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The user's perspective is consistent and detailed, showing a deep, personal investment in the topic. They reference their own experiences with HRT, detransition, and dating, which a bot would struggle to fabricate coherently. Their passion and strong opinions align with the expected stance of someone who feels harmed by their transition experience.
About me
I was born female and started transitioning as a teenager because I felt I could never fit in as a woman. My family was very supportive, and I started testosterone at 17, but it gave me chronic health problems that never went away. Living as a man was exhausting and made my depression worse because I was always performing and worrying about being seen as a real man. I realized my real issues were low self-esteem and that you can be a masculine woman without changing your sex. I've stopped hormones and, even though dating is hard now, I finally feel at peace just being myself.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started when I was really young. I was born female, but I never felt like I fit in with other girls. I hated going through puberty; I hated my breasts developing and all the changes that came with being a woman. I felt really uncomfortable in my own skin. Looking back, I think a lot of this was tied up with low self-esteem and depression. I also think I was influenced a lot by what I saw online in trans communities. It seemed like an answer to all my problems.
My family was very supportive, maybe too supportive, and they pushed me to start transitioning when I was still a teenager. I was diagnosed with gender dysphoria, and I do think that diagnosis was accurate for me at the time. I believed that becoming a man was the only way I could ever be happy. I started taking testosterone when I was 17. I thought it would fix everything, but it didn't. I was told the side effects were rare, but I ended up with chronic bladder problems from the hormones that haven't gone away, even though I've stopped taking them. I feel like I wasn't given all the information, and I wish I had explored other options for dealing with my dysphoria before medically transitioning.
Living as a man was exhausting. I was always worried about passing, about fixing my female mannerisms, and I felt more insecure than ever. I was more depressed on testosterone. I had a beard and fully passed as male, and for a while, I lived as a gay man. Getting sex was easy, as men are generally less picky, but it wasn't fulfilling. I realized that even when I passed, I was always carrying this burden. Everyone else seemed to be enjoying life while I was just worrying about whether people saw me as a real man.
I started to question everything. I saw how many people, especially males, were transitioning because they felt they didn't fit the stereotype of a masculine man. I saw how many "transbians" acted nothing like the cis lesbians I knew, and how they had taken over online lesbian spaces. I began to understand that you can be a feminine man or a masculine woman without changing your sex. Society shames feminine men and masculine women, and transitioning seemed like an escape from that shame, but it's based on harmful stereotypes.
I don't think transitioning is the ultimate cure for gender dysphoria. For me, it wasn't. I regret the medical transition because of the health complications and because I don't think it addressed the root of my problems, which were my depression and low self-worth. I don't regret the journey itself because it led me to where I am now, understanding myself better. I now see that I am a woman, and that's based on my biology—my chromosomes, my reproductive system. There is no one way a woman has to look or act. Women can have deep voices or facial hair and still be women.
Coming off hormones and detransitioning has been hard. As a detransitioned woman, I find it difficult to date straight men because they can't get past my history. But I feel more at peace now. I'm not constantly performing or worrying about passing. I just am.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13-16 | Experienced intense discomfort with female puberty, hated breast development. Felt influenced by online trans communities. |
| 17 | Started testosterone hormone therapy (HRT) with family support. |
| 17-20 | Lived socially as a gay man. Passed as male with a beard. Experienced increased depression and anxiety about passing. |
| 20 | Developed chronic bladder problems from long-term testosterone use. |
| 21 | Stopped testosterone. Began detransitioning and living again as a female. |
Top Comments by /u/Vivid-Material-320:
I think there is literally no cis lesbians on that sub, it's just transbians interacting with each other and pretending to know what being a lesbian actually is. every single online space for lesbians has actually been taken over. I'm glad i'm straight so i don't have to deal with them but like i feel bad for lesbians
I honestly think that transbians behave very differently than cis women. When you look at their profiles or interact with them, they tend to be very into hentai/yuri, mostly very sexual, porn everywhere, asserting trans into every single conversation, dressing very childlike, talking about bottom/sub in lesbian groups as if that's a popular thing between lesbians. That's just from what I observed
To be honest, I think cis women, and more specifically liberal cis women, have pushed for inclusivity for so long. Inclusivity of trans, nb or whatever into their spaces. This is kinda what you get when you actively push and allow inclusivity of literally everyone and their mom into your spaces. This is the result. You give them an inch, they take a mile. Cis women are like the biggest supporters of trans women. Meanwhile men just don't seem to care as much for these issues, and men in general tend to be more conservative.
Well this is pretty interesting. It's kind of sad that feminine straight/bisexual men resort to transitioning in order to "fit in" because feminine men are so shamed by society. Like I can assure you there are sp many women who absolutely love feminine men (myself included), just look at anime boys, rock bands and kpop lol. but honestly, I would be very turned off if they start completely transitioning. I'm glad you are able to make peace with being a feminine man and I hope you and your little family stay safe! <3
it is a thing but it's also delusional. eventually these girls will find out you're a creep and kick you out. It's every girl's dream to just dress up a guy and put makeup on him, but as soon as you start passing they will probably not be interested anymore. and remember that most women in the world are straight, and want to have kids. so by transitioning you're just limiting your dating pool to lesbians (who may not be interested in a trans woman) and bisexual women who statistically mostly choose men for ltr. Also idk where you live but most girls are not just naked in front of each other and playing with their titties all the time.
A lot of gay male spaces online are not very welcoming to trans men, and actually ban every mention of the word trans or you get downvoted to oblivion. Meanwhile in lesbian spaces online, they freely talk about hrt and surgeries with each other as if that's normal
A lot of trans people think they completely pass but a lot of times they don't unless they transitioned before puberty. A lot of the times people are just being nice and going about their day, if you're not causing any problems most people just don't care. I have seen very questionable people that I clocked as trans in the bathroom but in reality, I just don't really care if they're not causing any problems and not looking at me weird.
So people might have clocked you but just don't really care. Like I wouldn't go out of my way to gender someone their biological gender if it's very clear that they are trans and trying their best to fit in.
You could go on r/trans r/transdiy r/transpassing r/transtimelines r/transadorable r/actuallesbians etc majority of the posters are trans women, trans men are a rare sight. trans men only post on their designated areas such as r/ftmpassing and r/ftm. Even the number of people subscribed to r/mtf are a lot more than r/ftm
I didn't have any problems with getting sex while presenting as a man. Getting sex from men is easy as a gay man, even if you're not very attractive, men are just less picky. Women are overall more pickier, even if you are a lesbian. Can't really imagine that making their life easier, especially as a trans woman. They are just limiting their dating pool. Even straight men see trans women as just an experiment.
Well yes, why wouldn't we refer to ourselves as our birth sex? This is what we literally are. Even if I don't pass by society's expectations, I am still female. I still have xx chromosomes, I still have a uterus and ovaries, I still have a female body. I will probably deal with female related issues with fertility, illnesses etc. I can't be treated as a male medically.
I think there is no specific "look" as your natal sex. Women across different ethnicities and races are different. Women can have thick facial hair, deeper voices, thin hair, masculine bodies etc. They are still female. Because that is the body that they are born with. That is literally it.