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About me
I started transitioning because I hated how I looked as a female and thought becoming a man would fix my pain. I took testosterone but it only made me more unhappy, and I began having dreams of being female again. I realized my transition was a way to escape trauma and low self-esteem, not because I was truly male. Now I'm detransitioning back to living as a woman and trying to legally change my name and gender back here in Argentina. I don't regret trying to find happiness, but I'm now focused on healing the real issues I was running from.
My detransition story
My name is [Redacted], and this is my story of transition and detransition. I want to share my experience in my own words, hoping it might help others who feel alone.
My journey started because I was deeply unhappy with myself. My whole life, people called me ugly, and it destroyed my self-esteem. I found it easier to imagine living as a normal-looking boy than to continue being what I saw as a hideous girl. I cut my hair short at 17, which felt like a big step because my long hair was the only feminine trait I had that I liked. That was even before I started thinking about being trans. It felt like an escape from the pain I was feeling.
I later realized that a big part of my desire to transition was due to trauma. I was running from my problems instead of facing them. I started taking testosterone, thinking it was the right path to become my true self. But it didn't make me happy. For about six months after starting hormones, I had these recurring dreams where I was female again, with long hair. My subconscious was trying to tell me something, but I ignored it at the time.
I began to feel a new kind of unhappiness. I stopped taking testosterone because I just couldn't handle seeing myself as a man. It started to cause me dysphoria instead of curing it. The facial hair that grew in seemed disgusting to me. I still have a little bit on my chin now, and I hate it.
What I did was connect the dots. I saw that I had transitioned to survive, not because I was truly a man inside. It was a way to cope. Letting go of that identity is hard. I identified as a gay transgender man for a long time, and it feels weird to not be part of the LGBT community in that way anymore. Now I'm just a straight woman, a "cishet," and it's a strange adjustment.
I don't regret the journey because I did what I felt I had to do to survive at the time. It's okay that it was the wrong path. We all make mistakes, some bigger than others. My mom told me it was okay that I didn't know what I wanted to do with my life; most people don't. The most important thing is to be true to yourself and do whatever you can to be happy. That means I now have years of therapy and self-acceptance ahead of me to deal with the root issues I was trying to escape from.
I live in Argentina, and it feels like detransitioners here are completely erased. It's lonely. I legally changed my name and gender marker under our gender identity law, which was very easy to do. Now, I'm trying to change it back. I've sent some emails to see if it's possible without having to hire a lawyer or see a judge. I'm crossing my fingers. Fear didn't stop me from changing it the first time, and I can't let it stop me from changing it back.
My thoughts on gender now are that it's a very personal and complicated thing. For me, it was tangled up with low self-esteem, trauma, and a desperate need to escape from hating myself as a female. I don't think my experience means transition is wrong for everyone, but it was wrong for me. I have regrets about the permanent changes to my body, like the facial hair, but I don't regret trying to find a way to feel better. I just wish I had dealt with my internal problems first.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| My Age | Year | Event |
|---|---|---|
| 17 | ~2015 | Cut my hair short, a big step away from femininity. |
| 22 | 2020 (Jan) | Realized I was unhappy on testosterone and stopped taking it. |
| 22 | 2020 (Jan) | Understood my transition was linked to trauma and began to detransition. |
| 22 | 2020 (Sep) | Began the process of trying to legally change my name and gender marker back. |
Top Comments by /u/YamsButMashed:
we all make mistakes, some are bigger than others but you wouldn't be the only one to chase the wrong path.. when i told my mom i wasn't transgender she told me it was ok that i didn't know what i wanted to do with my life, most people don't, they're too ashamed to change or tell they've made a mistake and keep living their miserable lives as if nothing had changed inside them...
you will have to overcome this fear, after all what really matters is that you're happy, you may not be happier immediatly but you will eventually, you gotta take the harderst step now but it will be worth it
thanks for the comment, sadly there aren't any detrans people that i know of here in argentina :( it seems like they don't exist or they're completely erased u.u.. fear didn't stop me to change my gender marker in the first place so i guess it's time to let go of it too :/ - thanks i hope the best to you too <3
i....feel the same way, i actually transitioned because i've been called ugly my whole life and found it easier to live as a normal looking boy than as a hideous girl. ignoring the problem will not make it go away tho, so for me there will be years and years of therapy and self acceptance to come.
of course it will be hard to let go of something that gave you an escape from what you were feeling, i too feel so weird about not being on the lgbt community anymore (i identified as a gay ftm man) so now i'm a "cishet".
you do you, do what you feel is best, as you've done when you decided to transition, for some it is about survival, and that's ok
it felt like i was reading my thoughts, i went through exactly the same thing except i'm not that young. leaving the fact that you started hormones at that age which is a little fucked up asides, i will tell you how i felt i was doing the right thing by deciding to detransition...
realizing i wasn't happy was a big part of it, it was the first step actually... now i know this will sound weird, but does your subcouncious tries to tell you something?? i had recurrent dreams that i was a female again, with long hair (i cut my hair at 17 years old, way before transitioning or even realizing i was trans, but for me that was big, for me long hair represented the only femenine trait i had) for about half a year after starting testosterone (it meant nothing to me back then, but i can see it's meaning now). Later on i stopped taking testosterone, i couldn't really explain why, now i realize it was because i just couldn't handle seeing myself as a man, in other words, it caused me dysphoria. The facial hair seemed disgusting to me, i have very little hair on my chin now and i hate it. What i did once i found out i was unhappy all along was just connecting the dots and seeing i transitioned (in my specific case) due to trauma...
i wouldn't worry about the name and gender marker change right now, what's important is that you stay true to yourself and do whatever you can to try to be happy... you did what you did to survive, so did i, so did all of us, it's ok that you took the path that seemed the best for you, it's ok if it was the wrong one.
actually changing the name was very easy, because of the gender identity law, but i don't think they contemplated anyone changing it back /: i sent some emails and am waiting for a response to see if it is possible without having to hire a lawyer or see a judge, i'm crossing my fingers