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About me
I started binding my chest at twelve because I was deeply uncomfortable with my breasts, especially after the sexism I faced got worse. I believed I was a trans man and started testosterone at eighteen, then had top surgery at nineteen. Almost immediately after surgery, I realized I was uncomfortable being seen as a man and stopped hormones. Now I understand I was just a girl who hated being a girl because of sexism, not because I was male. I'm exploring reconstruction and hair removal to feel whole again as a woman, which finally makes me happy.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and now detransition has been confusing, but I'm starting to understand how I got here. It all started when I hit puberty. I was about twelve, and I became extremely uncomfortable with having breasts. It felt like agony every day. I think a big part of it was the sexism I experienced. When I developed breasts, the way men and boys treated me got so much worse. I was sexualized and put down, and I saw the boys in my class having everything I wanted: skinny bodies, uncomplicated friendships, and respect. I was deeply jealous of them.
Around that time, I also developed an eating disorder. Looking back, I had a whole package of issues that could easily be confused for gender dysphoria. I started binding my chest with sports bras and binders for six years because I hated my breasts so much. During that time, I came to believe I was a trans man. It made sense to me then; I thought my problem was with being female, so the solution was to become male.
I started testosterone when I was around 18 and was on it for about a year and a half. Then, this past February, when I was 19, I got top surgery. I genuinely believed it was the right decision for me at the time. But almost right after the surgery, I started to feel increasingly uncomfortable. I realized I didn't like being gendered as a man anymore. The moment that really made it click was when my grandma accidentally used female pronouns for me and it felt comforting, not wrong. That's when I knew something was off.
I've stopped taking testosterone now. I’m realizing that I was never really a man. I was just a girl who hated being a girl because of the sexism I faced. I felt alienated from girlhood. Now, I don't have dysphoria anymore, but I feel disconnected from my body because of the surgery. I'm looking into breast reconstruction, and I've been told to look for surgeons who specialize in reconstruction after cancer, as they can create good results from any starting point. I'm also looking into laser hair removal or electrolysis for the body hair from testosterone.
I don't feel like my body is ruined or that I wasted my time, but I do have regrets. I wish I had gotten a therapist when I was younger instead of rushing into transition. I think twelve-year-old me just needed someone to talk to about the sexism and my eating disorder. I’ve been in contact with my gender clinic, and they've been surprisingly supportive. They offered me a psychologist to help me sort things out, and they seem interested in my experience as someone who is detransitioning.
I'm trying to move forward. I wear bras with padding sometimes to feel more connected to being a woman, and researching reconstruction makes me feel like I'm doing something proactive. Everything about living as and affirming myself as a woman now makes me happier than I've ever been. I just need to figure out how to feel whole again.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| My Age | Year | Event |
|---|---|---|
| 12 | approx. 2017 | Puberty started. Became extremely uncomfortable with breast development due to increased sexism. |
| 12-18 | 2017-2023 | Identified as transmasc. Bound chest for 6 years. |
| 18 | 2023 | Started testosterone (T). |
| 19 | February 2024 | Had top surgery. |
| 19 | Mid-2024 | Stopped testosterone. Realized I am not trans and began detransitioning. |
| 19 | Late 2024 | Currently exploring breast reconstruction and hair removal. Living as a woman. |
Top Comments by /u/UnionVisual2694:
Hi, I know you’re feeling scared, but I promise you, it’s gonna be okay. You are only 17, you’ve only been on T for 3 weeks, I assume you havent had any surgeries? My advice to you, is to maybe seek therapy, if available to you. And if you feel so lost in your transition, then it would maybe be smart to take a break from hormones. You can always go back on them! Being trans is a beautiful, but insanely difficult thing. I myself have just recently, after 6+ years of thinking I was a transman, come to terms with that not being the case. I was on T for 1.5 years, and recently got top surgery. But now suddenly I feel like I’m right back where I started. I also dealt with ED’s. And I’ve come to realise that my envy of men, and my desire to be one, probably rooted in the increased sexism I endured when entering puberty. I wasnt allowed to be myself without being put down and/or sexualized by men. It seemed like the boys in my class had everything I desired, like skinny bodies, uncomplicated friendships, respect etc.
I know exactly how it feels to feel like a scrambled, mishmash of a person. If you need anything, feel free to DM me! But yea, holy hell, I can understand why you might feel at a loss, but I assure you, that things will get easier. Growing is hard
I’m very much in contact with both my gender clinic and personal doctor. I recently told the gender clinic that I was detransitioning, I for some reason expected them to be sorta hostile and dissapointed, but quite the opposite.
They were very interested, and offered me one of their psychologists to talk to regularly. They are basically helping me sort out my gender and general wellbeing, no matter what direction I’m going.
They seemed glad to be able to talk to an outlier in the system, probably so they can get more info and research done
I think this sounds pretty unhealthy, but since you say that you are not in a position to feel able to break up, and it sounds like you don’t want to either, my advice would to just don’t do anything permanent.
If you are comfortable with trying out feminine things, that’s fine, but I don’t think you are in a position where you can truly and honestly explore your gender, not while you are with him. Having a person pressure an identity onto you is really confusing, and might fog your perception of yourself.
Haha yea I can see how that sounds strange! Pretty much as soon as puberty started, I grew to be extremely uncomfortable with having breasts.
I was in agony every day for a long time. After 6 years of wearing binders and sportsbras, I got the top surgery option. So I got the surgery, because I genuienly thought that it was what was best for me, and I for so long had thought I was transmasc. But now I’m realizing that I might never have been, and just hated being a girl. So I am still confused wether I regret the surgery - because what if I didnt get it, and I never realised that I might be a woman? Thats why I am looking into the options (-:
Oh yea definently not planning on getting another surgery right away! I completely understand where you are coming from (: I have just been stressing over wether it was the right decision, so I wanted to figure out what my options where, to ease my mind. I hope the best for you, thank you<33
I have also been looking into breast reconstruction, and some advice I’ve gotten from many different people, is to look for someone who specialises in breast reconstruction after cancer, as they are experts in turning basically any starting point into great looking results (:
You don’t sound harsh at all, this is very helpful. I have a hard time w people just saying i need to process my surgery, because i feel thats saying nothing, like that can be applied to anything, so this is a very nice blow of fresh air. I’m from Denmark, but it seems that this is pretty much scandic procedure. The only thing is that the clinic have made it pretty clear that I’m one of their first detrans patients, so the whole thing is kinda getting based on me it seems.
I have started to wear bras etc, and I’m researching a lot about re construction, really trying to pass the time and still feel like I am doing something.
But yeah, it really helps that you’re being “logical/factual”, I get enough therapy speech in my day to day life
When I hit puberty, everything just went downhill for me. I had always been jealous of boys, as they were allowed to do anything. When I hit puberty, i felt there was a huge increase in the sexism I experienced, and I hated having breasts.
Now, 6 years later, I feel different. I have been on T for 1.5 years, and got top surgery in February 2024. I am now realising that was the wrong decision for me. I had been alienated from girlhood, and sexism had made me hate being a girl. But now I don’t have dysphoria anymore - I hate being perceived as a man, and I’m looking into breast reconstruction, laser hair removal etc.
I dont feel like my body has been ruined, or that I’ve wasted time, but still. I wish I had just gotten a therapist, and waited. I think 12 year old me just needed someone to talk to. I think it can be benefitial to just let urself be if you are even the slightest bit unsure. Puberty sucks, take time to really find yourself
I am sorry to hear that you are feeling this way, but let me assure you, you have not messed your body up. You are not ruined or broken.
Usually when stopping T, your body hair will slightly thin out, not completely ofc, but still a little. I have heard that electrolysis should be the best way to permanently getting rid of unwanted hair, else there’s ofc the usual laser hair removal and waxing.
Trans voice lessons has a complete youtube guide on how to voice train and get a lighter voice!
You have only been only been on T for 6 months, thats pretty early for finding out that it maybe wasnt for you. I wish you all the best, you are not messed up
You were on T for 3 or more years?? Did not know they allowed so young people on it. It’s probably due to you being only 16, but ofc also depends on how intensely T affected you? Cuz some people turn into a lumberjack overnight, where others take years to just get a slightly deeper voice. But hey, honestly really great for you that you discovered that T wasnt for you so early on! Hope the best for you (: