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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, there are no serious red flags suggesting this account is inauthentic, a bot, or not a detransitioner/desister.
The account appears authentic because:
- It expresses consistent, nuanced, and personal views on gender, biology, and the detransition experience.
- The user shares specific, believable personal details (e.g., struggles with female puberty, pregnancy, specific hobbies like archery with a Hoyt bow, and writing a sci-fi novel).
- The tone is passionate and sometimes critical, which aligns with the expected sentiment of someone who has experienced harm. The comments show a natural variation in focus, from personal anecdotes to philosophical discussions and scientific citations, which is typical of a genuine person engaging deeply with a topic over time.
There is no evidence to suggest this is not a real desister (someone who stopped identifying as trans without necessarily having medically transitioned) or detransitioned female.
About me
I started as a teenager, deeply uncomfortable with my changing female body and feeling like my non-stereotypical interests meant I wasn't really a woman. I explored a trans identity online as a form of escapism from my insecurities, but I never medically transitioned. Through self-reflection, I realized that being female isn't defined by hobbies or clothes, and I came to accept my biological reality. I regret ever believing I could be the opposite sex, as it reinforces harmful stereotypes. Now, I'm at peace as a woman who just has a unique set of interests.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender started when I was a teenager, feeling completely uncomfortable with my body and the changes of female puberty. I hated my breasts because they weren't perfect like the ones I saw in media, and I felt awkward in my own skin. My stomach had a chubby pouch and my hips had dimples; I just thought my entire frame was wrong. At that age, around 16, I had all sorts of extreme ideas about changing my body, like wanting ribs removed to be thinner or a nose job to be prettier. I was deeply insecure and my mental health suffered because of it.
I started exploring the idea that I might be trans because I didn't fit the stereotypical image of a woman. My hobbies were things like video games, history, archery, and science—stuff often labeled as masculine. I didn't like makeup or dressing in a girly way, and I despised heels. I thought that because my interests and personality didn't align with what society said was 'feminine,' maybe I wasn't really a woman. I now see that was a mistake. I was influenced by online spaces and the idea that your interests define your gender. I was struggling with low self-esteem and used the concept of being trans as a form of escapism from the discomfort I felt with my female body and the negative social experiences that came with it.
I never medically transitioned. I didn't take hormones or have any surgeries. For me, it was a social exploration that I eventually moved on from. I benefited greatly from stepping back and doing a lot of self-reflection. I had to really think about what being female actually means. I realized that being a woman isn't about your hobbies, your clothes, or how you think. There's no such thing as a 'female mind.' We're all just unique individuals. I was born female; my body has a specific biology that has shaped my life experiences, both the good and the horrendously bad. Female puberty was awful, I've faced assault, and I've worried about pregnancy. But my body is also the same one that allowed me to later give birth and breastfeed my child. It's served me well, even if I still don't love every part of it.
I don't regret exploring my gender because it led me to a place of deeper understanding, but I do regret that I ever bought into the idea that I could be the opposite sex. I think that concept is ultimately flawed and can be harmful. It separates us from the reality of our bodies and reinforces stereotypes. I'm glad I found my way out of that thinking through introspection and critical thought. I'm just a human, a woman, who happens to have a lot of interests that aren't traditionally feminine.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 16 | Experienced intense discomfort with female puberty and body image. Had extreme ideas about cosmetic surgery. |
| Late Teens | Socially explored a trans identity due to non-stereotypical interests and body discomfort. |
| Early 20s | Began deep self-reflection, rejected the idea that interests define gender, and accepted my female biology. |
Top Comments by /u/Wakalakatime:
Maybe think about what 'female' actually means to you? To me, it simply means my body was born to look a certain way and events in my life have been shaped based on how I look, usually being quite negative. People have treated me in a certain way because of how my body looks, again usually negative experiences.
Female puberty was horrendous socially and physically. I hated my body. I've been assaulted, worried about pregnancy from it, lost a wanted pregnancy further down the line, and since given birth and breastfed, all because my biology is female.
I don't obsess about being female. I don't have long pretty hair or beautiful makeup, I don't wear skirts and heels, I don't do stereotypical 'female' things or think 'female' thoughts (I don't believe these are a thing). I actually do a lot of stereotypical male activities but that doesn't change my biology. I still don't like my body, it's fatty and bleeds every month, but it is what it is, and it's served me well.
Have some empathy for us too, just for once? Women have had to fight for nearly every space we have today, and it just feels like everything is being taken away again
You've put into words what I've been feeling for a long while, really well expressed!
If you're struggling to obtain and understand why there isn't much data out there regarding detransition, you could look into 'Detransition Among Transgender and Gender-Diverse People—An Increasing and Increasingly Complex Phenomenon' by Michael S Irwig, MD. It provides insight into the difficulties faced when trying to obtain 'detrans' data. Irwig an endocrinologist and has a lot of publications relating to endocrinology and androgens.
It kinda explains why we don't see many publications from the detrans perspective, or how it can be detrimental. Hopefully that will change as medical support for detrans increases. At the moment, if you ask pretty much anyone in this sub, they'll probably tell you they received no aftercare or follow up after they detransitioned.
I agree. I don't feel as though liking soft clothes and makeup makes a person a woman, I actually find that quite insulting.
I've always hated my boobs because they're not perfectly round and perky, my stomach has a chubby pouch at the bottom, and my hips have this awkward dimple in them... I would describe my frame as awkward because it doesn't look like how women's bodies are portrayed in media. I'm still a woman though. I was born female, and almost every social interaction and life experience since birth has been influenced by the fact that I was born female.
>However you are still so young, at 16 I believed I could travel to the Naruto Universe if I closed my eye's tight enough.
Boy do I relate to this! When I was that age, I wanted to have ribs removed because I wasn't thin enough, and a nose job because I wasn't pretty enough (it had such a negative impact on my mental health at the time). And I wanted to move to Transylvania because I knew vampires were real and I needed to become one.
I'm so glad I did none of those things.
It's tribalism. It happens in sports, religion, workplaces, parenting, friendships, literally everything and everywhere. It takes thoughtfulness, mindfulness, and introspection to see the grey areas and quite frankly, a lot of people are too lazy to educate themselves and see things from another perspective. It's much easier to paint the opposition as the enemy and use blanket statements and misnomers to gather support for your own side than try to engage and work through differences. And that'll be happening from both sides.
I think what yayasini was getting at is there's no 'female or male mind' or way of thinking; we're all just unique individuals that are born into female or male bodies. Female and male bodies have sex differences but they're just vessels. And that it's weird that someone would think they are the opposite sex despite having no experience of being the opposite sex.
Correct me if I'm wrong.
This is good advice. Ignore the other comment telling you to consider living as a trans woman when you're not. Yes, you lied, and yes it'll be an adjustment, potentially painful. Decent people should respect you for owning your past mistakes, if they don't, perhaps a bit of distance for a while isn't the worst thing in the world.
Throughout history, teenagers have done the dumbest shit you can imagine. It's just now we have access to more information and medical procedures than ever before, and the teenage brain is underdeveloped and incredibly impressionable. Try not to beat yourself up too much.
how to be a sexualized stereotype of what men define to be womanhood
This is what gets me.
I dress very 'femininely' because I like pastel colours, but I have 'masculine' interests and move/sit/behave in a more 'masculine' manner. Still a woman though.
The corpus callosum is actually proportionately larger in females, you can find this in the study I'm guessing you would cite; Yokota, et al? There were 316 participants, and the study did not account for age; younger females had larger sizes vs. older females.
This also doesn't change the fact that data indicating minimal difference is often overlooked. I don't have 'female thoughts' as a female, and I can be empty headed. I can easily compartmentalise, just as men can be 'always thinking'; it's pretty sexist to suggest otherwise. Women naturally produce testosterone but obviously our behavior will change when exposed to higher levels than our biology needs.