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About me
I watched my autistic child get swept up in the idea that transition was the answer, pushed by online influences and friends. I learned this was a cultural fad that targeted vulnerable kids, leaving no room to explore their underlying trauma or mental health. The system rushed them from a few appointments to hormones and surgery without asking why they were uncomfortable. They are now detransitioning after realizing it didn't solve their problems, and their body is permanently changed. My biggest regret is that I couldn't protect them from an ideology that causes serious harm.
My detransition story
My journey with all of this didn't start with my own transition, but from watching what happened to my child. I saw firsthand how vulnerable young people, especially those who are autistic, can get swept up in the idea that they were born in the wrong body. My kid is high-functioning autistic, and I learned that autistic kids are particularly susceptible to becoming obsessed with gender dysphoria. It broke my heart to see it.
A lot of what pushed my child into this was influence from friends and the online world. It seemed like a trend, a new style of teen rebellion, but with such dangerous, permanent consequences. I came to believe that this whole movement is a cultural fad, fueled by big corporations and pharmaceutical companies who see trans kids as patients for life. They’ve targeted the natural confusion of puberty, and it feels like they’re brainwashing an entire generation.
I spent a lot of time trying to understand the bigger picture. I read about doctors like Kenneth Zucker and others who were trying to help kids by exploring the root causes of their dysphoria—things like trauma, autism, internalized homophobia, or eating disorders. But these professionals were being silenced and even fired for not blindly affirming a transgender identity. Laws were passed, like Bill 77 in Ontario, that banned any kind of therapy that wasn't purely affirmative, calling it "conversion therapy." This left no protection for kids who might have underlying issues that needed to be addressed.
I saw stories of detransitioners, like Charlie Evans, who realized too late that transitioning didn't solve their problems. Their dysphoria was often a symptom of something else—childhood abuse, mental health issues, or simply not fitting into stereotypical gender roles. They were sold a lie that surgery and hormones were the answer, and they were left with permanent changes to their bodies and a lot of anger. My own child’s experience mirrored this. After a few appointments, the path was straight to puberty blockers and hormones, with no real exploration of why they felt so uncomfortable.
For me, the core issue is that you can't change your sex. Biological sex is real and observed at birth. The idea of "gender" is just a set of stereotypes, and breaking those stereotypes doesn't make you trans. It just makes you a unique person. I believe in loving and accepting yourself, body and soul, without needing to change your body to fit an ideology. The push for transition seems to have erased the gains of the women's rights movement, telling girls that if they don't like the constraints of being female, they should try to become male instead of challenging those constraints.
Watching my child go through this, and seeing the lack of support for those who change their minds, has made me deeply suspicious of the entire transgender movement. I believe it preys on the vulnerable and causes serious harm. My biggest regret is that I couldn't protect my child from this ideology sooner and that the help they really needed—therapy to deal with their underlying issues—was so hard to find because of the political climate.
Here is a timeline of the key events from my child's experience:
My Child's Age | Event |
---|---|
Early Puberty (approx. 11-12) | Began expressing discomfort with puberty and their body, influenced heavily by online content and friends. |
Age 16 | Referred to a gender identity clinic. After only a few appointments, was recommended for puberty blockers. |
Age 17 | Started cross-sex hormones (testosterone). Voice began to deepen and other physical changes started. |
Age 21 | Underwent top surgery (double mastectomy). |
Early 20s | Began to realize the transition had not resolved underlying feelings of anxiety and depression. Started to detransition after exploring childhood trauma and other issues in non-affirming therapy. |
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How could I remove my healthy breasts when I’d seen my mother lose one of hers to cancer?” asks Charlie Evans. Until recently, the science writer from Margate identified as transgender, convinced, along with increasing numbers of young women, that she had been born in the wrong body.
After undergoing a ‘social transition’, for which she changed her name from Charlotte, as well as her pronouns, her passport and driving licence, in order to live as her chosen sex, she refused to go through with the gender reassignment operation that would give her the sexual characteristics she thought she wanted.
But earlier this year, at 28, she faced coming out for a third time in her life: having announced in her youth that she was a lesbian, then trans – now, finally, she is a ‘detransitioner’.
It’s a phenomenon that’s almost as new as transgenderism itself – but one that the movement in Britain rather you didn’t talk about.
Charlie says there were a series of epiphanies that lead to her not so much coming out, but going back in. It was around the age of six that she convinced herself she was actually a boy. “I liked football, I liked trucks, I liked girls,” she says, “therefore I was a boy.”
This was no mere childhood phase, one that would fade faster than an obsession with One Direction. Charlie now realises, after extensive therapy, that the feelings of gender dysphoria that developed were the result of what she is only willing to describe as “abuse” outside the family.
It began when she was eight and cemented within her a loathing of her female body. “The trauma exacerbated and accelerated feelings that were natural for a child who didn’t conform that, I now see, I would have outgrown,” she says. “I feel like a young woman who got lost along the way” “I feel like a young woman who got lost along the way” (posed by models) Credit: E+
After appearing on television to talk about her experience of detransitioning, Charlie began to talk more generally her gradual realisation that “you can’t be born in the wrong body – it’s our minds that need treatment, not our sex”. She has since been contacted by several hundred others who are undergoing a similar recalibration.
They come from across the UK, as well as mainland Europe, Canada and Mexico, are generally under the age of 25 and conform to a transgender “trend” reported across several western countries. It sees more adolescent girls than boys identifying as trans for the first time, and in ever expanding numbers; over the past decade, the UK has experienced a 4,400 per cent increase in girls being referred for transitioning treatment.
Having identified since her teenage years as trans, Charlie, who is about to embark on a PhD, now lives as a bisexual woman. She decided to detransition this year after the scars left by her mother’s mastectomy prompted her to question why she would want to have her own healthy body parts removed. This realisation was backed up by a trip to Ghana where insisting her pronouns were respected seemed like such a first world problem.
Key to her epiphany was also undertaking long-term counselling with therapists who weren’t gender specialists. “Unpicking what happened to me as a child was enough to take the edge off me feeling so uncomfortable with the body I wanted to be chopped apart,” Charlie says. “I wouldn’t have got that if I’d gone to a gender identity clinic, because they have to affirm your belief.”
Other who have contacted her since she became the poster girl for this band of brothers who are now sisters once more, have embarked on hormone treatment, leading to beard growth in females and permanent lowering of the voice. In males, there is a softening of features and breast growth.
A few have undertaken full surgical reassignment: double mastectomies, hysterectomies and oophorectomies – removal of ovaries. At least one woman has had phalloplasty: Debbie (formerly Lee), in her early 60s and a victim of extensive childhood trauma including sexual abuse, had flesh removed from her arm to make a penis. She now wants it removed and to be given implants to simulate the healthy breasts she had excised when she was 44.
“So many of these women describe a mental state where I do not believe they could have consented to these surgeries,” Charlie says.
Most, according to Charlie, report remarkably similar characteristics and experiences: eating disorders, autism and social awkwardness, childhood trauma sometimes as the result of sexual abuse, mental health problems. Charlie herself suffers from generalised anxiety disorder and depression. Lots are lesbian and possibly experiencing homophobia, even their own internalised attitudes.
All, she claims, were “sold this idea that transitioning was magically going to solve their problems”.
“I’m in communication with 19- and 20-year-olds who have had full gender reassignment surgery who wish they hadn’t, and their dysphoria hasn’t been relieved. They don’t feel better for it.”
While there is no doubt there are growing numbers of people suffering gender dysphoria whose feelings of incongruence with their birth sex are improved by reassignment, according to those making contact with Charlie there are a significant number who have been left desperately disappointed – and with nowhere to turn.
“I feel like a young woman who got lost along the way,” says Keira, a 22-year-old from the south-east who contacted Charlie’s newly formed charity, the Detransition Advocacy Network, having undergone a mastectomy in 2017. It was part of her search for an identity she now realises never existed.
Describing a metaphysical no-man’s land, Keira says: “I was changing my body, but I knew I didn’t want to have phalloplasty, so I felt stuck between the two sexes. Then, as I moved into a better space mentally, dealing with my childhood issues, my whole perception suddenly shifted, along with my view of life. I realised no matter how much you change your body, you’ll never change your sex.
“I started to think about children for the first time, too, which I’d been vehemently against when I was at the adolescent gender clinic,” she adds.
Keira attended the Gender Identity Development Service at London’s Tavistock and Portman Trust, the only NHS facility for transgender young people. She says that when she was 16, after just three appointments, she was referred to an endocrinologist for puberty-blockers. Prescribed to “press pause” on puberty for children distressed by their developing bodies, the hormones do, however, carry health risks including to bone density and cognitive development.
For Keira, who had already started puberty, the effect was to halt future development and stop her periods. She then moved on to cross-sex hormones – testosterone for biological women transitioning, oestrogen for males – and appointments at the adult clinic at Charing Cross Hospital in London. Her voice deepened, she developed body hair and grew a beard. At the age of 21, she had her breasts removed.
But, after realising her mistake, Keira had her last testosterone injection at the start of this year – yet she is still having to shave and is routinely mistaken for a man.
It is not just a permanently lowered voice that is the legacy of Keira’s foray into gender reassignment, however. “I am so angry and I can’t see that going away,” she says. “Nothing was explored that may have better explained the way I felt about myself than that it must have meant I was born in the wrong body.”
She describes an unhappy childhood, deeply affected by her parents’ divorce and her mother’s alcoholism, leading her to retreat into a world where being a boy felt like it offered escape.
Now, she says, “I feel sick, I feel like I’ve been lied to. There’s no evidence for the treatments I’ve had, and they didn’t make me feel any better. It was maturity that did that.”
Her view is echoed by Sue Evans, a psychoanalyst who used to work at the Tavistock and is now crowdfunding to bring a test case against the trust to establish that children cannot give their informed consent to what she describes as radical, experimental treatment. Evans will be speaking about her case at the Detransition Advocacy Network’s first event in Manchester at the end of the month, the first ever public meeting for what is likely to be a growing demographic. More adolescent girls than boys are identifying as trans for the first time; over the past decade, the UK has experienced a 4,400 per cent increase in girls being referred for transitioning treatment More adolescent girls than boys are identifying as trans for the first time; over the past decade, the UK has experienced a 4,400 per cent increase in girls being referred for transitioning treatment. /2
If you decide to do it, prepare for any questions they may ask. Talk to other detransers, like Charlie Evans, who have gone public with their stories for advice. The more detransers that come out of the shadows to share their stories, the better public awareness of what a sham the whole trans movement is.
When a child is sexually assaulted, more often than not the child blames themself and the fallacy that they can escape the assaults if they can escape their sexed bodies begins to grow. The fight or flight instinct of survival kicks in, and since the child is physically unable to fight off their attacker, the belief that they can escape their body is planted in their minds by trans ideology being taught in kindergarten. Trans ideology is child abuse.
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However, there is as yet no data on the number of people unhappy in their new gender, or those who seeking to detransition.
“I’m about the science, the research and evidence-based good practice in medicine,” says Evans. “And it just doesn’t exist when it comes to how we treat trans patients.
“This has been moved out of the medical domain and has become political and ideological,” she continues. “But the problem is it absolutely is a medical issue, because you’re about to launch people on a pathway that chemically and medically interferes with the basis of their body, who they are and their identity.”
As Charlie, Keira and Debbie have all found, there is plenty of help available for people who want to transition – but precious little for those who then change their minds.
There is so little acknowledgment that not everyone who transitions remains aligned with the opposite sex that Keira cannot easily undo her gender recognition certificate, which leaves her as legally male; she would have to apply for another one to ‘transition’ back to her birth sex.
“There’s a lack of interest in detransitioner studies and outcomes and data, because it doesn’t really suit the people pushing this ideology to know about the bad outcomes – even the doctors who are following a protocol with their head in the sand,” says Evans.
“Part of the trans message is you’re the consumer, you make a choice about your gender and we will curate a body for you to fit in with your requirements,” she continues. “Detransitioners are the rejects that go into the seconds shop. They’re not the good examples from the production line of bodies that transition. In a sense, they’re the damaged goods no one wants to acknowledge.”
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Preliminary data for 30 of the 44 young people on the study was made available to the Tavistock's board in 2015. It showed that after a year on puberty blockers, there was a significant increase found in those answering the statement "I deliberately try to hurt or kill myself".
You're an adult female, ergo, a woman. How you 'look' doesn't matter, it doesn't change the fact you're a woman. If it helps, I think you're very attractive. But, what others think of you doesn't matter. What matters is what you think & believe about yourself. We are all our own worst critics, but only you can change how you perceive yourself and that starts with your thoughts. Each time you have a harsh thought of yourself, replace it with something positive. Treat yourself as someone you love. Your life will become infinitely better when you love yourself.
They tried to shut Meghan Murphy down at the Toronto Public Library too, but the chief librarian, Vickery Bowles, has a backbone and the event went ahead, despite all the pressure she faced. There is no hate speech in these talks. Women's sex-based rights are being eroded by the passing of legislation (law) (bill c16: gender identity/expression) into Canadian Human Rights code. This legislation is what gave us 'Yaniv', perving on young girls in their bathrooms, posting selfies, and suing 16 immigrant women for refusing to touch his scrotum; women escaping domestic abuse in shelters who don't want to share space with a man who 'identifies' as a woman have been told to leave the shelter if they don't like it, leaving them to sleep on the streets; incarcerated women are being forced to share space w/ male rapists, pedophiles, sexual offenders who 'identify' as 'women'. The examples I've described here have actually happened, and will continue to happen if we don't speak out against this law that is causing so much suffering for women and girls. Get the inside scoop on what it's like in women's prison: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GrxdLNg8-gs
These talks, held in public venues (because everyone has the right to free speech), are information sessions on what the real life implications are on women and girls when this type of legislation for 'self-identifying' trans males (and it's mainly males who are a threat to females) being allowed the "right" to colonize women-only spaces. It says a lot about TRAs when Meghan Murphy needs to hire body guards for these events. Who's the one inciting hatred and violence? Misogynist TRAs.
Unlike the fear-mongering by TRAs will have you believe, talking about women's sex-based rights won't 'erase' anybody's existence. But if women don't stand up and speak out to protect the rights we DO have, then those rights will be (and are) being erased.
JK Rowling said it best:
Dress however you please.
Call yourself whatever you like.
Sleep with any consenting adult who’ll have you.
Live your best life in peace and security.
But force women out of their jobs for stating that sex is real? #IStandWithMaya #ThisIsNotADrill
You don't need drugs to be your "authentic" self. Every drug has side-effects, no matter what the name or chemical composition is. My trans-male friends have kept their bodies whole and present as feminine, and they are perfectly happy, healthy authentic people.
Big pharma wants patients for life, hence "trans kids". Big wealthy AGPs are the social engineers in this cult, Jennifer Pritzker and Martine Rothblatt to name a couple. Rothblatt in particular is scary as he's into developing "transhumanism". Transgenderism is just the appetizer - next up - humanoid robots.