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About me
I was born male and started transitioning because I felt different and thought becoming a woman was the answer. Hormones really harmed me, but I ignored it because I was so convinced it was right. I slowly realized I was torturing my body to try and become something I could never really be. Now, five months after stopping hormones, I'm trying to live without any labels and heal from the damage. It's a confusing path, but connecting with others here has given me strength.
My detransition story
My journey with transition and detransition has been the most difficult and confusing experience of my life. It’s like I opened a box I could never really close again. I was born male, and from a young age, I never felt like I fit in with the other boys. I was different, more sensitive, and I struggled a lot with anxiety and low self-esteem. I think a lot of my desire to transition came from a deep unhappiness with myself and my place in the world.
When I discovered transgender identities online, it felt like an answer. It gave me a framework to understand my feelings of not fitting in. I thought that if I became a woman, I could finally be my "true self" and be happy. I started taking estrogen and testosterone blockers. The hormones really messed with me, both physically and mentally, but at the time I was so convinced it was the right path that I ignored the harm. I was completely delusional about what it was doing to me.
My detransition didn't start with one big moment of clarity. It was a slow process. I had to really revisit my past and think about my motivations. A huge part of it was realizing that no matter what I did, I would never be a cis woman. I was a male trying to be like a female, and I was torturing my body and psyche to achieve an idea of happiness that wasn't realistic. I began to understand that who I am is so much bigger than gender. My identity doesn't need to be built around that.
I also came to see the trans movement itself differently. I feel like we were all lab rats in a big experiment. The ideology promises liberation, but for me and many others, it caused a lot of pain. It’s not okay to believe that harming your own body and mind to look like the opposite sex is a simple solution. Society is violent and puts everyone in boxes, and the trans solution just felt like switching to a different box, one that was incredibly expensive and cosmetic. I saw that beautiful, passing trans people were more accepted, but it all felt so superficial.
Letting go of being trans was hard because it had become such a huge part of my identity. I’ve gone through all the stages of grief over it, even feeling a lot of anger towards the ideology that I felt misled me. Now, five months into detransitioning, I just want to distance myself from it all. I’m trying to find a way to live authentically without having to fit into any mold, male or female. It’s a confusing path, but hearing from others who are going through the same thing has given me the strength to keep going.
I don't regret my transition because it led me to this understanding, but I deeply regret the physical and psychological harm I caused myself believing in it. I have serious health complications from the hormones and I am now infertile, which is a difficult reality to face.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 19 | Started questioning my gender identity, influenced by online communities. |
| 20 | Began socially identifying as a trans woman. |
| 21 | Started hormone therapy (estrogen and testosterone blockers). |
| 24 | Began to seriously question my transition and the ideology behind it. |
| 24 | Realized I would never be a cis woman and was harming myself. |
| 24 | Stopped taking hormones (5 months ago from my last comment). |
| 24 | Began the process of detransitioning and rediscovering my identity. |
Top Comments by /u/VisualExtension3943:
Society is truly violent, and it will tell you in many different ways how you should behave or who you should be. At the end of the day, it totally matter's. It's not wrong or weak to admit for yourself that you were being treated with violence for being more autentic, and that now you're supressing that autenticity in order to fit, in order to receive love, respect and a full plate (not only crumbs).
Im detransitioning myself for 5 month's now and i often wonder why... I mean, even here, a lot of people truly believe there's a specific way for being a man or a woman, that comes with a specific body/appearence. Society still struggles to accept and understand someone who doesn't fit the mold.
That said... People don't like ugly, no matter how it comes or what it is. Beautifull trans people are well accepted, and at the end of the day, the trans existence being something so very cosmetic, you depend on money in order to be good at being trans.
I’m truly thankful to you for sharing your experience and for letting me know that I’m not the only one going through this kind of problem. Because of that, I’m sure that I -and others like we- will be able to endure it.
Being trans was such a big part of my identity and life opportunities, and I totally feel a bit lost now that I’ve let go of that identity. I’ve been through all the stages of grief, even feeling hatred toward “trans ideology,” but now I just wish I could distance myself from all of it.
Thanks for sending me some virtual strength haha, and you’re right, guess I’m not too old after all.
that's a very nice description and i feel like people who desisted don't really get what is like to open and then close this box of pandora, so they circle around why's and supposition's without the experience of living it. Being detrans is a lot.
I think blocking testosterone and taking E messes with everyone, some people just learn how to cope with it better than i did, idk.
i prefer this over "actual detrans".
Most people here don't hate trans people, they just hate the ideology... You gotta understand that most detrans people have been hurt by this ideology... It's truly not okay to believe it is okay. Trans people are rat labs, we're only going to see how this (harming your own body and mind in many ways in order to look and act like your idea of the opposite sex) turn's out when they're older.
The Trans movement is wrong in so many way's, and it's not wrong to say so, it's just true. It's not about moral's.
when i try to recall why i stopped being trans, i simply don't have a clear answer like "i didn't passed as" or "the hormones did me bad", because despite the harm of the HRT i was delusional about it.
It was a process envolving
- revisiting my past
- understanding that as a trans woman i would never be a "cis" woman.
- looking at myself as a male trying to be like a female, and realizing i was torturing my body and psyche in order to be "my true self", be "happy"
- realizing who i am goes way beyond gender