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About me
I was deeply uncomfortable during my female puberty, and I found a community online that told me my body was wrong and that medical transition was the answer. I had top surgery and took testosterone, believing it would fix my anxiety and depression, but the relief was temporary and my underlying issues remained. I later discovered the science I was told about male and female brains was flawed, and I realized I hadn't been born wrong, I just didn't fit a stereotype. I now deeply regret the permanent changes, including my surgery and infertility, which were based on a misleading ideology. My real healing has come from therapy that addressed my autism and trauma, not from changing my body.
My detransition story
My journey into transition and then out of it was complicated and rooted in a lot of confusion. I was deeply uncomfortable during puberty, and I now believe a lot of that was because I'm autistic. I didn't understand the social rules and felt completely out of place in my own skin. This general discomfort got focused on my body, and I started to hate my breasts; they felt alien and wrong on me.
I found a lot of my information and community online. The trans communities I was in offered a clear, if not simplistic, answer: my body discomfort was because I was born in the wrong body. They presented transition as this magic solution to just feeling uncomfortable. It was a powerful form of escapism from my depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem. I started identifying as non-binary first, which felt like a less intimidating step, but the narrative always pushed me further toward the idea that I needed medical intervention to be my "authentic self."
I got top surgery. At the time, I was convinced it was the right thing to do. I was told it would solve my problems, that I was being courageous. And for a while, I did feel a sense of relief. But that relief was short-lived. The underlying issues—my autism, my difficulty connecting with people, my general anxiety—were all still there. I just had a flatter chest.
My perspective on gender itself changed drastically. I started looking into the science and realized the "male and female brain" theory I'd been sold was not supported by evidence. Studies showed that the brains of male-to-female transsexuals were still structurally male. This was a huge moment for me. It made me question the entire foundation of what I'd believed. I began to see that I hadn't been born in the wrong body; I had just been a person who didn't fit a narrow social stereotype of my sex.
I also became deeply critical of the medical procedures, especially bottom surgery. From my research and what I've read in medical studies, a "neovagina" is not a vagina. It's an inverted penis, an artificially created cavity that the body treats as a wound and tries to close. It requires lifelong dilation to keep it open. I read studies that noted frequent complications, including persistent foul odors and infections, because it's essentially creating a new environment for bacteria that doesn't exist naturally in the body. I came to see these surgeries not as life-saving treatments, but as irresponsible medical experiments with unknown long-term consequences. People, especially kids on puberty blockers, are being used as guinea pigs for procedures we simply don't know enough about.
I don't regret transitioning in the sense that it was a path I had to go down to learn these hard lessons. But I deeply regret the permanent changes I made to my body. I regret my top surgery. I am now infertile from the hormones I took, and that is a profound loss. The physical complications are a constant reminder of a choice I made based on a flawed understanding of myself and a misleading ideology.
My detransition has been lonely. When you transition, everyone cheers you on. When you detransition, you're rushed out the back door. Nobody wants to talk about it. I've benefited from therapy that wasn't just about affirming my gender identity but about digging into the root causes of my distress—my autism, my past trauma, and my poor self-image. That has been far more healing than any surgery or hormone ever was.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 14 | Started feeling intense discomfort with puberty and my developing body. |
| 17 | Found online trans communities and began identifying as non-binary. |
| 19 | Underwent top surgery. |
| 20 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 22 | Began seriously questioning my transition after researching brain sex studies. |
| 23 | Stopped taking hormones and began the process of detransition. |
| 24 | Underwent therapy focused on autism and underlying trauma, not gender affirmation. |
Top Comments by /u/Yrguiltyconscience:
Well, all I can tell you is this: Theres a paper written on the microflora in “neovaginas”. The doctors behind it enrolled 50 transpeople who have had GRS done.
And despite the fact that the study had little to do with odor, the doctors couldn’t help but note “the foul smell” from most of the neo-vaginas in the study and made a note of this: Although this was not a study criterion and therefore not scored, a foul smell of the vagina was observed in most patients.
If we take a closer look, the study further reveals that 22% had regular cases of vaginal irritation, and 23,5% had frequent episodes of bad smelling vaginal discharge.
Good for you that you lucked out and don’t have to deal with what is apparently a frequent issue.
Well, it’s not entirely untrue. It’s an inverted penis of sorts, and an artificially created cavity in the body, that the body does to close naturally.
Otherwise you wouldn’t have to dilate for the rest of your life.
A vagina is also a self cleaning organ with a unique microflora. The “neovagina” otoh can never be probably cleaned, and is a veritable science experiment in terms of microflora and bacteria.
”Gee, I wonder what would happen if you take a bunch of organisms that are used to living on the outside of the skin, and but then inside the body where they have no light and little oxygen? And add a bunch of bacteria that usually live in the colon?”
Let’s make a neo vagina and find out!
I think you’re projecting. I didn’t call it “a wound” but just pointed out what every doctor who performs these says about aftercare. That you should dilate daily for the first year or two, and should continue to dilate occasionally for the rest of your life.
Neither did I call anyone a “trannie” since it’s considered offensive, and I have no reason to insult or degrade transsexuals. Many of whom are victims, who didn’t choose their circumstances.
Despite feeling sympathy to transsexuals, I’m not going to repeat their harmful and false talking points: Such as “neovaginas are just like real vaginas”. They’re not. And the doctors creating them are guilty of medical malpractice, and creating irresponsible medical experiments.
It kinda makes sense I guess.
It has some definite benefits over the other kind: No dilation, fewer infections, fewer things that can go wrong and health problems. No smell.
Folks forget that a “neo vagina” isn’t actually a vagina. It’s an inverted penis, which men’s that you have a surgical site on your crotch for the rest of your life. Something that’s very likely to contract infections later on.
Since it’s basically kind of an open wound, it also tries to close itself naturally. The only way to prevent that is by dilation for the rest of your life. (hours a day every day for the first year.)
Or autistic people. One of the typical symptoms of autism is uncomfort or “feeling uncomfortable” in your body.
And along come transreddit, and tells them that there’s a magic solution for that if they just live their “authentic lives”.
There’s a high correlation between autism and being transgender.
There are no “male” and “female” brains.
Yes, there are small differences between male and females brains overall: The biggest difference is that males typically have brains that are 8-13% larger.
But to date, there has not been a single example of a man having a female brain or vice versa. Not one.
Furthermore, if you take a look at this study: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4987404/#!po=0.217391
MRI studies show that ICV in adult (Rametti et al., 2011b) and adolescent (Hoekzema et al., 2015) untreated homosexual MtFs is similar to male controls’. Moreover, GM, WM, and CSF volumes in homosexual MtFs do not differ from those of control males and are significantly greater than those of control females.
Translation: They took measures a MTF transsexual’s brain and found that it was mostly similar to other male brains, and there was a significant difference compared to female brains.
TLDR: Male transsexual has a male brain.
Also from the same study: It was concluded that their data did not support the notion that the nonhomosexual MtF brain was feminized.
Furthermore, if you take a look at MTF transsexuals and how they act, they typically act in a very male way, though granted, that can be caused by having been socialized as males for so long.
Welp, it’s not even really because his “medical team” were terribly negligent or incompetent.
The problem is that these people are guineapigs to medical experiments that we don’t really know the long term consequences of.
It’s not a case of: “Whoops, sorry! We ran the wrong test!”
It’s a case of: “So you been taking testosterone for decades, and now your uterus and ovaries have rotted and fused together? Oh wow, who could have thought that would happen!”
And at least Buck Angel did sign up with a trans-doctor-Frankenstein until after her puberty.
Those kids getting blockers, hormones and surgeries while they’re still children? They are going to get some really unpleasant surprises a few years down the line.
Don’t feel bad about using up resources. It’s not like you’re taking an operation away from a woman who needs it. (At worst you’re just causing a delay of a few days :) )
I know they’ve come a long way with implants these days, and solved some of the earlier problems. Some of the newer saline implants can last up to 20 years.
Anyways I hope you’ll do whatever will make you happy and able to move on. You deserve it. You have demonstrated some amazing courage.
(Like all detransitioners. Transitioning isn’t easy, but it’s met with endless encouragement and admiration. Detransitioning is even harder, but instead of public support, they’re just kinda rushed out the back entrance and nobody’s supposed to say anything.)