You seem pretty self-aware so here are a few things

• AGP’s don’t pass. HSTS’s like Blaire White and Shape Shifter can pass with a lot of work, but that’s because HSTS’s are feminine both physically and mentally.

• your dating pool will be chasers who will only provide a one night stand, and other AGP’s. The only viable path for AGP’s to date a woman is to marry her as a man and then transition and hope she sticks around (which isn’t very ethical)

• the attempt to transition and come as close to posing as possible will consume virtually all of your mental energy and your career and relationships will suffer. The only exception seems to be to become mega rich before you transition and then coast on past accomplishments.

I noticed that you did not say anything about porn in your post. Most AGP’s are porn addicts in that they can’t stop using sissy/cuckold/femdom porn. I would start by quitting porn.

I’m old enough to be able to say that moist of the good things I’ve done in my life took ten years of failure before they clicked. Quitting porn took ten years of failure. Being a non-slacker at work took closer to twenty years. Intermittent fasting for weight loss took ten years.

I checked your profile. You have a bunch of similar posts to r/detrans even while you are active in the trans subs so I think you’re just trolling. But I’ll give you a serious answer.

• You’re never going to pass. AGP’s never pass.
• Your dating pool is one night stands for chasers and T4T’s. The only trans women who date cis women are older men who married and had kids before transitioning. And maybe a few unicorns.
• the early pioneers like Sweden and Denmark no longer follow the affirming model.
• the trans bubble elsewhere is also on the path to bursting. It’s flown under the radar until now because there were almost no trans people. But now trans people are everywhere and people are learning about it. First it will be the conservatives and then everyone. Being a trans woman will be like carrying a giant sign that says “I love sissy porn”.
• what’s going to happen to a generation of aging trans women in T4T relationships when the progressive parties drop trans from their agenda and restore female spaces to being female only? The left is going to pretend that they were gender critical radfems all along. You won’t be allowed in female spaces. You won’t be allowed in female groups. You won’t be allowed in lesbian groups because lesbians will go back to being females who love females.

You have a chance to escape. Too bad you won’t take it.

Don’t worry, the left is going to pretend they were radfem terfs all along. “Nothing to see here”, they’ll say as they sweep Judith Butler under the rug. I suspect the smart people are already creating their alibis. Lia Thomas was when the fact that “trans rights = no rights for women” went mainstream. It’s only been six months since then. It’s only going to become more and more high profile

Edit: textbook example from just a couple days ago here

I'm a (politically liberal) Christian and I'll give a different take than the "exchange one religion for another". Christianity gives a vision of human flourishing that is at least to some degree anchored in the Bible. So it doesn't change that much from century to century. But secular ideologies can wander pretty much anywhere - these days to transhumanism and the belief that sex is malleable and can be changed. So secular visions of human flourishing are experimental and Christianity's is tried-and-true.

Christianity's vision can be confining so people look for secular alternatives, but when those alternatives don't produce a true human flourishing people will return, much like the prodigal son.

AGP males don’t detrans very often and they used to be the most common type. By contrast, the most common trans profile these days is a teenage female and they are almost certainly transitioning for the same reason teenage girls in the past used to go to pro-Annie websites. I do think modern detrans is very different.

Yup. That is pure AGP. I’m dating myself but I remember telling my girlfriend in college that I’d transition if I could look like Christy Turlington but not to look like an ugly mannish woman.

What would a woman do if she suddenly woke up in a man’s body? Would she feel dysphoria? Absolutely. But would she watch sissy porn and masturbate into women’s underwear? I doubt it.

Those aren’t really GC arguments. I’m only mostly GC and not fully onboard, but I’d say they are along these lines:

• if you’re male and want to wear a dress or be effeminate, feel free. You don’t have to take hormones or mutilate your body. See also: Prince and David Bowie.

• if you’re female you can be a butch lesbian. Being a girly girl with painted nails and spinny skirts is not what it means to be a woman. A butch lesbian is every bit as much of a woman as Kim Kardashian.

The GC method expands gender roles for both sexes. By contrast, gender ideology narrows gender roles. You get things like:

• “I always hated dolls and dresses but liked catching snakes and playing sports so that’s how I knew I was a trans man”

• “I always liked princesses as a child so that’s how I knew I was a trans woman”

The trans movement has recreated 1950’s stereotypes of what it means to be a man and a woman. The GC movement is trying to abolish these stereotypes.

I always felt like it made me worthless, like if I had been a girl I would've had friends and people would like me. (Being neutotypical probably would've been a more effective solution.)

If you swap girl with boy, that would describe a lot of the detrans women here.

Back in 2000 The Atlantic had an article about amputation for bodily integrity disorder and transgender about precisely that. I don’t think the article could possibly be written today.

For FTM we do know the long term consequences of HRT and they are pretty awful. Here is an article about the East German female athletes who were given testosterone in the 1970’s.