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The user shares highly specific, personal, and emotionally charged experiences with HRT, detransition, and internal conflict. The writing style is consistent, contains natural human errors, and offers empathetic advice to others, which aligns with a genuine user in this community.
About me
I was born male and first wanted to be a girl when I was a child. I started hormone therapy as an adult, but it changed my mental health and who I was attracted to in ways that confused me. I stopped after six months because I was scared of the long-term commitment and realized my desire to transition came from depression and a need to escape. I now believe you don't need hormones or surgery to be yourself, and I'm learning to be okay with who I am. I'm considering a different kind of therapy to work through my underlying issues instead.
My detransition story
My journey with gender has been confusing, and I'm still trying to figure it all out. I was born male, and I first remember wanting to be a girl when I was about 8 or 9 years old. I thought life would just be better and easier if I were a girl. But I was a really sensitive kid and I was scared of what people would think or say, so I kept it all bottled up inside for years.
When I finally learned about hormone replacement therapy (HRT) as an adult, I was tempted but also really scared. I didn't know if it was the right path for me or if I would end up regretting it. After a lot of thinking, I decided to start taking testosterone blockers and estrogen. I was on HRT for about six months.
Being on hormones was a mixed experience. Physically, I started to develop small breasts, which I didn't mind. But it also affected me in other ways. My sex drive completely changed, and I found my attraction shifting. Before HRT, I identified as bisexual. While on hormones, I started leaning much more towards being attracted to men and lost a lot of my attraction to women. After I stopped HRT, my attraction to both returned. It was strange how much it affected my brain.
I also noticed that the hormones impacted my mental health. When I went off HRT for just a few days, my anxiety came rushing back. It was like the medication was managing that for me, which was something I liked. But at the same time, being on it made me worry about the future. I started thinking about what would happen if the government decided to ban HRT for adults. What would people do if they couldn't get their medication anymore, especially if they'd had surgeries and needed hormones to stay healthy? That fear made me question the entire point of continuing.
I never had any surgeries. I thought about gender reassignment surgery, but the permanence of it scared me. I realized I might not always feel the same way I did in that moment.
After six months, I decided to take a break from hormones. I’ve been off them for a while now, and I’m still figuring things out. I don't really identify as a woman anymore. For a while, I identified as non-binary, and now I just feel like me. I’ve come to realize that I’ll never be the pretty girl I had in my head, and I’m learning to be okay with that.
My thoughts on gender itself have really changed. I think gender is mostly made up. It’s a word created by people, and we fight about it because we’re raised to believe there are only two rigid options. But if you really think about it, what even is a "man" or a "woman"? The definitions are just stereotypes. A woman can be a provider; a man can be a caretaker. I feel like there shouldn't be gender at all. We’re just people. You don’t need hormones or surgery to be who you are.
I do have some regrets. I regret not understanding my own mind better before starting medical transition. I think a lot of my desire to transition came from a place of depression, low self-esteem, and anxiety. I was using the idea of becoming someone else as a form of escapism. I also think I was influenced by what I saw online. I'm now very against the idea of children getting on hormones, because their brains are still developing and they can't possibly understand the lifelong consequences. I wish I had gone to therapy before starting HRT to work through my issues instead of just getting affirming care.
I’m considering going back to therapy now, but a different kind—a non-affirming therapy that will help me figure out my underlying issues, not just affirm a gender identity. I might even go back on HRT for a little while, but I’m not sure. Right now, I’m just trying to be okay with not having all the answers.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 8 or 9 | First had the thought that I wanted to be a girl. |
| Adult (exact age unknown) | Started HRT (testosterone blockers and estrogen). |
| Adult + 6 months | Stopped HRT for the first time to take a break. |
| Present | Currently off HRT and identifying as non-binary/just myself. |
Top Comments by /u/Wise-Peanut-2098:
Listen for years I identified as bi then when I got on hormones I started leaning more towards being attracted to men not women too much . And I’ve notice after I’ve been off of hrt for a week now . I’m back to be attracted to both . Hrt does affect the way the brain thinks plus you been on hormones for a few years . You could tapper yourself off or lower your dose or even just stop taking it for a few days but . Remember this is a guess I’m no doctor but I would maybe talk to ur doctor see what they say . Best of luck
Hey there , you should speak be proud of who you are . Even if you have a deep voice from transitioning so what hun . That’s life unless you wanna do voice training or something. Use your voice but it seems like you’re not comfortable doing so now since you detrans . Listen can’t control how the world views your or treat you but you can control how you treat yourself . I hope soon or later you will be proud of your voice . And just use it and if someone ask about it then tell your story don’t be scared or ashamed. Have a nice day :)
Hey bud you don’t need to stay on hrt you could always get off and allow your t levels to go back to normal . Maybe try not taking hormones for a day or two and see what happens. Would I go to therapy? Yeah I would that way you can have someone help you figure out what’s going on . It sounds like you’re depressed . Can I ask something? What made you want to transition in the first place if that’s too personal. Don’t answer.
Listen this is why I’m against anyone that is still a child from getting on hormones. I am so sorry to hear that I really am . I would get into therapy and maybe see a mental health doctor . That’s just me cause you don’t wanna be trying to hurt ur self . U know when I was 8 or 9 I wanted to be a girl cause I felt life would be better if I was . But I kept it bottled up inside since I knew no one would be supported . Plus I was scared of how ppl would think or few or even make fun of me . I’m very sensitive also then when I did find out about hrt years ago I was tempted. But I was scared also cause I didn’t know if I could go through with it . Maybe I would regret? Now I’ve been on hrt for 6 months took a break and been off of it for a week . I don’t know what I want anymore but the thing is that’s fine I’m okay with that for now . Am I planning on getting into therapy and maybe back on hrt for a while . Yeah .
Hey there I’m so sorry for what you’re having to go through. Also your s/o shouldn’t have push your down the stairs for you being intersex . That would have mattered to me if I was him . I get it just by thinking about it he might of felt like u knew about it and kept it from him etc . But still that should have been any reason him to act that way toward you .
Why did your parents ever tell you this before ?
The thing is bud listen don’t hurt ur self . Don’t do nothing stupid like that . Life is life . But I would seriously talk to someone also there isn’t a magic pill out there . And that is why I don’t like kids ur age or younger getting on hormones. Cause look how ur feeling now ? Let me ask u something have u talked to ur parents or friends about this ?
Hey there , I read a lot of these peoples comments they are right but I’m also questioning myself too . Gender is made up bullshit , but even with hormones let me ask this ? Will you ever be truly happy what if … one day hormones all suddenly disappear? Then what your body along with everything else will come back to be normal or before hormones. That where I’m at thinking with that type of logic
Also can I ask this why you feel like you might regret transitioning
I feel there really shouldn’t even exist gender . My point is like this gender is a word created by man . We fight about gender is because we were raised there are only two genders male and female . The thing is if you ask what is a female most will say a female has her cycle each month and gives birth ? Also you could say she stays home looks pretty and keeps the home clean . Even a man could even do the same lol but anyway you could even ask what is a man ? Most would say he’s the provider the care take etc but a women can do it also . I feel personally there shouldn’t be no gender at all but as humans we want to know words for everything even a word for our fingers . I feel anyone can be a man or women that’s just my opinion. You don’t even have to be hrt or anything if that’s you that’s you .
We fight over gender cause it’s ingrained in us since birth . Back when women didn’t work at all , then when she wanted to go to work . Men were like your not allowed to . Your place is home razing my kids … they were scared of the changes it will bring .
It’s all comes down to change . Am I comfortable with change . If I was raised and told I am a women for 30 years then suddenly am told men can be women too ? That scary cause then you what ask how come they can be women when I know I was born a women and they weren’t . That’s all comes to change . What would happen if genders were changed like now instead of women being called a women . Now they are called men and men are now called women .
And the men get told you stay home and look pretty and etc ? Basically switching gender roles . If there were no such thing as gender . Would most be upset if roles changed or would they be more scared ? I don’t believe so ..
The odd part is I went off of hrt for a few days and in like 3 or 4 days I started getting full on erections and was able to orgasm without too much issues . But my anixety came back also which I find to be an issue I do like .i feel like I have a small a cup .
When did you begin to question rather or not you wanted to stay on hormones or not just curious. I hope you don’t mind me asking. If it’s too personal that’s fine
I feel if it truly bothers you then you need to sit those friends of yours down . Have a chat with them find out exactly why they still call you but your trans name . Why they have hard time calling you by ur real name . And just express how that makes you feel . And try to come to some sorta agreement. But me personally I would do all the above and give it time let them adjust. And each time they use your trans name . Respectfully help remind them you don’t like that name and for them to please call you by ur real name .
Sometimes it’s harder to break an habit then you think . If i told ppl to call me Rebeca and everyone knows me calls me Becky for short for 5 years . Then I say hey can you call me Jake now . Surely they are gonna call me Becky or Rebecca lol more times then Jake , cause it’s habit . I don’t know your story but feel free to drop a dm if you wanna talk