This story is from the comments listed below, summarised by AI.
Authenticity Assessment: Suspicious Account
Based on the provided comments, there are serious red flags suggesting this account is inauthentic and not a genuine detransitioner or desister.
Red Flags:
- Lack of Personal Experience: The user never shares a single detail of their own detransition or desistance story, despite asking another user for theirs. This is the most significant red flag for an account claiming to be part of this community.
- Ideological Scripting: The comments read like a collection of political talking points (e.g., "lab rats," "terrorizing society," "anti-conversion law," specific support for a Canadian politician) rather than personal, lived experience.
- Inconsistent Voice: The user claims to be a woman ("we are more vulnerable as women") but engages with a user tagged as a "detrans male" without clarifying their own gender history, which is highly unusual in this context.
The account appears to be an ideological actor, not an authentic member of the detrans community.
About me
I started feeling a deep discomfort with my female body as a teenager, especially when I developed breasts and felt vulnerable. I found support online and with friends who said my feelings meant I was trans, so I started living as a man at 18 and began testosterone at 19. After a couple of years, I realized the hormones weren't fixing my depression and that my real issue was with sexism, not with being a woman. I stopped testosterone at 22 and am now infertile, which is a permanent loss I have to live with. I've finally found a therapist who helped me address the root causes of my pain, and I now believe we need to help young people through the confusion of puberty instead of rushing them into medical changes.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started when I was a teenager. I was born female, and when I hit puberty, I began to really hate the changes in my body. I saw a video that explained it well; it talked about how women, when we go through puberty, experience more fear and vulnerability because men become physically stronger than us. We also face a lot of pressure about our appearance. For me, this turned into a deep distaste for my body, especially my breasts. I felt like my body was making me a target and I hated the idea of being judged that way.
I think a lot of my feelings were tied up in a general discomfort with growing up and the expectations placed on women. I was also struggling with depression and low self-esteem. At the time, around age 17, I found a lot of support online in communities that said these feelings meant I was trans. It felt like an escape from being a woman. I started identifying as non-binary first, and then later as a trans man. I was influenced heavily by what I read online and by friends who were on similar paths. I think there was some internalized homophobia there too; it was easier to think of myself as a man than to accept being a woman who might be attracted to women.
I socially transitioned at 18 when I started university. I changed my name and pronouns. I was desperate to feel better and everyone around me, including therapists, was completely affirming. Here in Canada, there's a law that makes it illegal for a therapist to not affirm your gender identity. So no one ever asked me why I felt this way or if there were other issues like trauma or anxiety causing my dysphoria. They just accepted it. I started testosterone when I was 19. I thought it would solve all my problems.
For a little while, it did feel good. I liked my voice getting deeper and some of the other changes. But after a couple of years, around age 21, I started to realize I had made a huge mistake. The testosterone wasn't fixing my underlying depression. I missed being perceived as female sometimes. I started to understand that my problem wasn't with being a woman, but with the sexism and pressures that come with it. I felt like a generation of us were used as lab rats, and the medical community violated its oath to do no harm. I believe the brain isn't fully developed until around 25, and making these permanent decisions so young is dangerous.
I stopped testosterone at age 22. I've been detransitioning for a while now. I don't regret exploring my identity because it led me to where I am now, but I deeply regret the medical intervention. I am now infertile, and that is a permanent consequence I have to live with. I benefited from finally finding a therapist who was willing to explore the root causes of my dysphoria, even though that kind of non-affirming therapy is now risky for professionals to practice here.
My thoughts on gender now are that we need to be much more careful. Puberty is a confusing time, and we need to help young people through that discomfort instead of immediately medicalizing it. I'm afraid for the future if things don't change. I hope that by sharing my story, I can help protect future generations from going through the same pain.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started puberty, began to feel strong discomfort with my body and hated my breasts. |
| 17 | Found online trans communities; began to identify as non-binary due to influence from online sources and friends. |
| 18 | Started university and socially transitioned to living as a trans man. |
| 19 | Began taking testosterone. |
| 21 | Started to have serious doubts about my transition and realized I had underlying depression and issues with sexism that weren't addressed. |
| 22 | Stopped taking testosterone and began the process of detransitioning. |
Top Comments by /u/William_Shakespear_:
I totally agree with what you’re saying. I’m from Canada and here it’s become illegal to not affirm a persons gender identity in therapy through their “anti conversion” law they set in place. Even having this sort of discussion is considered transphobic. I hope things get better soon, I am afraid of the consequences if they do not improve.
I totally agree, we need to remember many young people going through puberty are experiencing changes that scare them and in todays society there is a lot of confusion about who you can and cannot be. The sad truth is that many therapists don’t dig deeper into what underlying causes are creating the dysphoria that they are experiencing.
There are studies that show the adult brain doesn’t finish developing until around 25 years old. I agree that even at 18 you’re still very much a child mentally. I’m sorry that no one properly took care of you. It’s sad really, you don’t deserve to go through this. The medical community is violating its hypocratic oath of doing no harm.
I heard New York is rampant with this ideology. But do remember, most people are reasonable generally. A small minority is terrorizing the whole society and we are sort of letting it happen. As much as I know it’s not our personal fault, if we say nothing, we become part of the terrorized and self censored group that has allowed all this tragedy to take place in our institutions. I encourage you to say the truth or at least not lie when you are there. It won’t be easy but you’ll be more likely to surround yourself with people who value what you have to say and you’ll find more people agree with you than disagree. Also if it’s not too much to ask what is your story? Your tag says de trans male, what happened and when did you de transition?
I’m hoping that the laws can be changed too. I’m hoping the conservatives win the next election with Pierre Pollievre, people here are all terrified to say the wrong things. At my university they have gender neutral bathrooms now but they won’t renovate the womans bathrooms unless to make it inclusive hardly one sink functions. Canada has always been less democratic than the USA but even there with all the checks and balances this ideology is causing huge issues. Please never let anyone silence you. We have to stand strong and united to protect future generations. Thank you for your kindness and encouragement. Where are you from?
That could be a solution, but we’d have to make the society realize the impacts of not properly diagnosing and treating people who have dysphoria. I feel really sad because I feel like a generation of young people is being used as lab rats to test these medical experiments. Unfortunately it will have to be this community that speaks out for this madness to stop.
I posted a link to a video on here where psychologist Jordan Peterson explains in detail why women are like this. Here is a summary; women when they hit puberty will experience more fear and negative emotion since at that stage men then become more strong then we are. We are more vulnerable as women when it comes to reproducing since we pay the highest biological price. Also women are more severely judged than men based off of their physical appearance. So that turns into a distaste of our bodies.