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About me
I started believing I was trans at 16 because I hated the changes of puberty and felt uncomfortable being female. I was heavily influenced by online communities and a therapist who pressured me to transition. After four years, getting help for my depression and low self-esteem made me realize my feelings came from those issues, not from being trans. I'm now 19 and so grateful I never had surgery or took hormones. My biggest regret is the time I lost, and I believe no one should rush into permanent changes, especially as a teenager.
My detransition story
My whole journey with thinking I was trans started when I was around 16. I was a teenager, and like a lot of teenagers, I really hated my body and felt incredibly uncomfortable with all the changes that came with puberty. I was born female, and I despised developing breasts; it just felt wrong and foreign to me. At the time, I didn't understand that this kind of discomfort could be a normal part of growing up. I also had a lot of other mental health issues going on, including depression and really low self-esteem, that I wasn't dealing with properly.
I got sucked into online communities that convinced me that all these feelings meant I was transgender. It happened really fast. Everyone there, and even some of my friends at the time, told me that transitioning was the answer to all my problems. They made it sound like a miracle cure. I was also pressured by medical professionals, including a therapist I was seeing, who told me I absolutely needed to transition. Looking back, I see that I was heavily influenced by the people around me and the spaces I was in online. It felt like a cult, and it was very difficult to get out once I was in.
For about four years, from 16 to 19, I was completely convinced I was trans. I wanted to get top surgery and even thought about taking hormones. I'm so insanely glad now that I didn't go through with any of it. As I got older and got more help for my underlying mental health issues, I started to realize that I wasn't actually trans. The feelings I had were coming from other places: the natural discomfort of puberty, depression, and the pressure from others. I needed to work on my self-esteem and understand my body better, not change it permanently.
I don't think I'm trans at all now. I believe that legitimate trans people probably do exist, but I also think there are a lot of people, especially young people like I was, who are getting swept up in this without looking deeper at what's really going on. It's so important to be 100% sure, and you can't be that sure when you're a teenager. Your mind is still developing and changing so much. The fact that I was doubting it even back then was a huge sign that I needed to wait.
I have no regrets about not transitioning, but I do regret how much time and energy I spent believing I was something I'm not. I regret the pressure I felt and how I almost made a permanent decision based on a temporary feeling. Those mainstream trans communities don't like people like me because we don't fit their story. They bashed me when I started questioning, which just showed me they don't really care about individuals, only their ideology.
My thoughts on gender now are that it's a very serious thing, and medical transition is a huge deal with a lot of risks that often aren't talked about. No one should encourage a minor to medically transition, especially if they have any doubt. It's better to wait and be sure than to rush into something you can't undo.
Here is a timeline of what happened:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 16 | Started to believe I was transgender due to puberty discomfort, depression, and influence from online communities and friends. |
| 16 - 19 | Identified as trans for four years, wanted top surgery and hormones. Felt pressured by therapists and others to transition. |
| 19 | Realized I was not transgender after getting help for underlying mental health issues and maturing. |
| 19 (Present) | Detransitioned socially. Grateful I never medically transitioned. |
Top Comments by /u/WowVeryNiceu:
Oftentimes, there are underlying issues. This isn't a small little treatment. You are a literal kid in this case, and when I was 16 I wanted the procedure. Now that I'm a few years older, I am insanely glad I didn't go through with it. There's a reason more and more people are detransitioning, and it will only increase with time. I do think legitimate trans people exist, but no child should be making permanent medical decisions, and if they are doubting it to begin with, they should not go through with it at all—at least until they are older. You may decide you do want it later on, but you need to do it when you are 100% sure, and at minimum be a legal adult.
Teens are going through so many changes and their mind isn't fully developed; it's natural for a teen to despise their body. I know I did it, and that's why I thought all these people telling me I was trans were correct. I thought I was for like four whole years, until I realized I wasn't as I got more help. No one should encourage a minor to transition medically, especially when they aren't sure. That's just not right. I encourage people to always look deeper in a thorough manner to make sure there may not be anything else causing those feelings, along with the pressure of other people. I was pressured like hell, and everyone around me made it seem like it was the miracle cure for all of my woes. I don't get why people discourage making sure that they actually are trans. I really don't.
But to answer your other question: yes, there are a ton of risks that "doctors" are not telling most people. This includes hormones, surgeries, and everything else involved in medically transitioning.
Those mainstream trans communities don't like us because we don't fit their narrative. Be insanely careful, because I got sucked in real fast and it was very difficult to get out. The fact that detransitioners are bashed by them should tell you all you need to know: they don't care about anyone but themselves. It is a cult more than anything. On another note, I think most mainstream trans activists and others are not actually trans to begin with. How they talk like it's their only personality trait is a huge indicator of personal insecurities and deeper issues. If they were truly fine with themselves and being trans, they would not behave like they do. If they were truly content with who they are, they would not get defensive by our mere existence, because they view our existence as a threat to their whole belief system (not including legitimate trans people).
Edit: Added more.
They never truly cared about you to begin with. All they care about is their single ideology; nothing else matters. You can read my comment to see more of what I'm talking about when it comes to these types of people and being pressured. You definitely need better friends, and I'm sure they are expecting you to come back and beg on your knees. Well, don't. Say that you are done with them, as you need to put yourself first, not an ideology.
I don't see how a 16 year old would be mature enough to make a permanent medical decision, especially when it's evident that they have a very specific circle of friends that have undoubtedly influenced them to some extent, along with the fact that they don't have a lot of knowledge about the risks of the procedure itself.
They may legitimately be trans in the end, but they may not be, and considering how me and many others felt at that age (when we thought we were trans), they should wait. The fact that they are uncertain about it says it all, and in my opinion they should at least wait until they are 18.
The changes of a teen's mind and body are intense, and as I said, I really did think I was 100% trans at that age. I'm now 19, and I learned I had many other issues mentally including the insanely uncomfortable process of puberty. They should really take everything into consideration, for their own sake, because you cannot turn back after you go through with it. It's better to take more time than not, due to how much our minds and thoughts change as we grow as a teenager into an adult.
Uh... no. What they are saying is a fact. There is no "challenge" anywhere in what they wrote; you are taking it weirdly. Transitioning out of spite is quite literally one of the dumbest things I've ever heard. May sound harsh, but why would you physically change your body and mutilate it to prove one random person on the internet wrong, especially if you end up not being truly trans to begin with? If you do end up transitioning, you need to do it for you, not for random people on the internet for christ's sake.
You are asking for advice, and when you get someone telling you the reality of transitioning, you get defensive. Do not ask for advice if you do not want it.
While I do understand what you are saying, the reason why I said what I did was because everyone around me, including my ex therapist, told me I absolutely needed to transition. This also includes other medical professionals, so even if they all agree it would be best, I still would absolutely wait. In the end, only we truly know ourselves best, and at that age we just don't. If I had gone through with it all, and realized later it wasn't for me, I would be absolutely destroyed mentally. I know we both agree that it is a very serious surgery, and needs a lot of thought, but I think even more caution should be added.