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The user's posts are highly detailed, emotionally nuanced, and internally consistent, reflecting a complex personal journey. They demonstrate a deep engagement with radical feminist theory, a common perspective in the detrans community, and describe a realistic, non-linear process of grappling with dysphoria, ideology, and body acceptance. The language is personal and reflective, not scripted or repetitive.
About me
I started hating my female body when puberty began at 11, feeling like I was trapped in someone else's skin. My dysphoria was deeply tangled with other struggles like an eating disorder, depression, and anxiety. Discovering radical feminism freed me by showing me that gender is a social construct, not a solution. I now see that learning to cope and accept my body is the real path to healing, not medical transition. While the dysphoria still lingers sometimes, it no longer controls me, and I've found tremendous support from others on this same journey.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started when I was really young, around the time I began puberty at age 11. I felt like I was losing control of my body. It felt too early for me and it really hurt. I started to hate the changes, especially my breasts. It felt like I was being forced to wear someone else’s skin every day. I should have been taught that my body wasn't against me, but instead, I felt like I had to hide everything.
Looking back, I see now that a lot of my discomfort was tied to other issues. I was diagnosed with an eating disorder, but for me, it was less about wanting to be skinny and more about self-punishment that became a strong habit. I also struggled with depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem. I know now that gender dysphoria is often comorbid with things like autism, OCD, and body dysmorphia, and I see how all of that was tangled up together for me.
For a long time, I bought into the idea that transitioning was the only way to deal with these feelings. I thought about it a lot and read a ton online. But eventually, I found radical feminist theory, and it completely changed my perspective. It was freeing. I realized gender is a patriarchal social construct, so why would I want to identify with my own oppression? This helped me look at my dysphoria from a completely different angle. It helped me see that a lot of my feelings were connected to body insecurities and the beauty standards set up by our patriarchal society. Learning this felt more like healing than transitioning ever did.
I started to see gender-affirming surgeries and even the general beauty industry through this new lens. I can't see any of it as okay anymore; it's all linked to misogynistic principles. It's also not a cure. For me, learning to cope is the way to go. The dysphoria is still there in the back of my head sometimes, but it doesn't dictate how I view my body anymore. I even mourn the body parts I wanted to have, but I've accepted that you just can’t become the opposite sex. Wanting something you can’t ever have and deciding it's so unfair that everyone else is wrong is childish. Healing from gender dysphoria is like growing up.
I definitely have regrets about the path I almost went down. I regret that I didn't find this way of thinking sooner. I wish I had been taught body acceptance and had real emotional support during puberty instead of being made to feel like I had to change my body to be okay. I am completely against kids transitioning; I want their dysphoria to be taken seriously, the same way we'd take a kid's depression seriously, but I would prefer they have other ways of dealing with it. Socially transitioning might be okay for some teens, but medical transition should wait until they are much older, because it's experimental and permanent.
Now, I'm trying to accept my female body, even with the dysphoria that sometimes lingers. Knowing there are others like me who are dysphoric but don't transition and still find a way to live in their bodies has helped me tremendously.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 11 | Started puberty. Felt a deep loss of control and began to hate the physical changes, especially breast development. |
| Various ages (teen years) | Struggled with depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, and an eating disorder rooted in self-punishment. |
| Young adulthood | Researched transition heavily online and considered it as a solution to my dysphoria. |
| 24 | Discovered radical feminist theory. This fundamentally shifted my view of gender as a patriarchal social construct and was a freeing, healing moment that led me away from pursuing transition. |
Top Comments by /u/Visible-Cream5972:
I would have introduced myself to radical feminism younger. It’s the most rational way to find if you’re suffering from internalized misogyny or gender dysphoria or both. Unfortunately it’s not common to read radical feminist theory and some trans spaces completely shut it down. But it saved me more than transitioning ever did. Helped give me a new and improved idea of gender and sex and better understanding of female oppression that I knew existed but didn’t have the words for yet. Also gender dysphoria is comorbid with autism, OCD, depression, (social) anxiety, eating disorders and body dysmorphia so as a parent you might want to educate yourself on that as well just to play it safe. You might also want to consider that your child may not be straight, bisexuality and asexuality might be higher in transgender individuals so that’s something to think about. Over all I would just try and help let your child know that they are not alone. Finding out there were others like me who were dysphoric and that some dysphorics never transition medically or aren’t trans and accept their female body even with dysphoria helped me a ton. Communication and community is important, trans teen or not.
I definitely agree against kids transitioning, of course I want their gender dysphoria to be taken seriously the same way I’d want a kids depression to be taken seriously even if they’re a kid. But I would prefer them to have other ways of dealing with dysphoria than transitioning of any kind. I want them to be taught body acceptance and to have emotional support during puberty as I remember being made to feel I had to hide my changes during puberty both emotional and physical. I also started puberty at 11 in 5th grade and idk if that’s early but the fact it felt too early for me definitely hurt. I felt like I was losing control of my body. I should have been taught that my body wasn’t against me. And I wish my overbearing parents allowed me some control over my personal life. And that my pain from my puberty was taken seriously not just psychologically but physically as well as I had PCOS. I just wish I knew what was normal for puberty and what wasn’t physically and mentally. Maybe socially transitioning can be the case for some teens and then after 21 (idk) people can medically transition if they wish because kids transitioning now is definitely experimental like you said.
That’s fair. Since becoming more rad-leaning myself radical feminism has been my primary reason for being against the beauty industry and critical of cosmetic surgeries in general. And looking at gender affirming surgeries from a feminist perspective has been my biggest influence to leave gender ideology behind. I also can’t say it’s a realistic stance though and I know there’s nuance to this but that’s been one of my biggest motivators in changing my viewpoints.
Reading gender critical theory by radical feminists and realizing gender is patriarchal so why would I identify with my own oppression? It was freeing. I had heard gender was a social construct by TRAs but they never seem to follow that to any conclusion. This made me look at my GD from a different perspective and my body in general. I also mourn the parts of my body that I’m still dysphoric about. If I’m dysphoric and uncomfortable within my skin and body I mourn a life where I don’t have to feel this way. I mourn body parts I wanted to have because you just can’t become the opposite sex and wanting something you can’t ever have and deciding its so unfair that everyone else is wrong is childish. Healing from GD is like growing up.
I had the same realization. I was okay with transitioning based on viewing it as body modification and therefore body autonomy but looking into the beauty industry and plastic surgery, now I can’t see any of it as okay. Gender affirming surgery and plastic surgery is linked to misogynistic principles. And like you said it’s also not a cure for GD. Some people say it helped their GD and while I do believe them, GD is kinda like depression where it doesn’t go away, not entirely. Learning to cope is the way to go. I view it as always kinda being there in the back of my head but that should not dictate how I view my body. It is connected to body insecurities and beauty standards set up by our patriarchal society. Even when I was younger I didn’t understand how some people tried to make it seem that GD existed in a vacuum. And to push ideology onto kids/teens is like pushing your own insecurities into kids/teens. It can feel like a scam, one many young people buy into without questioning their own motives because once you have a label you convince you’re going to feel like this for life which is saddening. The only thing I can’t say for certain is the comparison to a anorexia, I’m also diagnosed with ana but mine was less about wanting to look skinny and more about self punishment that became such a strong habit. But that’s just my experience personally and in no way does it represent everyone and there are still similarities between the two like with diet pills as you said. The comparison is definitely there I just don’t think it’s 1:1 or at least I’m on the fence about it. And if someone I know is suffering from GD, I would try to help them any way I could too.
I feel you. My gender dysphoria felt like I was being forced to wear someone else’s skin every day. And I have seen some people refer to trans people bodies as disgusting and even freakish which is really baffling to say especially if you believe they are dealing with so much self hate and dissociating from their bodies. Feels hypocritical.