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About me
I was born male and my transition was an escape from deep self-hatred and a sexual fantasy I mistook for my identity. I lived for years as a woman, but my underlying depression and confusion never went away. I realized I had made a terrible mistake and stopped taking hormones to begin my detransition. I'm now learning to accept myself as a man and address the root causes of my pain. My journey taught me that transitioning was a maladaptive coping mechanism for my complex psychological problems.
My detransition story
My name isn't important, but my story is. I was born male, and my entire transition was built on a foundation of things I didn't understand at the time. For me, it wasn't about a true identity; it was a complex escape from myself.
I think a lot of my journey was influenced by a deep discomfort with being a man, which I now understand is called autoandrophobia. I had a real distaste for masculinity and saw it as something negative. I also had a porn problem that shaped my desires in a specific way. Looking back, I'm certain I was experiencing autogynephilia (AGP). The sexual fantasy of being a woman was a powerful driving force, and I mistook that arousal for a sign of my true gender identity. I wasn't a woman; I was a man with a specific paraphilia who was trying to escape from himself.
I was also deeply depressed and had very low self-esteem. I thought transitioning would fix everything, that it would be the solution to all my internal pain and confusion. It was a form of escapism. I took hormones for a significant period, and while I initially felt a rush of euphoria, it was short-lived. The problems I was trying to run from were still there, they just had a new name.
I eventually realized I had made a terrible mistake. I began to detransition. I stopped taking hormones. I had to confront the man in the mirror and learn to accept him. A starting point for me was literally looking at myself and repeating, "Being a man is not a bad thing." I had to actively work on internalizing that message. I started reading about great male explorers and historical figures, men who overcame incredible odds. I had to find positive aspects of masculinity to counteract the hatred I felt.
I don't regret transitioning in the sense that it brought me to where I am now, which is a place of much greater self-awareness. But I deeply regret the physical changes I put my body through. I regret not understanding the role AGP and my own internalized issues played. I benefited greatly from therapy that was non-affirming; a therapist who asked me why I felt these things instead of just affirming them was crucial for my detransition.
My thoughts on gender now are that it is often used as a simple solution for extremely complex psychological problems. For people like me, it was a maladaptive coping mechanism. I believe more people need to explore underlying issues like trauma, autogynephilia, and internalized homophobia before making permanent changes to their bodies.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 22 | First started seriously questioning my gender, heavily influenced by online communities and my own AGP feelings. |
| 23 | Began identifying as non-binary as a stepping stone. Started socially transitioning. |
| 24 | Started taking testosterone blockers and estrogen. |
| 24 - 29 | Lived full-time as a woman. |
| 29 | Began to question my transition, started exploring AGP and my own internalized misandry. |
| 30 | Stopped taking hormones and began the process of detransitioning. |
| 31 (Present) | Living as a man again, focused on therapy and addressing the root causes of my distress. |
Top Comments by /u/WesternStateN:
I noticed you made a post a couple weeks ago about disliking other men and used the term autoandrophobia.
There's a blogger, Rod Fleming, who noticed that AGP males often have misandristic tendencies (this can range from mild distaste towards other males to outright aggression in old fashioned hyper masculine AGPers).
I think it'd be a good to think about the positive aspects of male behavior. Men have achieved a lot of amazing things & there's probably something you can read about and find inspiring or interesting. I've always loved reading about great explorers and reading about men who overcame incredible odds was inspiring.
Think about it. It’s almost exclusively trans identified people are trans doctors who get so mad at detransitioners. Cults do hate apostates, after all. Every time you as a detransitioner speak out, you help yourself and you help others struggling to cope with their transitions.
This x 100.
There seems to be a particular viciousness towards former trans kids, and it’s not really about you. You just piss the fetishistic transvestites off because you invalidate their perversions.
A friend received several insulting DMs and was publicly insulted after she told a questioning man (in another sub) that he should look into autogynephilia as his story seemed like an obvious case. He didn't disagree with her and was actually pretty open to the idea, but the other autogynephiles lashed out in a nasty way.
IMO, there's a correlation between AGP and narcissistic traits.
I think it's very likely that men who have AGP and are low in narcissism are less likely to transition / more likely to detransition, whereas the most narcissistic ones refuse to admit they might be wrong.
I'm sorry you're going through this & I agree about doctors, and others, underestimating the effect of hormones.
I watched a TikTok video earlier. The cis woman who posted it kept saying that testosterone 'doesn't do all that much' and she knew that because she 'has a degree in physiology.'
There's a lot of people out there who greatly overestimate their intellect and knowledge and have no business giving others medical advice.
Honestly?
A starting point is to look yourself in the mirror and say 'being a man is not a bad thing.' Really internalize that message. There is nothing wrong with being male.
It's also probably helpful to:
Read about AGP / autogynephilia.
Be honest with yourself about any sexual abuse or trauma you may have experienced. I realize that's a very sensitive subject, but there are some MtFs who have experienced this.
If you are a feminine gay man, it might be helpful to think about whether transitioning was a means of escaping that reality or attempting to 'upgrade' your social status.