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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the comments provided, there are no serious red flags indicating this account is inauthentic, a bot, or not a genuine detransitioner/desister.
The user's perspective is consistent and complex, showing a clear personal journey from identifying as trans to desisting. They reference specific, believable personal experiences (e.g., being 18/19, social dynamics, a three-year period of identifying as trans, struggles with femininity, and binder use). Their language is nuanced, emotionally varied (anger, sadness, empathy, frustration), and they engage in detailed, multi-faceted discussions over a long period, which is not typical of bot behavior. Their passion and criticism align with the expected stance of someone who feels harmed by an ideology they once embraced.
About me
I started identifying as a trans man at 15 to escape the pain of female puberty and my own low self-esteem. For three years, I lived as male, believing it was the only way to be strong and be taken seriously. I realized at 18 that I could never actually change my sex and that my real issues were internalized misogyny and trauma. I’ve since detransitioned and am learning to accept myself as a woman. Now I’m building my self-esteem and finally feeling comfortable just being me.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started when I was around 15. I was an outcast, I felt really uncomfortable with my body, and I had a lot of low self-esteem and anxiety. I was deeply uncomfortable with puberty and hated my developing breasts; they made me feel sexualized and vulnerable in a way I couldn't handle. I found a lot of comfort and community online, and that's where I was influenced by gender ideology. I started identifying as non-binary, and then later as a trans man. It felt like an escape from all my problems and from the pain of being a girl. Looking back, I think a lot of it was about internalized misogyny; I felt that to be strong and to be taken seriously, I couldn't be a woman.
I socially transitioned for about three years. I used a different name and male pronouns, and I bound my chest. I never took hormones or had any surgeries, but I thought about it constantly. My trans identity felt like a drug; it was a way to avoid dealing with my real issues, like my trauma and my difficult feelings about men and sexuality. I was convinced that changing my outside would fix what was wrong on the inside.
I started to detransition when I was 18. The turning point for me was realizing that no matter what I did, I would always be female. I could change my name and my clothes, but I could never actually become male. I realized that gender ideology is built on sexist stereotypes—the idea that you need to be a man to like certain things or act a certain way. I decided that accepting myself as a female person who can do anything was a much better path than pretending to be something I'm not.
I don't believe in gender identity anymore. I think you are either male or female, and your personality and interests are just that—your personality. They don't have anything to do with your sex. I have some regrets about the time I lost and the mental energy I spent on something that wasn't real, but I don't regret transitioning because it led me to where I am now. It was a painful lesson, but I needed to go through it to understand myself.
I benefited greatly from stepping away from affirming spaces and thinking for myself. I also think seeing a non-affirming therapist to work through my underlying issues would have been really helpful, but I mostly figured things out on my own and with the support of my mom, who never fully affirmed my trans identity but always loved me.
Now, I'm learning to be comfortable as a woman. I'm straight, and I'm finally starting to understand that men are just people too, not just oppressors. I'm working on my self-esteem and trying to build a life where I can just be me, without any labels.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 15 | Started feeling intense discomfort with puberty and my female body. Hated my breasts. |
| 15 | Found community online and was influenced by gender ideology. Began identifying as non-binary. |
| 16 | Socially transitioned to identifying as a trans man. Changed my name and pronouns. |
| 16-18 | Lived as a trans man. Used a binder consistently. |
| 18 | Began to question my trans identity and the ideology behind it. |
| 18 | Realized I would always be female and that transition was not the answer. Decided to detransition. |
| 18 | Stopped using my chosen name and male pronouns. Stopped binding. |
| 18-19 | Worked on accepting myself as a female person and unpacking the internalized misogyny and trauma that led me to transition. |
| 19 | Felt more comfortable and authentic in my body than ever before. |
Top Comments by /u/Zealousideal_Fig4840:
this is a “vent” post i was expressing my frustration because i have troubles with my own femininity and seeing some people act like that made me mad, of course not everyone is like that i’m sorry, but i was just venting about some people that i have seen.
i am against medical transition for children and i believe it is not the cure even for adults, i think we need to study dysphoria more and get to the root causes of it instead of practicing experimental operations on vulnerable people. i think it’s a mental illness that hasn’t been studied as it should have been due to ideology. i am not religious but for some time after desisting i went into religious psychosis, now i identify as agnostic and see transgenderism as a religion because it basically is and has all the characteristics of one. Also i would say i’m a left-leaning leftist although there are many ‘woke’ ideas that i disagree with
personally i desisted because i realised that i will never be the opposite sex even if i trasitioned and accepting myself as i am is way much better than forcing myself to be something that i am not. i will never be male and that’s fine i can still dress how i want and do whatever i like, i think gender ideology(yep it’s a real thing) is glamourazing gender dysphoria which is a life altering condition, transsexual people cannot become the opposite sex and saying that a trans woman is a woman because she identifies as one doesn’t make sense; a woman is an adult human female and a trans woman is a biological male that decided to medically transition because of his condition. i used to believe that trans men are men and trans women are women but i don’t agree with that anymore, i don’t think trans people deserve to be hate crimed but we should acknowledge reality
i relate, and i think one of the reasons i get mad when people “offend” at trans people is because they don’t know how much unresolved trauma that person is probably going through. no one cares about the well being of trans or detrans people and that is a serious problem, many girls like myself have always been outcasts before transition so i understand them, however i do not support gender theory in any way
i mean from my personal experience i can say that i believe in science but right now there are not enough studies in this field, we don’t know enough to say if trans identities are real or not. i am pretty sure that IF being trans is a scientific reality there are not THAT MANY trans people, a lot of them are just very lost people who are finding comfort in this identity. what makes this all very complicated is the fact that when someone falls into this ideology they are not conscious of what they are doing, they do not realise what they are putting themselves into. most of the trans people that i have met irl or seen online are all mentally ill so i think that’s something to keep in mind. i think that people have lost contact with reality because if you think about it the only thing that makes a woman a woman it’s her body, this doesn’t mean that her value is only in her body what i’m trying to say is a woman can do anything a man can the only difference in she has a female body that’s it. trans people talk about how they are breaking gender roles going against society’s wishes but i think they are actually reinforcing those stereotypes and just harming themselves along the way.
because now transitioning is being presented as something that will cure any kind of discomfort not just dysphoria. the trans identity has been turned into an ideology which denies reality and biological sex and therefore mentally vulnerable people are led to think they are transgender and transitioning will solve all of their problems when it won’t
she’s just a philosopher not a scientist, honestly she can come up with whatever theory she likes but it’s only that, a theory. i feel like all the people who believe in gender ideology are trying to break stereotypes but what they’re actually doing is embracing them and she is no different. i used to admire her work because i’m really into philosophy but now i personally think she doesn’t make sense and her ‘gender performance’ theory is complete bs
you should do what makes you feel good so if you’re not sure about going on hormones you probably shouldn’t do it, your girlfriend should understand that you are doing this for yourself and tbh if she’s already with you she might not be a lesbian, if she is tho you guys will have to discuss it together but you should defend tell her that you changed your mind about your identity
same! it feels like loving being a woman i seen as a bad thing these days, like we have to not want to be ourselves in order to be powerful. i love being a woman and i love being me❤️ glad you reached that level of comfort within yourself i wish you the best ❤️
i don’t really know for sure but what could happen in my opinion is like with lobotomies, society realises we have been lied to and this is a horrible thing and people finally wake up and the masses stop supporting the ideology and realise it’s harm. however i think that unfortunately some people will never leave the ideology even if the public considers it absurd: gender ideology works like a cult so it’s very hard to leave and undo the brainwashing. more people are waking up and i’m glad for that but unfortunately i don’t think everyone will and i am so angry that this ideology is ruining so many lives