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Reddit user /u/Vivid-Humor-7210's Detransition Story

Transitioned: 24 -> Detransitioned: 28
male
took hormones
regrets transitioning
serious health complications
now infertile
intersex
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About me

I was raised as a boy, but my body started developing in a female way as a teenager, which is how I discovered my intersex condition. I later transitioned to male and took testosterone for four years, but it only made me feel worse about myself. Becoming a mother was the turning point that made me realize I needed to detransition back to female. I'm now navigating the physical changes from testosterone while finally accepting myself as a woman. My journey was complicated, but I've found my truth in being my children's mum.

My detransition story

My whole journey with gender has been complicated because of my intersex condition. I was born with what looked like male parts, but when I was 15, my body started developing in a female way. I got my period and ended up in the hospital, where they discovered I had a uterus, cervix, and ovaries. It was a huge shock. The doctors never did genetic testing because it was obvious something was different, but I still don't know the exact name of my DSD.

Because I had been raised as a boy, when my body started changing, I felt a lot of pressure to pick a side. At 24, I decided to transition to male. I took testosterone for about four years. I thought it would make me feel more comfortable, but it didn't. I ended up losing a lot of weight and feeling worse about how I looked. Now, when I see old photos of myself from before I transitioned, I think, "God, I used to be so pretty."

What really made me start detransitioning back to female was becoming a mother. After I had my kids, I just knew. I'm their mum. It wasn't about how anyone else saw me; it was about who I am to them. That feeling was stronger than anything else.

Being intersex comes with its own set of struggles. It bugs me when people in transgender spaces use intersex as a talking point, because for me, it's a real medical condition with serious complications. I have a higher risk of cancer and I've had fertility issues because my uterus didn't develop properly. It's been hard to get the right healthcare support for it.

Now that I'm detransitioning, I'm dealing with the effects of having been on testosterone. A lot of my body hair has gone back, but I'm getting laser hair removal for my face because it's annoying. I worry about what will and won't change back, especially downstairs, after being on T for so long.

I don't think my intersex condition has anything to do with my gender identity. I identify as a woman, regardless of the body I was born in. For me, transitioning to male was a mistake. I don't regret it because it led me to my children, but I know now that I was never meant to be a man. I'm just a woman who had a very unusual path to figuring that out.

Here is a timeline of my journey:

Age Event
15 My body started developing female characteristics; I got my period and was hospitalised, leading to the discovery of my intersex condition (DSD).
24 I started taking testosterone and began living as a male.
28 I stopped taking testosterone after roughly 4 years.
(Age not given) I had children, which was a major catalyst for my detransition.
Present I am currently detransitioning back to female.

Top Reddit Comments by /u/Vivid-Humor-7210:

8 comments • Posting since September 28, 2024
Reddit user Vivid-Humor-7210 (Socially Trans - Regrets entire Transition) comments on a post about life regrets, explaining that transitioning to male made them lose weight and look worse, and that they now look back at pre-transition photos and think they used to be pretty.
31 pointsOct 14, 2024
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Yea. I used to be like that I used to hate how I looked and transitioned to male and just found I lost loads of weight and looked worse. So really didn't make me feel any better about myself transitioning. But now I look at pre transition photos of myself and think. God I used to be so pretty.

Reddit user Vivid-Humor-7210 (Socially Trans - Regrets entire Transition) explains their frustration with the transgender community's use of intersex analogies, detailing their personal struggle with a DSD, including health complications, a higher cancer risk, fertility issues, and their own history of transition and detransition.
20 pointsOct 12, 2024
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It honestly bugs me when transgender individuals use intersex as a go between term. I've struggled with my dsd since the age of 15 and even now struggle to get the health care support around it. I get that some trans people may think they have a dad because of the way they feel but dsds can cause massive complications. The fact I was born with both parts and have a uturus and overies and developed female natuly means I have a way higher rate of things such as cancer. It also causes many fertility issues in which I've struggled carrying because my uturus hasn't developed properly. But that's not too say someone with a dsd can't also be transgender. So for me I transitioned to male when I was 24 and now detransitioning back to a female after not feeling comfortable as a male

Reddit user Vivid-Humor-7210 (Socially Trans - Regrets entire Transition) advises against using FaceApp to decide on detransition, noting the MTFTM OP's current androgynous appearance could allow them to pass as either gender.
11 pointsOct 14, 2024
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I honestly wouldn't go off an app. I also wouldn't detransition fully on how you look. You have to do what feels best for you. Faceapp doesn't really show you facial structure, it rather just changes the shape of your eyes and simple features. But I would say you are very androgenous ATM and could easily pass for either if that helps

Reddit user Vivid-Humor-7210 (Socially Trans - Regrets entire Transition) asks about the reversibility of testosterone's effects, specifically regarding body hair, Adam's apple, voice, and genital changes after 4 years on HRT.
7 pointsSep 28, 2024
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I knew body hair could and most of mine has gone back tbh. I was always told the Adams apple and voice wouldn't go back to normal. I've gone for laser hair to get rid of facial hair cause it's annoying me too much. I know it's a bit personal but does your down stairs go back. I was on T for like 4 years and now worried about what will and won't go back

Reddit user Vivid-Humor-7210 (Socially Trans - Regrets entire Transition) explains being an AMAB intersex person who developed female anatomy at 15, including a uterus, cervix, ovaries, and menstruation, and criticizes the NHS for its lack of education and funding for intersex conditions.
5 pointsOct 12, 2024
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For me I never had genetic testing done as for me it was more obvious so they never felt the need to genetic test. Though now I'm older I have requested this so I know exactly what specific condition I have as it's not something i fully know. So for me I was amab but started developing female at the age of 15 in which I started getting periods which landed me in hospital in which it was found I had a uturus and cervix and overies . But honestly think the NHS lacks the education on intersex aswell as "don't want to spend the money on it" they would rather me just be male but I unfortunately can't help my body

Vivid-Humor-7210, an intersex individual, explains that gender identity is distinct from being intersex. Based on their personal experience, they have lived as both male and female, but identify more as female regardless of their biological characteristics. They describe themselves as an intersex woman who transitioned to male and later detransitioned back to female, emphasizing that being intersex does not influence the gender they feel. Vivid-Humor-7210’s perspective highlights that intersex status and gender identity are separate, and cautions against using intersex people as analogies in discussions about gender identity and transition.
5 pointsOct 12, 2024
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I would say gender identity is different to being intersex. Being intersex myself I've both been male and female and know I identify more as a female regardless of the body I was born in. So for me I always say as an intersex woman I transitioned to male and then now detransitioning back to female as I don't feel intersex has any impact on the gender I feel. I don't know if that makes any sense

Vivid-Humor-7210 explains that motherhood significantly influenced their perception of their own gender identity after detransitioning. Before having children, they did not care about how others perceived them. However, after becoming a parent, their focus shifted, and they strongly identified as a mother to their children. This experience led them to prioritize their role as a mum over external perceptions of gender, highlighting how parenthood, specifically motherhood, shaped their sense of self in a way that differed from their experiences before having kids.
3 pointsOct 12, 2024
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I don't know. I can't explain that. For me I think it was motherhood. Like I never cared how anyone else saw me but after having my kids I was like no. I'm a mum to them.

According to Vivid-Humor-7210, a common misconception is that having a DSD (Differences/Disorders of Sex Development) always causes complete infertility. In reality, fertility varies depending on the specific DSD condition. Some DSD conditions do result in infertility, but others may only make it more difficult to have children, not impossible. Additionally, for individuals with a healthy uterus but facing infertility due to a DSD condition, IVF (in vitro fertilization) remains an option. Overall, whether someone with a DSD can have children depends on the particular condition they have.
3 pointsOct 12, 2024
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Yea. There is a lot of people who think it makes you completely infertile having a dsd. But that's not true at all. It can just make it a little more difficult to have children depending on which condition you have. There are some dsd conditions that do make you infertile but there is always the option of IVF if you have a healthy uturus. It all really depends on the condition.