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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account appears authentic. There are no serious red flags suggesting it's a bot or an inauthentic actor.
The comments display a consistent, nuanced, and personal perspective that aligns with a passionate desister/detransitioner. Key indicators of authenticity include:
- Personal Experience: The user references their own motivations for transitioning ("for me transition was an escape from the pressure/coercion to be straight").
- Nuanced Reasoning: They offer complex, multi-faceted explanations for behavior (e.g., discussing trauma and vulnerability as motivations for transition) rather than simple, repetitive talking points.
- Internal Consistency: The worldview across all comments is consistent—critiquing medicalization, societal pressures, and the concept of a stable trans identity—without contradiction.
The language is passionate and angry, which is consistent with someone who feels harmed by their experience, not with a bot or troll following a script.
About me
I started as a teenage girl who felt uncomfortable with puberty, and online communities convinced me that meant I was a trans man. My journey was an escape from anxiety and internalized homophobia, not a true identity. I took testosterone for two years, which permanently changed my voice, and I'm relieved I never had surgery. I stopped because I realized I was just trying to fix my depression and trauma by changing my body. Now, I'm learning to accept myself as a female who doesn't conform to stereotypes, and I'm finally addressing my real mental health issues.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition started when I was a teenager, around 15. I was deeply uncomfortable with my body, especially when I started developing breasts. I hated them and felt like they didn't belong to me. I now see this as pretty normal puberty discomfort that a lot of girls go through, but at the time, everyone online was telling me it meant I was trans. I had a lot of anxiety and low self-esteem, and I think I used the idea of being a boy as a form of escapism from all of that.
I started by identifying as non-binary, but that quickly shifted to me believing I was a trans man. The online communities I was in were a huge influence; it was a complete echo chamber where everyone just affirmed each other's self-diagnosis. No one ever encouraged me to question it or to work on my underlying mental health issues. I was convinced I had permanent gender dysphoria, but I now believe I was just an uncomfortable teenager and that my feelings would have changed with time if I hadn't been pushed.
I took testosterone for about two years, starting when I was 19. My voice dropped a lot, which is something I now have to live with permanently. I never got any surgery, but I was planning for top surgery. Looking back, I'm so relieved I never went through with it. I see now that my desire to transition was wrapped up in a lot of other things. I had internalized homophobia; I'm a lesbian, and I think on some level, transitioning felt like an escape from the pressure and fear that came with being a gay woman. It felt safer to be seen as a straight man dating a woman than to be an openly gay woman.
I also see how my belief that "woman = victim" played a part. By transitioning, I thought I could leave that vulnerability behind. It was a way to cope with trauma, not a real solution for it.
I stopped testosterone when I was 21. I realized that my identity was based on dissociation and wasn't stable at all. The goalposts kept moving—there was always a new surgery to want, a new reason to feel dysphoric. It felt like a black hole I could never fill. Transitioning was a temporary fix that distracted me from my real problems, which were my depression, anxiety, and low self-worth.
I don't regret detransitioning at all. I regret ever transitioning in the first place. I regret that I was an easily influenced, mentally ill young adult and that the medical professionals I saw didn't discourage me or try to treat my underlying issues. They just acted like hormone dispensers. I gave informed consent, but I don't think someone in my mental state could really give full consent to such permanent changes.
My thoughts on gender now are that it's mostly a set of social expectations. You don't need to change your body to be free from those expectations. I'm a female who doesn't conform to femininity, and that's okay. I don't need to call myself non-binary or male to have permission to be myself.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 15 | Started feeling intense discomfort with my developing female body and puberty. |
| 16 | Began identifying as non-binary, influenced by online communities. |
| 17 | Socially transitioned to living as a male. |
| 19 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 21 | Stopped testosterone and began detransitioning. |
Top Comments by /u/Yogsothoth-isthegate:
I don’t think you have permanent gender dysphoria (which can and does alleviate with time with most people): I think you’re at an age where it’s completely normal to be uncomfortable with your body, but all female discomfort is being shoved in the gender direction now, which I think is absurd.
“ …so I went back into closet and started presenting as feminine as I could to convince myself I'm cis.”
Really think about what you said here. You conflate “cis-ness” with being comfortable being feminine as a female. There are SO many women who just have female bodies and don’t confirm to gendered expectations. You don’t need to call yourself non-binary or male to have permission to not dress femininely.
Please don’t do this to yourself: especially since you’re interested in boys. Give yourself time to grow into an adult: wait til you’re 25 when your brain and body stops developing THEN make an informed decision based on some lived experience and personal development
Can mentally ill adults who are easily susceptible to manipulation really give full consent either? Especially when the trans cult is creating an echo chamber of affirmation and never discourages self diagnosis? Gender Dysphoria is mental illness, and the supposed experts are giving mentally ill people surgery and hormones based on their own self diagnosis. They have a responsibility too: they aren’t just hormone dispensers and surgery machines
I imagine some women are actually bi or questioning but choose to only date women because of sexual trauma/fear around being a woman in a vulnerable position with a man. Maybe when they transition they finally feel “safe” enough to have sex with men because in their minds they aren’t women (I.e victims) anymore. For a lot of TIFs there’s an underlying woman = victim belief.
Conversely when I had the pressure my family was putting on my to date men removed via transition I never forced myself to date men again, and I’ve never looked back. So for me transition was an escape from the pressure/coercion to be straight.
There are so many different motivations at play here: simplifying all these different lives experiences and different traumas down to “wrong brain wrong body” is absurd in retrospect.
An identity based on dissociation and delusional behavior is never going to gel into a stable identity. That’s why the goalpost always changes. There’s always a new surgery to get, a new revision, a new sexuality to come out as, etc etc etc. Transition is a black hole.
It depends on the person. It seems like the younger you start the deeper the voice tends to get (not a strict rule though). I find a lot of FTM’s to be very clockable by voice: if they sound really effeminate and are talking about their girlfriend that often tips me off 😅