This story is from the comments by /u/ZeroTre11 that are listed below, summarised with AI.
User Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account appears authentic. There are no serious red flags indicating it is a bot or a bad-faith actor.
The user's story is highly detailed, internally consistent over time, and reflects the complex, often painful, and contradictory emotions common in the detransition/desister community. They describe a 20-year MtF transition, specific procedures (FFS), personal struggles with career and romance, and a current exploration of detransition and faith. The language is personal, emotional, and nuanced, which is difficult to fake consistently. Their passion and strong political opinions align with the expected stance of someone who feels genuinely harmed by their experience.
About me
I was a 30-year-old male, a military veteran in peak shape, when I thought transitioning would fix my depression. I spent twenty years living as female after surgery and voice training, but it only made my career, my social anxiety, and my isolation worse. I came to see that I never wanted to be trans; I just wanted to be normal and the real change I needed was spiritual, not physical. Now, I'm trying to detransition and live as a man again, full of regret for the damage it did to my life. I believe we are born male or female, and no amount of technology can change that fundamental truth.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started when I was 30 years old. I was born male and had just finished a 7-year military career; I was in peak physical shape, what some might call an "uber chad male." I thought transitioning would solve a deep depression I was feeling. I started taking hormones and spent years working on my voice, even taking a call center job to practice sounding feminine. I had facial feminization surgery and, after about ten years of hard work, I was able to pass as female very well.
I lived that way for twenty years. But it never fixed my depression. In fact, it made a lot of things worse. My career was a disaster for two decades; I couldn't maintain a job. Romance became impossible and I gave up completely out of frustration. Being in the trans community was alienating because I didn't agree with them politically, which made me feel even more isolated. My social anxiety got worse, not better. And after all that time on hormones, my body still looked male when I was naked. I never felt female enough. I always felt less than, like I was living a lie.
I came to see that the real transition I needed wasn't of the flesh, but a spiritual one. I started exploring the Christian faith as my last hope. I always hated being trans. I never wanted to be trans; I wanted to be normal. I feel like gender transition is an oversold hype train. It’s a technological, medical product that didn't exist 100 years ago, and it’s being pushed by a political ideology, mostly in America and Europe. It feels like a social contagion, especially for young people, and I've seen that most of the people detransitioning now are born female who took testosterone and then started experiencing real gender dysphoria.
I never had bottom surgery. A friend of mine did, and she shared all the horrible details with me—the constant pain, the infections, the need for more surgeries. Her suffering convinced me to never go through with it.
Now, I'm trying to detransition. It’s not easy, and I haven't fully committed to it yet, but I'm exploring it. I know I'll never be the perfect representation of a man again, but I can live with my choices. I have a lot of regrets. I regret the damage it did to my career and my chances at a family. I think it's a selfish act that destroys your life and devastates your family. If I had kids, I would have robbed them of a father.
My thoughts on gender are that we are born male or female, and there's no real escape from that. We can't force people to believe a lie. For me, this was never about being a woman; it was about being a trans woman, and that's a different truth. I think a lot of people, especially teenagers exploring a non-binary identity, are just going through youth angst and will drop it when they get saddled with normal adult life.
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 30 | Started taking hormones and began social transition from male to female. |
| 30-40 | Worked extensively on voice training, had facial feminization surgery. Eventually passed as female. |
| 50 | After 20 years living as female, began exploring detransition. Realized transition did not solve my depression and caused many other problems. |
Top Reddit Comments by /u/ZeroTre11:
I've noticed that this non-binary thing only started after the invention of social media. It's almost like, ideas spread on the internet or something. Almost like, a bunch of angsty teenagers long to be a part of something, even if that something isn't real.
Wearing clothes and cosmetics in an edgy way used to be called Punk. As in Punk Rock, it was a counter-culture identity but not confused as a gender identity. I think most of these they/thems will eventually drop it once they get a mortgage, a car payment, kids, and are saddled with normal life. For them, it's really youth angst. But made into something that it's not.
I had a friend who was a MtF who got the surgery. I got a first-hand class on all the pain and suffering she was going through. She convinced me through her experience to never do it.
Pain, infection, followed by more surgery, more pain, more risk of infection.
Most teenage girls who transition at age 16 or 17, will detransition by time they are 20 because they do not have gender dysphoria before they transitioned, but feel it once they have transitioned.
Gender Dysphoria is rare in men, and much, much rarer in women.
Most people who experience on early onset of gender dysphoria, try to fight it off. Gender transition becomes a last-ditch effort after every other attempt to deal with the issue failed. Unless they suicided out.
The gender equality ideology doesn't believe in gender dysphoria. They believe that gender is just a simple sociological construct with no biological basis. They think that if someone wants to be a man, they can be a man. If they want to be a woman, they can be a woman. At the core of it, they think that gender is all just a bunch of BS.
Well, there is a little-known scientific discipline that contradicts this ideology. It's Evolutionary Phycology. They science is pretty clear; men and woman are not just the same. Not in body, not in mind.
So, what we have here is about 1 million years of Human Evolution vs. Political Ideology that has been around for a couple of decades.
Evolution also says that if a species doesn't procreate, that species will no longer exist. Well guess what. this ideology will die off too because neutered people don't breed. So, they won't be able to pass along their stupid ideas to kids that don't exist. I suppose that is why they are going after the education system instead.
Its all going to blow up into a giant shit show.
I'm a MtF. Started taking hormones 20 years ago, starting at age 30. If you want the negative, you've come to the right place.
Gender transition is an oversold hype train. It will take you 10 years to even get halfway close to what you thought you could get in 2 years from it.
Your kids will be robbed of a Father. If you decide to do this, you will be fucking over your kids. What a mind fuck it would be to have your Dad turn into a woman/man hybrid. Gender transition is a selfish act that will destroy most of your own life, and leave your family devastated. Do you have a wife? If so your marriage will fail. If you are divorced, your kids will ghost you because you're going to make them feel awkward and messed up.
You feel a need for a change in your life and I believe you. Please consider transitioning your soul to God. Serve God, not yourself through the flesh. Trust me, you'll be much happier. Your kids will be much much happier. Your life will be so much better.
Gender transition is a technological, medical, commercial product that did not exist 100 years ago. Sex among mammals was determined 100's of millions of years ago in the evolution of life.
Expression through fashion was invented by people, 10's of thousands of years ago.
I actually have medical care at the VA. During COVID-19, I was not able to stay on top of my regular checkups and I was being under-prescribed. When I finally did go for my check-up, at the woman's clinic, my Nurse practitioner asked me point blank, "You aren't having second thoughts about transition, are you?" I kind of took that as it was something she was seeing more often. I don't get the feeling that the VA has an interest in pushing veterans one way or the other.
First of all, I doubt everyone on this board is on the same page in terms of having the same exact opinion.
Most people on here are just fighting their own battle, and are trying to get their own life straightened out. So their focus is on themselves, not some grand scheme to push a political agenda.
Personally, I'm pretty much in the same shoes you are. Been transitioned for 20 years. Want to explore de-transition, but am not having a lot of success at it to be perfectly honest.
The difference today from 20 years ago is that Transgenderism is being sold where it never was before. So there are a lot of young people who did it, that should not have. Most of whom are born female. They've taken T, and are now experiencing gender dysphoria.
He's an adult and is responsible for his decisions. Even if he has all of these other mental health issues. But from what it sounds like, he will most likely not succeed with the transition and could make his situation worse, mental health-wise.
Transgenderism has become a fad. A social contagion. But people are free to make their own mistakes. It's no reflection on you.
I started transition from uber chad male at age 30, with a MMA fighter level of fitness having come out of a 7-year military career centered on war fighting. It took maybe 10 years, facial feminization surgery and a bunch of work and I was able to pass as female very well.
20 years in, I'm tossing it all away because it didn't solve my depression and I can't keep reinforcing a failed plan. I wished I would have quit sooner. I know I'll never be the perfect representation of a man again, but I can live with my life choices because, I found that the real transition I needed was spiritual. Not of the flesh.