This story is from the comments by /u/Weird-Experience-123 that are listed below, summarised with AI.
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The user's comments demonstrate:
- Personal, detailed experience with medical transition (9 years on testosterone, top surgery) and detransition (stopping HRT, considering further surgeries).
- Complex and nuanced views that are consistent over time, expressing a unique perspective of identifying as both detrans and trans (genderfluid).
- Emotional depth and vulnerability, discussing trauma, regret, self-blame, and the struggle to heal, which is common in detransition narratives.
- Engagement in community discussions, offering support and advice to others based on their lived experience.
The account exhibits the passion and strong opinions expected from someone who has lived through this experience, and its authenticity is further supported by the lack of scripted or repetitive language, inconsistent details, or other common bot-like behaviors.
About me
I was born female and transitioned to live as a man in my early twenties after experiencing trauma and feeling disconnected from my body. I took testosterone for nine years and had surgery to remove my breasts, a decision I deeply regret. I now see my dysphoria was a symptom of my pain, and I was failed by a medical system that didn't help me explore my trauma. I've stopped hormones and am learning to live as a woman again, though my flat chest is a permanent reminder of that time. My journey has taught me that you don't need to change your body to have an identity, and I am now focused on healing and self-acceptance.
My detransition story
My journey with gender has been long, complicated, and deeply painful, but it’s also led me to a place of hard-won self-understanding. I was born female and for a long part of my life, I identified and lived as a transgender man. I took testosterone for nine years and had top surgery to remove my breasts. I’ve since stopped taking hormones and am now detransitioning, though I still see myself as trans in the sense of being gender nonconforming and fluid.
A lot of my initial desire to transition came from a place of deep trauma and a fractured sense of self. I grew up as a masculine girl in an environment that didn’t accept gender nonconformity. I experienced emotional neglect and sexual assault, which left me feeling completely disconnected from my body. I now understand that my gender dysphoria was a symptom of that trauma and a desperate attempt to find relief and control in a world that felt hostile. I was mentally unwell and living in a dissociated state, and the medical system completely failed me by not helping me explore these root causes. Instead, a therapist quickly wrote me a letter for surgery, and a doctor fast-tracked me for hormones. I asked for these things, but I wasn't in a healthy state of mind to make such permanent decisions. I was misled.
My biggest regret, by far, is my double mastectomy. Losing my breasts was a profound and violent loss. It feels like a part of my womanhood was stolen from me, and I am now permanently disfigured. While many effects of testosterone have reversed since I stopped—my body hair thinned, my skin softened, and my fat redistributed—my flat chest is a constant, painful reminder of a decision I can never take back. I am now looking into breast reconstruction, not for aesthetics, but as a way to try and feel whole again.
My thoughts on gender have completely changed. I strongly believe that your identity and what you do to your body are two completely separate things. You can be trans, nonbinary, or anything else without medically transitioning. The pressure to legitimize your identity through hormones and surgery is wrong and dangerous. Society needs to change to accept gender diversity, not the other way around. We shouldn't have to alter our healthy bodies to fit in. The medical industry profits from our pain, and the "informed consent" model is a lie that creates victims.
I don’t blame the entire trans community for what happened to me. I blame a broken medical system and a culture that pathologizes normal human variation. I needed therapy to deal with the trauma of being a gender-nonconforming female, not a scalpel and a prescription. Healing for me has involved grieving, learning self-compassion, and accepting that while my body is forever changed, I am not defined by my past mistakes. I am learning to live as a flat-chested woman and find beauty in who I am now.
Age | Event |
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Early 20s | Began identifying as a transgender man (FTM). |
Early 20s | Started testosterone therapy. |
Early 20s | Underwent top surgery (double mastectomy). |
30s | Began the process of detransitioning, stopping testosterone after 9 years. |
30s | Started living again as a woman, identifying as genderfluid. |
Top Reddit Comments by /u/Weird-Experience-123:
I mean I can understand this. I started looking into breast reconstruction options long before I admitted to myself that I regretted top surgery. Detransitioning comes with so much fucking stigma. But more importantly, it is assumed that detransitioning means erasing that trans part of you, hating that trans part of you, or thinking that trans part of you was just you being mentally ill. It's sooo much more complicated than that. And for some of us, our trans parts are what allowed us to, in my case, individuate from my homophobic upbringing and create an unshakeable commitment to living a life that prioritized myself over the opinions of others. So one of my biggest fears when I started detransitioning wasn't just the grieving of my pre-transition self that I would have to process but the loss of my transition self which was not all bad and which did give me a sense of community and a personal tool for empowerment (even if it should absolutely not have come with such horrible medical interventions). So I completely get it. She may be where I was a couple years ago.
Someone posted this comment and then deleted it.
"Yet another person indoctrinated into anti-trans extremism."
I'm curious what about this article is "anti-trans extremism"? Not attacking! Genuinely curious to hear a further explanation by people who think this.
So what's stopping you? Fucking up your internal organs and needing to live as a pharmacological experiment until you die are the biggest downsides. The alternative is self-acceptance, in your case, embracing the amount of masculinity you can attain naturally. I personally think the latter is sexier but to each their own.
Thank you for sharing. It absolutely has cult-like elements. They can be so fucking mean. It’s refreshing every time I see a trans person who doesn’t deny biological sex and who doesn’t think gatekeeping is inherently transphobic or that trans women can get periods. I don’t have many close trans friends anymore. Detransitioning caused me to self-isolate. It’s been great meeting other detransitioners irl. The experience is so unique and so painful. Can I ask how you processed your regret? I was on T for 9 years and have been off of It for over a year. Missing my old physical intact body is so hard.
I thought transitioning would help me "embody" my "full self" better. Literally quoting my formerly brainwashed self. The much simpler, less invasive, and far more beneficial way to achieve embodiment would have been to allow myself to embody my fucking body in the first place!
These therapists are demons from hell. The surgeons are greedy butchers cashing in on plump insurance payments. I'm sorry you were violated and that the surgeon amputated your breasts after the therapist provided the means. Cause ain't no way you did that to yourself while sedated. That's another delusion. Don't blame yourself. Accept reality because unfortunately no one can turn back the clock. You'll def find a partner. Love and intimacy is about way more than bodies. But I feel your pain. It's been almost two years since I detransitioned (post-amputation). It definitely gets better. At least you have nipples.
no you're not being unreasonable. what the fuck does this mean: "'so you now identify as and live as a woman?' the outright gender essentialism of these mother fuckers harming the bodies and minds of young men and women based on junk science. how would SHE feel if she was "misdiagnosed"? such assholes.
also, as a detransitioner who briefly saw a gender therapist after detransitioning, i feel bad for those ten people she supposedly helps. the last thing detransitioners need is to be brainwashed into some gender identity bullshit 2.0 via retransition or gender journey nonsense. "accept where you are" would have been great advice before buying into the idea that changing the body would fix the mind.
The million dollar question. How to move on from this insane violence and loss we were put through. I’m on that journey too. Viewing it through the lens of trauma and recovery has helped me. Also leaning in to what I’m grateful for. I’m grateful I’m able-bodied, didn’t get bottom surgery, have full sensation, and nipples that can get hard during sexy times (I had peri/drawstring method). Not everyone has those of course but leaning into gratitude for what we do have while also mourning the loss of our breasts has been helping me. They do not cancel each other out. But the point is to accept. Mourn and accept. And find new ways to be.
Wow, that is great to hear!!!!! Omg like that is actually a really good thing because trans people are often our biggest bullies, even though they are our natural allies! Hooray to you. Congrats on getting engaged. Please scream it all from the rooftops if you're comfortable lol.
You will probably get read as female the more you age into a woman. No need to change who you are. Develop internal strength against people calling you a boy. And make friends with people who won’t make that mistake. You will have a much richer life by living your truth as rooted in your biology than putting on a mask of manhood to make others comfortable.