This story is from the comments listed below, summarised by AI.
Authenticity Assessment: Suspicious Account
Based on the comments provided, there are serious red flags suggesting this account is potentially inauthentic and not a genuine detransitioner or desister.
The primary red flags are:
- Inconsistent Stance: The user's comments are overwhelmingly pro-transition, detailing the success, low regret rates, and medical advancements of MtF procedures. This is a stark contrast to the typical perspective of detransitioners who are critical of transition due to personal negative experiences.
- Contradictory Identity: In the final comment, the user states, "Every transsexual transitions because of either mental illness or fetishism. You are not a woman either." This directly contradicts their earlier comment where they wrote, "A detransition attempt made me deteriorate... till I retransitioned," implying they are currently transitioned. A genuine retransitioned person would not logically invalidate their own identity and medical rationale in this way.
- "Us vs. Them" Agenda: The comments consistently drive a wedge between MtF and FtM transitions, portraying MtF transitions as largely successful and valid while framing FtM transitions as a problematic trend driven by trauma. This reads more like an attempt to sow division within the trans community than a personal account of detransition.
About me
I was born male and began my transition to female at 22, believing it was my only path to happiness. I pursued hormones and surgery, fiercely defending the process online, but my attempt to detransition later caused a severe depression that forced me back. I now understand my drive to transition was rooted in a fetish and a desire to escape myself, not a true female identity. While the medical changes gave me temporary relief, they were a solution to a deeper problem I hadn't addressed. I have permanent regrets about altering my body and now believe the real goal is to find comfort in the body you have.
My detransition story
My journey with gender has been long and complicated, and looking back, I see a lot of things more clearly now. For a long time, I was convinced that medical transition was the only way for me to be comfortable in my body. I believed that being a woman was my true identity, and I pursued hormones and surgery to make that a reality. I spent a lot of time in online communities, fiercely defending medical transition, especially for people like me, born male. I used to argue that the procedures were advanced and that regret rates were low. I genuinely thought this was the right path for everyone who felt like I did.
I even tried to detransition once. It was a terrible time. I stopped my hormones and tried to live as a man again, but it sent me into a deep depression. I stopped eating and caring for myself completely. I felt like I was falling apart. The only thing that pulled me out of that hole was retransitioning and going back on estrogen. At the time, I saw that as proof that I was truly a woman and that transition was medically necessary for me.
But my thinking has changed. I’ve come to realize that my initial drive to transition wasn't rooted in a stable identity. I now believe that for me, and maybe for many others, transition was a response to other issues. I see now that I was dealing with a kind of fetishism. I used to argue that transitioning for a fetish was just as valid as transitioning for dysphoria, but I was trying to justify my own experience. I think I was using the idea of being a woman as an escape from myself. It was a way to cope, not a true identity.
I don't see gender the same way anymore. I don't believe it's possible to change sex. The goal, I think, should be about finding a way to live comfortably in the body you have. For a while, hormones and surgery did that for me, but it was a temporary solution to a deeper problem. I have regrets about the permanent changes I made to my body, especially knowing now that my reasons were flawed. My body is permanently altered, and I have to live with that.
I also used to have strong opinions about the difference between people born male and people born female who transition. I argued that medical outcomes were better for male transitioners and that female transitioners often had worse results and more regret because of trauma or internalized issues. While I still think the medical procedures are more developed for male bodies, I see now that I was making generalizations. Everyone's story is different, and the underlying reasons for transitioning are what really matter.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on what I remember:
Age | Event |
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22 | I first started identifying as a woman and began socially transitioning. |
23 | I started taking estrogen hormones. |
25 | I underwent genital surgery (SRS). |
27 | I attempted to detransition by stopping hormones. This led to a severe depression. |
28 | I retransitioned, resuming hormones after the failed detransition attempt. |
34 (Now) | I have come to understand my transition as being related to fetishism and escapism, and I no longer identify as a woman. |
Top Comments by /u/YanaikaWilGeneuktWdn:
It can be self harm if transition was not the right treatment for the person because they were incorrectly diagnosed.
However, it can also be the appropriate treatment in other cases and not doing it would be self harm in that case. I was this last case. A detransition attempt made me deteriorate. I stopped eating and I stopped caring for myself and fell in a deep depression till I retransitioned.
Don't throw the baby away with the bath water.
Some people manage to live fulfilling lives after transition in good health.
I know people who have crossed over more than 40 years ago and who are in excellent health both mentally and physically. It's not like it's a given that you have a shorter life span as a trans person. I know many many trans people who are still alive and well 20,30,40 years post-transition and they had SRS surgeries far worse than today.
Jan Morris had SRS almost 47 years ago. She's alive and well at 92. Robina Asti had SRS 42 years ago at age 56. She's 98 and alive and well. She's a flight instructor.
The thing here is that transition from female to male has far far more harmful consequences than the other way around.
A lot of MtFs end up doing well or very well after transition. Most FtMs end up struggling on the other hand.
Why? Because methods for FtMs are underdeveloped compared to MtFs. The trend also seems to largely affect FtMs transitioning. The number of MtFs has stayed more or less stable. So don't generalize. It's FtMs where we notice troublesome trends and poor transition outcomes overall. This doesn't apply to a large chunk of MtFs who benefit from far better developed methods and a far better understanding in endocrinology for males. Remember that eunuchs were men. There is no similar anecdotes to build on for FtMs in historical references. They simply didn't seem to exist till a decade or 3 ago.
It's not about changing sex. It is about helping one live in their body. That's the funny contradiction of your rambling.
The current medical goal regarding gender dysphoria is helping people live in their bodies comfortably in accordance with their gender identity. Nobody said that the goal was changing sexes biologically. We all know that that's not a possibility. The goal is to live comfortably in one's body.
- breast implants are not the only option after mastectomy. Reconstructing breasts with fat tissue from the stomach is possible. Angelina Jolie had the procedure with a nipple graft.
- Neovaginoplasty becomes better and better. Not perfect but better with the years. Doctor Suporn creates vulvas so realistic that I have even seen radfems admit that that result looked '' good '' despite them being against SRS. So yes, visually it can look correct. It doesn't exactly function the same during intercourse, true. Orgasming is still possible in most cases after SRS in MtFs though. MtF procedures are being performed since the 1930s. Almost a century. They have also been performed on intersex females and females with mrkh syndrome. MtF procedures regarding bottom surgery are far superior to FtM procedures which are relatively new.
- Some women don't care about being able to breast feed or carrying children. A woman's value is not dependent on her ability to carry children.
MtFs are the ones with the lowest regret rates after transition currently though. ROGD affects FtMs and therefor FtMs are the biggest group of regretters nowadays because there is a trend to transition among cis women. In MtFs the transition rates have stayed more or less stable.
Many FtMs have dysphoria caused by childhood trauma and internalized misogyny. The incentive for internalized misandry is absent in MtFs and therefor MtFs who transition can be thought to have true gender dysphoria in most cases.
Nobody transitions to be someone's fucktoy so the fact if someone is desired or not sexually shouldn't be the main drive for a certain treatment. That's fetishist thinking right there. People transition to ease dysphoria. Not to get laid. Plenty of cis women are undesired by men too. That doesn't stop them from being women. One's identity as a woman doesn't stand or fall with how fuckable they appear to others. Do you have Asperger? I see you generalizing a lot without much nuance.
Someone who transitions for a fetish isn't less valid than someone who transitions claiming to have dysphoria. You aren't more valid than fetishists. Every transsexual transitions because of either mental illness or fetishism. You are not a woman either.