazing.
You're at a point where you can go through this despite the mockery and that's powerful. These people should be thrilled hiu have been able to self reflect and that you are learning to be you as you are, not what trauma society and dysphoria tell you you should be.
What your doing is beautiful and powerful. Sad fact is no matter what you'll always have doubters and commenters. It hurts when those doubters are family yes. But it doesn't make what your doing through any less important or any less a show of strength
Feminine does not equal beautiful.woman.
Masculine does not equal handsome.man.
We know this on this sub. You're going to be q wonderful mother, and you only need to be beautiful.to you. You wanna know what's really sexy? Confidence!
Your baby is gonna love you neckbeard and all.
I don't really see it as same/different experiences of period between mtf women and cis-women. I'd dare to generalize further and argue the philosophical point that no two people/consciousness's experiences can be compared as whatever else we can measure the "qualia" would still be impossible to measure.
You do understand that the physical process of a period is not mimicked by alternating when you take hormones?
And you do understand transwomen can not find support in menstruation support groups any more than a cis woman could ask for support in a prostate enlargement group?
And honestly I do certainly straight up mean originating in mind only. The male body does not experience menstruation OR ITS SYMPTOMS on a regular cyclical basis.
The male body does not regularly on a monthly ish basis experience the loss of a uterine lining. Suddenly craving chocolate, or ice cream or feeling bloated does not equate to what menstruation is.
By suggesting otherwise you are creating disinformation, downplaying and denying what menstruation is, and invalidating the experience of women everywhere.
Transwomen do not experience menstruation. This is not an opinion.