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Reddit user /u/Yogurtvalue5735's Detransition Story

female
low self-esteem
porn problem
regrets transitioning
escapism
trauma
depression
influenced online
homosexual
started as non-binary
anxiety
only transitioned socially
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About me

I started identifying as trans because I felt it was the only way to be a masculine woman, and I was drawn to the attention and escape it seemed to offer. My desire to be male was actually tied to a sexual fantasy that let me distance myself from real intimacy, which I now see was a defense mechanism. I never took hormones or had surgery, and I'm grateful because it wouldn't have fixed my real issues with self-esteem and escapism. I now believe you can be a masculine woman without changing your body, and that the push to transition can be harmful. These days, I'm focused on accepting myself as the woman I am and creating art about my detransition experience.

My detransition story

My whole journey with transition and detransition was complicated and rooted in a lot of confusion about who I was. I started identifying as trans because I thought it was the only way to be a masculine woman. I saw other people online getting a lot of attention and praise for transitioning, and it seemed like a way to become someone new and escape my problems. I also had a lot of trouble with my sexuality and dating.

I realized that a lot of my desire to be male was tied to a specific sexual fantasy. I couldn't imagine myself in a heterosexual scenario; if I thought about being with a man, it was always in a gay context where I was a boy. I think this was a way for me to distance myself from sex and intimacy, maybe because of some past trauma I can't fully remember. It was like a defense mechanism. This made dating really hard, because it felt impossible to just be myself with someone.

I never got any surgeries or took hormones, but I considered it. I'm glad now that I didn't, because I see that it wouldn't have fixed the real issues. My problem wasn't with my body; it was with my mind and how I saw myself. I had low self-esteem and used fantasies as a form of escapism. I think a lot of the push to transition, especially for females, comes from this place and from seeing how popular it can be online. I saw how some FTM artists became very successful by openly sharing their fetishes, and it made me wonder how much that influences other people.

I don't believe in gender identity the way it's talked about now. I think you can be a man or a woman and look or act any way you want. Being a woman just means you were born female; you can be as masculine as you want and still be a woman. I think the idea that you have to change your body to match a social role is harmful. Both progressive and conservative ideologies force people into boxes, and I just don't agree with that.

I do have regrets about my social transition. It made my dating life harder and it didn't solve the underlying problems I had with depression and anxiety. I think I needed to work on healing myself first, not changing my outward identity. Letting doctors cut you up or experiment on your healthy body is never the right answer. You have to address what's going on in your mind.

Now, I'm focused on accepting myself as a masculine woman. I'm trying to create art and comics that tell the truth about detransition and the importance of loving the healthy body you were born with.

Age Year Event
- - I considered a social transition but did not medically transition.
- - I detransitioned socially years ago.

Top Comments by /u/Yogurtvalue5735:

14 comments • Posting since November 16, 2022
Reddit user Yogurtvalue5735 (detrans) comments on the disparity in visibility between detransitioned women and men, suggesting MTFs may have more financial and social incentives to stay transitioned.
27 pointsNov 16, 2022
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I'll admit there seems to be a higher amount of detrans women speaking out than detrans men if you look at the florida medical board meeting and the detrans channels on youtube. I'm subbed to way more FtmtF than MtftM.

I suspect it's because MTFs have a lot to gain financially and socially if you look at the Dylan Mulvany situation. He amassed millions of followers, received brand deals, and got to speak in the white house after identifying as female. It also opens up the dating pool to "straight" men because gay men aren't as interested in femininity and straight men are more desirable to them anyway.

Despite the risks of long term medical issues looming above them, it's worth it to become a star.

Reddit user Yogurtvalue5735 (detrans) explains why self-acceptance and addressing mental health should come before irreversible medical transition.
9 pointsDec 30, 2022
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I will always say to accept yourself. letting "doctors" cut you up and experiment on you is never the way to go and that goes for any cosmetic surgery. You have to address what's going on in your mind before performing irreversible acts on your healthy body.

Reddit user Yogurtvalue5735 (detrans) explains that the anime Ranma ½, written by a woman, is not fetish material but rather a story where the protagonist beats up the pervy men who harass him.
9 pointsNov 26, 2022
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I was about to say the same thing. Ranma was written by a woman, the same women who wrote Inuyasha and other popular romance anime from the 70s-2000s. She's not known for writing any sort of fetish material. Ranma isn't the pervy one, but rather other straight guys who constantly harass him. A lot of the jokes involve him beating the shit out of those pervy guys in his female and male form.

Reddit user Yogurtvalue5735 (detrans) comments on the FTM "yaoi pipeline," suggesting financial and social incentives from fetishistic self-portrayal on social media can influence people to transition.
8 pointsNov 16, 2022
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That's the word I was looking for: autoandrophilic. I detransitioned years ago, but I'm new to the community around and occasionally I've seen people mention the yaoi FTM pipeline, but I haven't seen any videos or read any analysis on it. I don't read yaoi or bl as much, so I'm probably missing out on a lot.

I realized this connection after seeing an FTM webtoon artist make it really big after being featured and promoted by a huge tech company. They're very open about their fetish on social media; they literally sell drawn p0rn of themselves getting fucked by other guys, double masectomy scars, enlarged cli.t and all, but no one has anything to say about it other than yaas kween.

I'm wondering if that might influence more people to transition when seeing how lucrative and popular a nerdy FTM can be. We've already seen a major rise in MTFs in social media and I suspect the financial and social aspect of it plays a part in the attractiveness of transitioning.

Reddit user Yogurtvalue5735 (detrans) comments on defying gender roles, advising that one can be a masculine woman or feminine man without needing to transition, and that health and character should come first.
8 pointsNov 16, 2022
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The LGBT movement often talks about defying gender roles, but for whatever reason, men can't just be feminine and women can't just be masculine. There isn't one way to be a man or a woman and it's not anyone else's business what role you fit into. That's for you to decide because it's your life. If you want to live as a masculine woman that doesn't look like a woman at all, that's your choice. People should judge you by your character first and foremost.

The only reasons to care so deeply about how you appear to others are for dating, how you want to be treated because feminine women do get better treatment by society, and vanity. You can still find love, be treated well by others, and look great as a masculine woman.

Your health and well being should come first, so personally I would advise against transitioning medically or socially, but that's for you to decide and I don't think you should stress over it. Focus more on who you are, rather than the role you or society places upon you.

Reddit user Yogurtvalue5735 (detrans) comments that both progressive and conservative ideologies force gender norms, arguing that being a woman is solely defined by chromosomes and anatomy, not by behavior or appearance.
8 pointsDec 30, 2022
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I have an issue with both progressive and conservative ideologies. Both force men and women to behave a certain way. I don't understand why you can't just be whoever you want, but still be a man or woman. Being a woman just means you have certain chromosomes/anatomy; you can look like an alien and still be a woman.

Reddit user Yogurtvalue5735 (detrans) comments on a video of a man who detransitioned after identifying as a Korean woman, appreciating his articulation and his message for youth to heal before making permanent decisions.
6 pointsNov 16, 2022
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I'm surprised how well articulated he is and I appreciate him encouraging younger generations to heal themselves before making permanently life altering decisions. I'm Asian, so none of the racial stuff bothered me because clearly he's not mentally well. I'm not religious, but I know a lot of good religious folk and I hope he's in good hands.

Reddit user Yogurtvalue5735 (detrans) comments on a TV show, celebrating that a butch character is not trans and warning about the harmful effects of chest binding.
6 pointsNov 26, 2022
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I had watched this show a long time ago and almost forgot it existed. I randomly came across the series on another Reddit post claiming the main character in Young Americans is trans, or close to being trans and I wanted to celebrate that she is not. We need to protect these stories from being hijacked and twisted into propaganda.

The only thing I don't like about these series is the use of binding and not letting the viewers know of the harmful effects of it on your rib cage, internal organs, spine, and breasts. I'll let it slide however, as it's the only representation tomboys get.

I kind of agree with your sentiment on the make overs too. Sometimes it's nice to show that masculine women can dress however they want, but to completely forgo the butch look takes something away from it. Jake and Hamilton looked really cute in their matching suits and I preferred Jake in her boyish clothes.

Reddit user Yogurtcritic5735 (detrans) comments on harmful "true trans" narratives, criticizing Blaire White and a former FTM porn actor for promoting transition while still having masculine/feminine features, and advocates for self-acceptance of one's natural body.
5 pointsDec 30, 2022
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Nope. This is why I don't really like Blaire White or that old FTM who did p,orn. They highlight cases of detrans, but still want to be considered true trans. Even with all the surgeries and hormones, Blaire still has a frame of a man and an uncanny face and that FTM has curves like a woman. I think it's harmful to perpetuate that idea instead of advocating for people to accept themselves and love the healthy body they were born with.

Reddit user Yogurtvalue5735 (detrans) comments on MTF athletes, arguing they target women's sports due to a fear of men and a desire for attention or a power trip.
5 pointsDec 30, 2022
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they love to compete in women's sports and start fights against women, but they're scared to threaten the straight men who would fight back. I really don't think this is a patriarchy or toxic masculinity issue. It's a problem with weak men who want to wear a female costume to get attention and resources, or they want to go on a power trip and get away with as much as they can. Women need to start fighting back and stop caring about virtue signaling; I have my qualms with feminists because I feel they are partially responsible for this, but I love terfs. They are the only women I see pushing back against this dark period in history.