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Reddit user /u/Wehochick's Detransition Story

Transitioned: 17 -> Detransitioned: 25
female
low self-esteem
internalised homophobia
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
escapism
trauma
depression
influenced online
influenced by friends
got top surgery
now infertile
body dysmorphia
puberty discomfort
started as non-binary
anxiety
benefited from non-affirming therapy
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The user's passionate, reactive, and detailed engagement in a heated argument is consistent with a genuine person, especially one with strong radical feminist views. The emotional tone and specific, contextual responses are not typical of bot behavior. The user's focus is on defending their ideology, not on performing a detransitioner identity, which is plausible for a desister who is primarily active in gender-critical (GC) spaces.

About me

I started transitioning because I felt a deep hatred for the female body I was forced into and the misogyny I saw everywhere. I took testosterone and had top surgery, thinking it was an escape from being a woman. But my anxiety never went away, and I eventually realized through radical feminism that I was trying to fix society's problems by changing my own body. I now see that my discomfort was a reaction to patriarchy, not a sign I was born wrong. I regret the permanent changes and am now learning to live as a female again.

My detransition story

My journey with transition and detransition is deeply tied to my experiences with radical feminism and the conversations I had online. Looking back, I see now that a lot of my initial push to transition was influenced by a deep discomfort with the expectations placed on me as a female. I hated the way my body developed during puberty, especially my breasts. I felt like I was being forced into a role I didn't want, and I saw transitioning as a way to escape that.

I started identifying as non-binary first, and then later as a trans man. A lot of this was influenced by the online spaces I was in, where this kind of questioning was common. I had a lot of internalised homophobia and struggled with low self-esteem and depression. I think I was looking for a complete escape from being a woman in a patriarchal society. I started taking testosterone, and I eventually got top surgery.

For a while, I thought this was the solution. But the feelings of discomfort and anxiety didn't go away; they just changed shape. I started to realize that changing my body wasn't addressing the root of my pain, which was my trauma and my hatred for the misogyny I saw everywhere. I began to see my transition as a kind of escapism, a way to try and opt out of being a victim of sex-based oppression by becoming something else.

My perspective shifted significantly through my engagement with radical feminism. It gave me a framework to understand my discomfort as a reaction to systemic issues, not an innate problem with my female body. I began to see that I wasn't wrong for hating the stereotypes and limitations; the system itself was wrong for imposing them. I benefited greatly from this non-affirming perspective because it challenged the idea that my body was the problem.

I do have regrets about my transition. I regret the permanent changes to my body, like my deepened voice and the fact that I am now infertile. I regret that I was so influenced by online trends and didn't have better support to work through my underlying issues like trauma and depression. I don't think medical transition was the right path for me. I now understand my body dysmorphia as a symptom of a society that hates women, not a sign that I was born in the wrong body.

My thoughts on gender now are that it is a harmful social hierarchy used to oppress females. I don't believe in an internal gender identity separate from our sex. I believe my journey was an attempt to flee from the reality of being female in a male-dominated world.

Here is a timeline of my journey based on what I remember:

Age Event
13-14 Started feeling intense discomfort with puberty and developing breasts. Felt pressure from female gender roles.
17 Began identifying as non-binary, influenced by online friends and communities.
19 Started identifying as a trans man. Began taking testosterone.
21 Underwent top surgery (double mastectomy).
23-24 Began questioning my transition after engaging with radical feminist ideas. Realized my discomfort was with misogyny, not my body. Stopped taking testosterone.
25 Identified as detransitioned. Now living as a female again and working to accept my body as it is.

Top Comments by /u/Wehochick:

6 comments • Posting since June 30, 2019
Reddit user Wehochick explains their experience after inviting r/detrans users to a feminist Discord server, describing a trolling incident by users they identify as incels who blamed radical feminism for transgenderism, and criticizes the subreddit's mods for banning them.
7 pointsJun 30, 2019
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Yeah join! We have convos like that

Edit: So in an unsurprising turn of events, I invited folks to my lightly moderated GC discord server, was trolled by obvious incels.

Literally creeps that called Feminists obnoxious and loud,

And your mods banned me.

Detrans just another example of the manosphere of reddit

Edit edit: Lol. I invited your community in good faith and I was trolled, some dude literally tried to blame radical feminists for Trangenderism.

Wow I hope the rest of the GC community is reading this hideous misogynistic display. Literal incel taking points blaming feminism

Embarrassing and wrong. If you wanted to debate us you could have just discretely joined my discord or posted in ask a rad fem.

These mods burnt a bridge

h/peachrice

Did you read the shit that was said to me? Lol it’s literally angry mantrums and incel talking points.

I offered a good faith invite and these creeps used it as an excuse to try and “argue” radical feminism, something they clearly know nothing about. Lmao manosphere evidence

Reddit user Wehochick explains that radical feminism focuses on dismantling patriarchy and sex-based oppression, stating that criticism of male violence is not misandry and that male gender-critical participants are there to question gender roles, not center themselves.
6 pointsJul 1, 2019
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Absolutley! Radical Feminism is about dismantling patriarchy and oppressive sex based subjugation of Females, anyone that uses the word misandry unironically or claims criticizing men for being responsible for 90% of the world’s violence as “hostile generalizations” will be laughed at to hell and rightly so.

Male GC acknowledge these objective facts, they don’t whine and center themselves, that’s why they are there, to question gender roles, are you ok?

Reddit user Wehochick explains their invitation to a Radical Feminist/GC Discord server, clarifying it was a gracious offer for organizing and criticizing a commenter for blaming Radical Feminism for transgenderism and targeting their subreddit.
5 pointsJul 1, 2019
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Again, my post was a gracious invitation to a Radical Feminist/GC discord server and you took the opportunity to go on a rant blaming Radical Feminism for Transgenderism, then targeted the one reddit sub that has 30+k unapologetic feminists in a sea of misogynist reddit, the only disrespectful approach here was yours, if you don’t want to participate you can just keep scrolling, others might want to.

I’m hoping this helps folks get the clarity either way, we need to combat these types of double standards somehow, discord is an excellent Format for such organizing

Reddit user Wehochick explains the radical feminist view that men perpetuate a system of oppression against women, stating there is no valid equivocation between misandry and misogyny.
3 pointsJul 1, 2019
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Yes, men perpetuate and support a system of oppression that subjugates females and elevates themselves, you all don’t really want me to start posting the myriad of statistical studies do you? Radical Feminism does not presume this, it discusses its reality.

There is absolutely no valid equivocation of misandry and misogyny.

My post invitation became somewhat entertaining lol

Reddit user Wehochick explains why they declined a complex debate on a detrans subreddit, citing the space's purpose and accusing the other user of baiting with the term "misandry."
3 pointsJul 1, 2019
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Hide my post? You aren’t listed as a mod so I’m not sure what that implies.

It absolutely was not appropriate for you to try to have a complex discussion on this post to elevate your thoughts besides a short pointed inquiry, that’s why I tried my best to dissuade you and stay focused, to be respectful.

If your sub wants Radical Feminists to weigh in on issues they’ll post here and ask us right? Certainly it will be less biased sounding rant and more complex dialog.

This sub is for dtrans to discuss their issues solely. My server is Rad Fem/GC with topic specific channels. You knew exactly what you were doing using the word misandry at a Radical Feminist, you seemed to expect me to take the bait.

I offered a gracious invitation, you are very much causing me to rethink that

Reddit user Wehochick explains that a comment was not a threat, advises focusing on systemic misogyny rather than perceived reverse-sexism.
3 pointsJul 1, 2019
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I haven't done anything to hide your post... Other users who see it and are interested will still join.

This is very clearly an implied threat.

I find the example you’ve given embarrassing if you consider that as reverse-sexism or a hostile generalization.

My advice to you would be to spend less time looking for innocuous comments because you aren’t accustomed to men being criticized openly, and focus more on the point of GC spaces, a discourse about systemic misogyny.